Looking for feedback--OKCupid profile

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I agree with this, I know you want to narrow down your ideal match but you have got a better chance of creating a diverse profile and finding out if you are compatible on the first date. If you are too specific about something, it will look like you are only looking to attract a certain type of girl which could come across as narrow minded.

Exactly. Also, people can be incredibly narrow minded, with huge lists of "dealbreakers" that they'll instantly disqualify you for, even if you'd have been perfect together if you actually met. There is some real strategy involved in figuring out what a potential date NEEDS to know about you vs things it won't kill them to learn after they get to know you. This ties into my personal position on AS disclosure as well, that's something someone needs to know when you move from dating to commitment, not before they even meet you.

What would be the basics to leave on there?

I deleted my account.

Dating is futile, and I am nobody's type. I am the type of person that someone just settles for when they can't get anyone else.

don't be daft
sorry about my 'advice' yesterday, i was tipsy

By the way..I know one excellent ABSOLUTELY FREE dating site- www.datehookup.com
And I don't work 4 them

If your profile is anything to go by, you are just about as mistaken as can be. And even if it was just a pack of lies (which it wasn't, anyone could see that), there is nobody on the planet that is nobody's type. You stay in the game and put yourself out there as many ways you can, IRL as well as online, meanwhile keep living your life in ways you love (this part most important of all), and something will happen. Not overnight, but it will happen. It always does.

Very sorry if anything in my earlier post has fed into your sense of discouragement.

Are you getting help with the depression thing?

I thought your profile was well written, it just needed some tweaks (like people said). Just keep trying! I don't know if it's just the people in my area or because of the requirements or something, but I see a lot of younger guys on the site. (So I would assume girls too?) People who can't afford to pay for a dating profile/under 25. Maybe when you get a job, you'll have more luck with eharmony/match?

Can I say that I'm surprised about the amount of attention to my newly made account (late Dec 31). I admit I'm Autistic and don't want sex until I find the right guy on my profile, because I refuse to keep those a secret from potenital partners. And my picture is lame Then again, the guys aren't like supermodels, but what I find personally hot/cute I talked about it in a frank but light way, maybe that helped? Probably the boob reference helped, but then again, I never said I was going to be a prude, just a virgin until I get their trust. Yeah, my body isn't going to accept no contact, and no guy would either

*pokes profile link*

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/ebec19

I highly doubt that second part Tim, you've got genuine niceness going for you and that's a rare and desirable trait for anyone.

I would start a new profile for one and only one reason; it looked like you used your full real name as your username, and it's best to create a bit of a firewall there. Try and isolate your dating profile from your other online activities, like I mentioned people can be intensely narrow minded, and getting to know you in detail is what the date is for.

It seems like I can't meet anyone's standards on those sites, they seem to be very specific about what they want.

On top of that, I sometimes have trouble understanding nonverbal social cues, which could hamper a relationship with an NT. Yet female spectrumites are nearly impossible to find, and most of the ones who are single are also asexual.

Even if I didn't have trouble with said cues, where would I meet people IRL? I don't go to bars or clubs, there is nobody in my age group at my church, and I have already graduated from college so that is also out of the question.

Good to see you picking yourself up from that moment of discouragement, Tim_Tex. Put your profile back online. People are better at reading than writing. If they come across as judgmental and picky in their profiles, they might not be in real life. Give them a chance to read yours, and to take a chance on contacting you.

Have you noticed, for example, that the last three posts on this thread are from women, all of whom gave really positive reviews of your profile, huh? You don't think that could be telling you something, do you ... like if some women like your profile, then others might as well? You've nothing to lose by putting it out there.


I've heard it said - with more than a grain of truth, I think - that all NT men are AS when it comes to matters of the heart. You are probably not as far behind the game as you think. And you probably make up for it handsomely by your honesty and integrity.


Nobody can tell you where you will meet your SO. That's why it is important to get on with living your life, and loving the life you live, out in the real world. It has a way of happening where and when you least expect it.