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08 Jan 2012, 4:31 am

Hi TeaEarlGreyHot, Maybe if you talk about it. It might help.


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08 Jan 2012, 2:30 pm

Sorry, I won't talk about it. It's a privacy thing.


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08 Jan 2012, 2:30 pm

auntblabby wrote:
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ok, long term relationship/serious bf/gf/friends with benefits.


Much better. :lol:


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08 Jan 2012, 5:24 pm

Idk I've just suffered through it when I couldn't find a better way. :?
Though that's probly not the best idea...


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12 Jan 2012, 3:50 pm

[quote="cinbad"]Hi TeaEarlGreyHot, Maybe if you talk about it. It might help.


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12 Jan 2012, 4:17 pm

Stop or lessen the communication if you can? Maybe that will be enough of a hint that you do not want to pursue a relationship.



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12 Jan 2012, 4:22 pm

Ask him to do things that creep or gross you out. Tell him to keep bothering you. Or bother him and put him off. Tell him you want lots of children, or something.



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12 Jan 2012, 4:34 pm

What I did a few months ago to try to cope with the fact that I like a guy but he is A) almost certainly not interested, and B) lives 700 miles away, was I wrote a letter to him that I have no intention of ever sending. In it I explained that I like him and why, but then wrote down all of the reasons it would never work between us (even ignoring distance and assuming he was interested). I then archived the letter in a random file folder so that no one will find it on my computer. It sort of helped. It got the details off my mind anyway, and took some of the edge off of things.



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12 Jan 2012, 4:46 pm

AstroGeek wrote:
What I did a few months ago to try to cope with the fact that I like a guy but he is A) almost certainly not interested, and B) lives 700 miles away, was I wrote a letter to him that I have no intention of ever sending. In it I explained that I like him and why, but then wrote down all of the reasons it would never work between us (even ignoring distance and assuming he was interested). I then archived the letter in a random file folder so that no one will find it on my computer. It sort of helped. It got the details off my mind anyway, and took some of the edge off of things.


Actually, letter writing is a very good strategy for getting things out of your mind. Another way is to daydream about it all working out, then going horribly wrong and staying that way. That ends feelings more quickly.



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12 Jan 2012, 7:16 pm

Thanks, everyone. I'm over it now.

I think...


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12 Jan 2012, 8:11 pm

smudge wrote:
AstroGeek wrote:
What I did a few months ago to try to cope with the fact that I like a guy but he is A) almost certainly not interested, and B) lives 700 miles away, was I wrote a letter to him that I have no intention of ever sending. In it I explained that I like him and why, but then wrote down all of the reasons it would never work between us (even ignoring distance and assuming he was interested). I then archived the letter in a random file folder so that no one will find it on my computer. It sort of helped. It got the details off my mind anyway, and took some of the edge off of things.


Actually, letter writing is a very good strategy for getting things out of your mind. Another way is to daydream about it all working out, then going horribly wrong and staying that way. That ends feelings more quickly.

i like this advice a lot too.

glad to hear you're moving forward, TEGH.


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12 Jan 2012, 8:17 pm

Quote:
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Stay above 50mph? :D



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13 Jan 2012, 7:01 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
smudge wrote:
AstroGeek wrote:
What I did a few months ago to try to cope with the fact that I like a guy but he is A) almost certainly not interested, and B) lives 700 miles away, was I wrote a letter to him that I have no intention of ever sending. In it I explained that I like him and why, but then wrote down all of the reasons it would never work between us (even ignoring distance and assuming he was interested). I then archived the letter in a random file folder so that no one will find it on my computer. It sort of helped. It got the details off my mind anyway, and took some of the edge off of things.


Actually, letter writing is a very good strategy for getting things out of your mind. Another way is to daydream about it all working out, then going horribly wrong and staying that way. That ends feelings more quickly.

i like this advice a lot too.

glad to hear you're moving forward, TEGH.


It's good advice.

Forward, backward, stagnant, stale. Not sure where I'm going, really, but I bet I'll recognize it when I get there.


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13 Jan 2012, 7:04 pm

i think if i wrote long detailed letters to people carefully explaining my feelings, i'd be too proud and end up tempted to send them :?



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13 Jan 2012, 7:07 pm

OneStepBeyond wrote:
i think if i wrote long detailed letters to people carefully explaining my feelings, i'd be too proud and end up tempted to send them :?


Is that a bad thing to you?


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13 Jan 2012, 7:09 pm

what?