Wolfheart wrote:
deconstruction wrote:
Also, if a guy is into gym and working out, it's often the sign he wants his girl to be the same way, and I'm not into it and I don't want to be judged by it. So I think one of the reasons I dislike the 6 pack guys is that they signalize they are into physical appearance and working out a lot, and I'm all for eating chocolate while watching movies. (The two aren't mutually exclusive, I know).
Through my teen years, I've gone from being 140 to 200lbs+ at 6'3 with visible abs and muscularity, I was very thin and had no muscularity before I started working out, I'd say that what really drove me to work out was being self conscious and insecure and I noticed it more so than others, it also helped me to connect to other males who were interested in sports and weightlifting and form friendships. If you're a male, working out can definitely be beneficial mentally and build confidence in that aspect, I also find it to a be a positive outlet and help me mentally so it has benefited me in many ways.
I love how figure skating has changed things for the better with me. I went from 215 pounds to 180s in like 6 months. Also, I recently started lifting to improve my skating, and that's been sweet, too. Just some basic powerlifting stuff, and I love it. It gives you so much better power for skating, but even just in daily life, carrying groceries, lifting boxes, all that. Oddly, what's been sorta cool, I do pretty much no arm isolation workouts (occasionally I'll use an arm bike, but that's very occasional) and my arms have gotten to be much better looking, just doing deadlifts and stuff.
Socially, ice skating is neat, you meet lots of girls, actually. Still, I'm not really elite enough to really like, "bother" lots of the figure skating girls, and I'll likely not be in that position for a while, so I usually don't talk to them unless they speak to me. But, you meet people and whatnot. It's cool. At the gym, I can't say I've made super meaningful social connections or anything, but people are relatively nice there, give me good advice, all that. I probably appear to be really weird, as I show up in jeans and do deadlifts and clean and jerks then play around on a slideboard. I don't really show up looking the part. But yeah, gym people are usually pretty cool and respectful and stuff. I remember one guy offered to be my workout partner, cuz I knew him from when he worked at a grocery store. It never worked out, but yeah, people are relatively friendly at gyms, really.