Aspie males

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Yeah, my aspie friends are all modest, honest, intelligent, weird, interesting and they all have their own unique interests. They're so much fun to hang out with. My boyfriend is a quiet aspie and i'm trying to get him out of his shell, but he's such a sweetheart and very loyal to me.

So when you're going to bite my neck? I am waiting.

I've never dated an Aspie (as far as I know), but given my track record with NTs, it certainly couldn't hurt to give it a shot.

Ok, seriously now....

I think this desire of 'dating only Aspies" that some members have on this forum (like the OP) is a matter of a fantasy.

And nothing more.

A fantasy? So dating NTs would be reality? Makes no sense, and NO I will not bite you LOL

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my boyfriend is the first diagnosed aspie i have dated, but i do suspect that a couple of my ex-boyfriends from way, way back were aspies too. looking back, i don't have a special preference for either aspies or NTs overall, but with my boyfriend it's very nice to know that he really understands my quirks and gives me space to be me.

he is fascinating to talk to as his reactions to things are never obvious or predictable, like he surprises me with his open-mindedness. he takes people at face value and is forgiving and caring in a way that totally floors me. he is calm and patient and thoughtful. to be honest i don't know if i could pinpoint specific things that are specifically aspie characteristics though.


EDIT: he isn't going to be happy with me for talking about him like that (sorry!). i also realised that i rambled with no conclusions. what was the topic again? hmmmm... "Aspie males"... yep, they can be awesome!

I think since I have become more "social" it would be hard for me to find an "Aspie" guy. My old pre-college self would have found an easier time.

People are people. My "twin" would be sociable.

This.

As far as quirks go that's not an aspie trait. My Dad has aspergers and is not quirky, my mum is NT and is quirky. I am aspergers and quirky. My sister is NT and not quirky. It varies.

Those aren't really aspie traits :/ I know more Nts with those traits.

The main aspie traits are social imparement and obsession.

Loyalty, kindness, respect and modesty certainly are NOT aspie traits.

I agree, I want someone on the spectrum because I feel that I can trust them and trust is apart of what I think takes to love someone.

Not all people on the spectrum have emotional blindness but I certainly do and it is a symptom, I can't honestly say that every single person on the spectrum likes stability, some people do, some people don't, it's all down to preference. You can't take two people on the spectrum and expect them to bond perfectly , I've never dated a girl on the spectrum but I've befriended girls on the spectrum, online and in real life and I can say that we were individuals and shared different perspectives.

There can be a mutual understanding but that's not to say all people on the spectrum are honest, relate to each other and can live in perfect harmony, that's down to personal character and preference regardless of whether a person is on the spectrum or not. For instance, I'm extremely neat and some people on the spectrum may be untidy. As a few female posters have posted, they prefer someone who isn't on the spectrum to translate for them and in that sense perhaps they feel protected or able to cope with emotional blindness better, it's really subjective and down to preference.



Again, depends on the character and intentions of the other person, regardless of whether they are on the spectrum or not. I'm not trying to put a downer on this topic or be cynical, I'm simply saying there's more to someone than a label.

Yes, it usually remains a fantasy because how many aspies in reality you would meet? Aspies are so scattered over the globe.

You're living among NT, so yea, trying to date them is closer to the reality.



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Last edited by The_Face_of_Boo on 19 Nov 2011, 2:40 pm, edited 1 time in total.

yeah it definitely depends. and yeah thats true too.

That's true, according to statistics, only around half a million people in the UK are diagnosed to be on the spectrum. 470,727 would be a fairly reliable estimate of the total population of the UK that has Asperger's Syndrome, that's not much considering the UK has a population of 62 million people and I've only met a couple of people with AS in real life.