What's up with "I love to laugh"

Post Reply New Topic

my analysis of human conversation goes somewhat like this:

people bond over superficial similarities.

the simple act of person A making a statement and person B agreeing upon that statement (i love that song! - me too!) leads to a positive first impression for both A and B and thus serves as a common ground for a potential future relationship of any kind on which more about the other person can be explored. now, the more original and unusual the statement, the greater the appreciation and positive response if person B agrees on that statement, but also the lower the probability of person B agreeing upon that statement in the first place. the more information A has about B, the better A might be able to judge whether B would be on the same side, which leads to people being more open and revealing more unusual preferences once they know each other better. if the information A has about B equals zero (which is the case in putting up a profile on a dating site), the most frequent strategy to attract a potential person B is to make a very general statement which the majority of people will agree on or like. also, some people seem to be fully satisfied with completely banal similarities, traits and hobbies as long as they experience kindness and/or attraction, while other people will only proceed to actual friendship or love when they connect and share interests and beliefs on a very deep level.

so that is what i think is up with that. anyone else who doesnt like nazis and sh***y weather?

i did that once. it was very liberating. my profile included info about AS, my big ass, my feminist ideas including lack of interest in traditional gender roles, some stranger interests, and my lack of interest in other people's kids. a guy said my profile was intimidating because i was cooler than him. can't win.

oh, i also disclosed something along the lines of ''i am the most annoying person you will ever meet.'' i didn't get as many messages as i probably would have if i'd said, ''i love to laugh'' but to be fair, they were probably higher quality responses.

laughing is pretty good to be fair.

Speak for yourself

Is that directed towards me or hyperlexian? Because it looks like she did a fine job of speaking for herself.

Was talking to hyper. I for one find a disregard for traditional gender roles attractive. Mostly because i've been stymied for eons by the "men must ask women out" role...