Aspies should not date.

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"Shouldn't" is kind of moot if it simply isn't happening. There is no should or should not. There is only do or do not.

...and then there's never getting asked in the first place, but that's something else entirely...but that's what makes "shouldn't" moot...

Not another aspie basher. Oh wait..... I think its the same one......

I am by myself by choice. Dating and friends are way overrated.

It's better for me to not want friends. They would just expect me to leave the house to do things I don't want to do that cost me money that I don't have and maybe even get me in trouble doing bad and dangerous things.

I'm sure I'm echoing what everyone else is saying, but yes, while I am absolutely terrible at dating, I/asperger's shouldn't shelter ourselves because of a disability. It's not like someone is completely incapable of dating or being social just because of autism.

PM, your picture rocks! And I agree, much of dating is overrated. I'm just glad I've really only had to do it once through, as I ended up marrying my first boyfriend. I don't know what I would have done otherwise...

Whatever, how bought I just find someone equally weird and messed up in the head to be alone with? Screw being lonely all the time just because I have an odd way of socializing.

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Pfffft. I have great social skills, when I take the time to think about what I'm doing.

I do agree that I should be by myself, though. Just not for the reason you mentioned.

Why have you lot been feeding such an obvious troll for two pages?

Very true.

I agree with the topic title, but disagree with your post.

Aspies should not date. Aspies are terrible at it due to social awkwardness. There's an almost zero chance of catching someone's attention in an uncomfortable 30-60 minute date.

Instead try meeting people in group situations. There are groups and meet-ups for whatever topics interest you. Join them and make some new friends. FRIENDS!

Eventually an equally awkward person will pop out of the crowd and slowly become something more than a friend.

That's how you should start relationships. The dating in the classic sense; going out with a complete stranger, one-on-one, with a mutual expectation of a relationship; that is not going to work. I imagine just finding someone to go on ONE date is hard enough.

Join clubs and groups. Make friends. Go do nerdy things together.

Try and stop me

Bulls***. Whoever told you this is nothing better than a common troll who has nothing going for him/her in his/her life. Don't listen to whoever told you that

No, they shouldn't date because they'll end up having different ways of dealing with stress and when one goes through a major stress in their life and has a few meltdowns (a few minor, and one major) then the other one will be scared off and the relationship will never be the same. Then they will never meet someone else they are happy with and will always miss the other person's kiss and will be depressed.

That's a bunch of bullocks.

It's like saying that I shouldn't talk to hippies, because I'm a Mod. It makes no sense at all.