I need to stop the vicious cycle!! !

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yeah you need to get you self-confident up right away what ever it is if in general or something do not contain your self at all as for clingy thing well maybe some man do not like it I have no knowloge on it have no girl but I would not mind one that dose that anyway lol

I think you would be better with someone that values constant affection and intimacy like Nick, you can't really change your personality so you need to start dating people you are more compatible with in terms of fulfilling your emotional and physical needs.

No, I don't like clingy guys! I'm sorry, I just get irritated and suffocated. It's just at the beginning when I feel like I need an answer or the relationship label. I need to learn to relax and be more mature. I've learned a lot from my last relationship and I know that it's good for both people in the relationship to have their own thing going on and not always be thinking about each other or wanting to smother each other. I realize that that's how a lot of relationships probably are in the beginning, but it's not good to make yourself too available. I love to cuddle though, but smothering...no thanks. D:

yeah you need to get your self-confidences up straight away whatever it is if in general or something do not contain your self at all as for the clingy thing well maybe some men do not like it I have no knowloge on it have no girl but I wouldn't mind one that dose it to me anyway lol by the way cannot edit my reply so there for am reposting it cause lack of correct grammar

Not to pile on, and I can't claim to be Mr relationship expert, but after having been on both sides of this issue I think I can safely say clingy-ness is definitely a drag. I don't care how in love two people are; they still have to live their own lives.

When I was clingy I think I was just lost and lonely. When I improved my self esteem and found some more concrete goals things got a lot better. I think the worst thing you can do to a person you love is use your aspie powers of focus/analysis (let alone obsession). Probably one of the most annoying things I ever did.

People with their own life don't cling, and they're a lot easier to get along with.

Hopefully this made sense.

for the record "self-confidences " is not a cure to clingy behavior
my best friend is one of the most confident people i know and shes clingy to anything with a heartbeat

i kind of hate clingy behavior but know not everyone does, there are actualy quite a few long running couples i know which both people in the relationship are very clingy to one another and are very happy

ive allways viewed clingyness as something that can be good in moderation, it can be cute if a women does it occasionally, but all the time is too much and then its draining

and i just wanted to point this out but i find that women who focus so hard on trying not to come off as a clingy person, i tend to lose interest in them very quickly and i know im not only guy who does, and usualy its because they become so focus on trying to not be clingy that they stop being engaging all togather

so that just something to keep in mind for all those guys and gals out there trying to control their clingy behavior, sometimes its just best to be yourself clingy or not