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21 Dec 2011, 7:49 pm

My problem is I tend to fall in love with friends and if someone is particularly nice to me I start thinking they're interested in me. It's like a short circuit in my brain and I have to consciously talk my way through it. :roll:



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21 Dec 2011, 8:30 pm

i used to think it was quick but that was probably limerence, (i only discovered that the other day from a post on here) but real love probably at least 5 months and it has definitely happened once maybe twice. I guess it is a really hard thing to define



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22 Dec 2011, 1:02 am

I only fall in love after being around someone for a long time, anywhere from a month to several years. But when it finally does happen, it happens almost instantaneously.



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22 Dec 2011, 1:45 am

From my experience I tend to get obsessed with people and dedicate myself to them until they eventually decide to move on. I've been told before that I don't have enough self-respect so I tend to fall hard for the first person that shows me the slightest bit of affection..which I think is probably true. I know that I do get really attached to people who, I dunno, are willing to put up with me?

Is that pathetic? :cry:



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22 Dec 2011, 1:56 am

VivianMorrigan wrote:
From my experience I tend to get obsessed with people and dedicate myself to them until they eventually decide to move on. I've been told before that I don't have enough self-respect so I tend to fall hard for the first person that shows me the slightest bit of affection..which I think is probably true. I know that I do get really attached to people who, I dunno, are willing to put up with me?

Is that pathetic? :cry:


It's not.


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22 Dec 2011, 2:32 am

*smiles weakly* Thank you. I wish I could convince myself of that...I often feel pretty pathetic for the relationships I end up falling into because of my lowered sense of self worth.



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22 Dec 2011, 2:41 am

sunshower wrote:
VivianMorrigan wrote:
From my experience I tend to get obsessed with people and dedicate myself to them until they eventually decide to move on. I've been told before that I don't have enough self-respect so I tend to fall hard for the first person that shows me the slightest bit of affection..which I think is probably true. I know that I do get really attached to people who, I dunno, are willing to put up with me?

Is that pathetic? :cry:


It's not.

A couple people used the term "lost puppy syndrome" with me because of that


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22 Dec 2011, 2:49 am

'Lost puppy syndrome', I like the sound of that...seems...accurate, for me I mean. I've got that to a pretty large degree considering I grew up in the system. Really, its a wonder I've managed to have any relationships at all >_>



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22 Dec 2011, 10:43 pm

OneStepBeyond wrote:
only if i want to
and why would i


Waaait a minute, you think you're invincible, huh? You don't think love can blindside you. Heh... you wait.



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23 Dec 2011, 11:02 am

CaptainTrips222 wrote:
OneStepBeyond wrote:
only if i want to
and why would i


Waaait a minute, you think you're invincible, huh? You don't think love can blindside you. Heh... you wait.


wait for what mr.trips



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23 Dec 2011, 12:11 pm

"love" is a hole, and i walk very carefully around it.



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23 Dec 2011, 12:36 pm

b9 wrote:
"love" is a hole, and i walk very carefully around it.

don't lie, you fell in the hole and are trapped



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24 Dec 2011, 8:32 am

OneStepBeyond wrote:
b9 wrote:
"love" is a hole, and i walk very carefully around it.

don't lie, you fell in the hole and are trapped


the hole is not big enough for me to fall into. it is big enough to upset my balance if one of my tracks rolls over it, and then i may fall to the ground, and break my bubble head into a million pieces.

if it is filled up with gravel and then topped with a steam rolled bitumen surface, i will not have to agonize about how to step around it.



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24 Dec 2011, 11:10 am

VivianMorrigan wrote:
'Lost puppy syndrome', I like the sound of that...seems...accurate, for me I mean. I've got that to a pretty large degree considering I grew up in the system. Really, its a wonder I've managed to have any relationships at all >_>


How do you think this effects things?


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24 Dec 2011, 11:14 am

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Asp-Z is right again. I assume that since some of us haven't had the best luck with dating we get attached quickly because we assume we won't come across the same opportunity again.


Very true. I used to be guilty of this myself.



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24 Dec 2011, 11:15 am

I think that a lot of the time most of us (AS) have a problem because we recognise patterns VERY quickly. We tend to know in a matter of moments what it takes NTs hours to figure out at times. relationships are no different. However, knowing before the other person knows can put us in a state of either Tipping our hand, and making the other person feel encroached upon, or pressured because we cant wait for them to realise what we already know, that the two ppl in question are a great match! (YES THIS IS SEMI FACETIOUS - but not entirely- just please no rhetoricians on Xmas eve picking nits)


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