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Have you experienced this in your life?
Yes 43%  43%  [ 6 ]
No 57%  57%  [ 8 ]
Total votes : 14

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23 Dec 2011, 12:41 pm

Who_Am_I wrote:
They don't get sick of me or bored with me; they just don't get close enough to be able to actually fall for me.
A fair few manage to know just enough to be infatuated and think they're falling for me, which I guess is understandable: I'm smart, talented, apparently good-looking, witty when I can remember how to talk, and apparently good social graces are easy to mistake for actually caring. :roll:
However, all these people have seen is my social mask; they've never spoken more than a sentence to me underneath it.
Only once you've spoken to me rather than the social persona, and done so at length, and seen my flaws as well as my good points, will I be willing to credit your feelings as actual love.

So yes after all that... no I haven't experienced it.
I don't see the appeal of becoming new people together with someone; I'm quite fine with who I am, and if I love someone I don't want them to change as I like who they are already.


This describes me exactly. :?



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23 Dec 2011, 1:05 pm

I am the one that leaves. However, I am now married to a wonderful man who is just as aspie and independent-minded as I am. I always dated neurotypicals before because as a person with really no interest in sex, or games, or the chase I just thought that a nice nuerotypical is what I should want. I am fiercely and stubbornly independent, but my relationship is better for it this time. We have our own rooms, our own interests, our own space, but a similar sense of honesty, justice and humor! I get bored with shallow neurotypicals who can't hold an interesting conversation longer than 30 seconds. 8)


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23 Dec 2011, 3:32 pm

Gnatterfly:
"I am the one that leaves. However, I am now married to a wonderful man who is just as aspie and independent-minded as I am. I always dated neurotypicals before because as a person with really no interest in sex, or games, or the chase I just thought that a nice nuerotypical is what I should want. I am fiercely and stubbornly independent, but my relationship is better for it this time. We have our own rooms, our own interests, our own space, but a similar sense of honesty, justice and humor! I get bored with shallow neurotypicals who can't hold an interesting conversation longer than 30 seconds. "

I envy you Gnatterfly!


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23 Dec 2011, 5:24 pm

gnatterfly wrote:
I am the one that leaves. However, I am now married to a wonderful man who is just as aspie and independent-minded as I am. I always dated neurotypicals before because as a person with really no interest in sex, or games, or the chase I just thought that a nice nuerotypical is what I should want. I am fiercely and stubbornly independent, but my relationship is better for it this time. We have our own rooms, our own interests, our own space, but a similar sense of honesty, justice and humor! I get bored with shallow neurotypicals who can't hold an interesting conversation longer than 30 seconds. 8)

Stuff in bold is one of the bigger problems I have with trying to get in relationships with NTs but stuff you mentioned about independence is like the polar opposite of me; I think the perfect ideal for me would be an Aspie who's codependent


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23 Dec 2011, 11:10 pm

gnatterfly wrote:
I am the one that leaves. >>>>>>>>>> I get bored with shallow neurotypicals who can't hold an interesting conversation longer than 30 seconds. 8)

^^^^^^
this


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24 Dec 2011, 5:18 am

gadge wrote:
gnatterfly wrote:
I am the one that leaves. >>>>>>>>>> I get bored with shallow neurotypicals who can't hold an interesting conversation longer than 30 seconds. 8)

^^^^^^
this


Seriously.


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