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Less exposure to them. Wait. Hope. Eat chocolate.

maybe just let your heart grow to bigger proportions so you can fit a new person into it. the old flame can just schooch over so someone else can have some space too.

it's possible (and even necessary) to accept that you may not ever have a relationship with someone, but that doesn't mean you have to stop loving them. i tend to think that it's not the love itself that makes a person pine on and on instead of moving ahead; i think it's the burning desire to be together with that person. it's possible to love someone and let go of that desire, and then the problem solves itself.

Thank you, b9, for your careful answer to my question. I feel that I have intruded in some way by asking what I did and apologise if you or the OP feel that I have. I appreciate the trouble you took. I feel like I'm on the edge of understanding something but it will take some time to percolate. Happy New Year.

nono not at all, it was an interesting question and an interesting answer from b9 as always

everyones replies have been thought-provoking and given me some food for thought

I am really curious you would want to fall out of love with someone if they have not done anything wrong. Or is it that you are trying to analyze a situation that has already happened, and that you are finding hard to understand?

A friend asked me a similar question about two months ago. His actual question was: "How can I not fall for anyone?" He asked that to me because I have never fallen in love to this day. In that aspect, I think I am like b9, at least from what he described, because I think I will only like someone if that person likes me first. I never really thjought about it this way, but his conclusion seems to apply to me as well.

Anyway, my reply to my friend was that I have no control over my inability to fall in love. It is simply the way I am. Also, I am not as uninterested in relationships as it seems: I simply avoid thinking too much about them because, when I think about it, I cannot see a reason for someone to like me and I feel depressed about it.

woah who mentioned love

I assumed you would not ask a question about skydiving in this subforum.

I knew I missed a step...

that face is so rude and arrogant
it's the love and dating forum, not the love love love forum

If I am taken with a woman but feel that ultimately it would be detrimental to both of us in some way to become intimate then I just accept this knowledge and move on with my life. Much simpler than having love involved

If love isn't involved, then I don't understand the question.

I think she means shes fallen in "like" with someone, who she shouldn't, perhaps....?

If it's just like, then I don't have any suggestions. I've never had a problem in this department.

I am not sure if you are joking or not. I know I look unapproachable, but I do not see how I was being rude and arrogant in my previous post.

Anyway, what is love? I think it is only a word to describe either a very strong affection for someone (i.e. loving your parents) or a romantic/sexual one. It seems no one is capable of making up their minds about it, kind of like the definition of intelligence.

Pretty sure she was talking about your use of this --->