Am I ugly?

Post Reply New Topic

bro. the only 'problem' with you is how you look at yourself. you compare yourself to others entirely too much.

take a step back, and stop re-enforcing your constant plunges into self-pitty with 'NO IM NOT GOING TO THINK ABOUT THIS' every SINGLE TIME it happens.

you have GOT to stop that line of thinking because it is destroying you. every time you think 'im not good enough' or 'im worthless' or anything like that you have to tell your brain 'im not going to think about this' so you dont constantly re-build your self-loathing (because this pushes you further and further into the darkness that you so obviously, and desperately want to escape).

people need to bathe. they also need to be able to change their clothes daily, and wear clean clothes. hygiene is important.

dont give anyone nonsense like 'i cant do it' because YOU CAN. you just CHOOSE NOT TO or make EXCUSES. stop with the excuses and DO IT. excuses will get you no where, much like how telling yourself you are worthless does the opposite of whats ideal for any person in the entire world. you're destroying your chances before they can even arise.

if you want me to give you some step by step instructions on how to bathe, i'll be glad to do that, just PM me. im sure you know how to put on clothes, its just a matter of doing it. washing clothes might be something you'd need to work on, however.

i'd like to refer you to a website: joesgoals.com

this website lets you build a 'goals sheet' (for free) to check which things you've done in a day. at the end of the day, when you complete your goals, you'll feel good about yourself. keep doing them, even if you dont want to, and dont make excuses for not doing things because in the end, you are only hurting yourself and others around you who dont want you to feel this pain that you are in.

stop giving up on yourself, and start TRYING. do your BEST all the time, and im sure your quality of life will improve. someday it might even meet your standards.

"If you saw me as a random person in public, you'd probably point, giggle, and laugh at me with your friends, because of how my face looks and how I dress."

no. the only people doing this are despicable people who you shouldnt listen to in the first place. im sorry if people have laughed at you before. i think thats happened to everyone at some time or another, and its never fun. its hard, but you have to not care about what others think of you. what you think about YOURSELF is the ONLY important thing.

to the OP-
my dear MR20, would you rather look like this-

when i was your age this was me. AFAIC, it's a matter of 6 or one-half-dozen of the other. IOW if i looked more like you when i was a 20-something army recruit [instead of my gangly dweebish self] i likely would have been the recipient of a bit more respect. people therein who looked like you were often my bosses, the sergeants and such way above my buck private self. appearance-wise you wouldn't have looked out of place. so be more appreciative of the way you look, it could be much much much worse. IMHO you look loads better than these poor folks-

god made all kinds, so if i'm not like brad pitt and you're not like billy-dee, so the hell what? we all are the way god made us, and since we ARE made by god, we each need to take better care of ourselves as best we can. part of that is to stop wanting people to be mean to you by inviting abuse [in the name of "honesty" or whatever] on forums such as this one. you see yourself as much worse than you are, and dwelling upon your pain in the way you are only invites more of the same pain, that is the universal law of "like begets like." so please STOP IT
concentrate your attentions instead on the parts of you that you CAN LIKE, even if it may take effort, as it did with me. if i could learn to love me, you can learn to love you, and you SHOULD!

Your not my type, so I won't say anything.

But MR20 if say your slow and dropped out the 9th grade.

How come you can write so well. Because what I seen from your writing your can get somewere. Me being a good grade college student, however am not good at spelling and writing

No I don't think you're ugly but your face looks off like it's weird looking. I don't know how to describe.


PS I would tell you what you want to hear but I am afraid it be taken as a personal attack even if I wouldn't mean what I said and it was just to make you feel better.

You're not particularly bad-looking, no. From how you describe yourself I'd have assumed you must be deformed or something, but no, you're not ugly.

No, you're not ugly.

Just sweep your hair more often.

I don't think you are ugly but you are not my type. I am engaged and getting married.

Just answer the question of the thread, folks.

Patronizing does not work at this level, folks, you still can't realize that.