Why is cheating on someone in a relationship wrong?

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I have a knack for figuring out when two people (other than myself) are having a misunderstanding that they don't even realize. I do it all the time irl.

As long as adults are consenting and in agreement, then there all kinds of relationship possibilities out there. Myself, I prefer monogamy. I cannot deal with more than one partner, and that is that. I like the slow building of intimacy and love with just one partner. It would be weird to have sex with more than one person. It just isn't my thing. As far as cheating goes, that is a deal breaker for me. It makes the whole relationship one huge lie.

but my point is why is it a dealbreaker. what was the deal in the first place. why is it a contract in exclusion of all other deals. and i don't understand why people get all emotional over it when it happens.

Because if you both get into a relationship with the understanding it's supposed to be monogamous and then cheat,you are basically betraying the trust of your partner.If you are in such a commitment and feel like cheating you should break up with your current partner,and find someone who's willing to have an open relationship.Cheating breaks up families,friends,churches etc,there is no excuse to hurt others when there is an easy alternative.

Yeah, but could you spell your argument?

I knew ichin was missunderstanding what grisha said, and aparently you are misunderstanding my intentions to tell her not to be so agressive to someone just stating his own personal opinion about being called an idiot

but if you made sure all the partners didn't have aids it would be ok.

Anybody else think the term "cheating" sounds really funny when used in this context? I'm embarrassed to say it actually.

aspie48, the reason people like monogamy is because they want to share their strong feelings and emotions with one person giving the same back at them. Polyamory while ok for some is not ok for most because it takes away what many of them find about a relationship.

I'll tell you you what. You invest allot of time and energy into a relationship you think is mono, then find out it's not. Then see how you feel. I think you'll have an answer. It's called betrayal!

but why do people feel betrayed. unless you gave away secrets that the other person told to a third person its not betrayal.

I don't look down on polygamy or anything as long as all parties are open to it.
It's very possible for 1 man to be in love with 2 women,or vice versa.

But the act of cheating in a monogamous commitment just seems to defeat the whole purpose,and make the entire relationship a lie.And casual sex with prostitutes or other strangers is ok if that's someones thing.Not really something I would do much of though since such relationships are almost always devoid of the true affection and intimacy I crave.I would probably be willing to to go in between those two options and have a 'friends with benefits' relationship should my close girl friends ever be up for it.Wouldn't be a true relationship or anything but the affection we had for each other would be there at least.

Are you serious?
When you commit to an agreement (relationship or not) and then lie and do otherwise behind the other persons back that is called betrayal.
No...telling your partners secrets to someone else is just more betrayal on top of the initial cheating.

Oh, just stay single...

That's ignorance to believe people would be truthful about their Hiv status!! !! If people didn't lie, do you think it would be spreading as fast! People lie about being Hiv positive because they still want sex. Additionally, it takes up to a year to know for sure if someone is Hiv negative. It keeps on mutating.

I went on an AIDS website that told a story about a woman in a marriage who tested positive for hiv despite being faithful. Prostitutes are common among white males and many people are ignorant that this occurs in our society.

About the emotional aspect, its an evolutionary learned behavior to up th chances of kids' survival. It makes sense that we would want the emotion to be negative so that each parent would be less likely to leave the child and the other parent behind. Emotions prevent partners from.cheating so they know who the parent is and ensure their genes are being spread.

Besides the biological aspects and health risks, I also think we are a polygamous society. I think it doesn't make sense that these emotions exist when it rarely does prevent cheating from occurring!

ok well i think i see the point now.