Do you prefer NT partner

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lesson learned to keep my mouth shut

Being stereotypical or generalizing is never an attractive trait.

There goes my attractiveness...

Have never really taken the time to make the distinction between those with AS and those without. I hardly think about such petty issues as race or IQ or status or whatever else, so why would I limit myself in this way? There may be some particular personality traits that I feel I should watch out for now, but that still involves getting to know the individual before making any assumptions. It's crucial not to generalize.

FFS. These threads are all stupid. Personality means more than neurology when looking for a romantic partner. End of story.

I don't have my own personality, I tend to soak up other's like a sponge. So it depends. I would just rather be with someone who is outgoing, sweet, and into teaching me things.

Weird. I don't really have a solid personality of my own either. Online, yes, but in person it's a bit malleable.

To the OP, I would rather be with a shy, "dumb" aspie (NO that is not a generalization, I'm referring to specific individuals) than a confident and intelligent NT. Intelligence is great, but sharp minds tend to come packaged with sharp tongues. I start to feel like I'm bringing a spoon to a knife fight when it comes to conversation.

Ditto!

I find it better to be with an intellectual who just understands me and looks out for me in social situations. I dated an engineer who may or might not have been on the spectrum. He might have been just super arrogant. Anyways, we had a million misunderstandings and it was one blow up after another.

I'm just gonna answer the question: I'd rather date a fellow Aspie. He'd understand if I need to be alone for a few hours, and I find fellow aspies are easier to talk too in general
Also let's get off her back, k guys? She probably didn't mean to call herself and aspies in general dumb. Maybe referring to feeling stupid in social situations

I agree with you i have felt that NT's have sharp tongues and they can manipulate many social situations also they have much more command on people compared to what i have.
usually i feel manipulated by them.

my hubby acts weird in social situations he laughs where its not needed he makes silly comments and overall when i compare him with other guys i have noticed they are more confident, they know what they are speaking and situations dont get out of hand
but with my hubby things go out of control and then i have to intervene and get things done

What the hell guys. She was a little bit self depricating and you all took it as an insult towords you and chose to attack her. Talk about self centered and touchy.

I prefer to date a quirky and eccentric NT personally. I'd like it so one of us is somewhat normal.

i think this statement will again start trouble

As long as we are compatible and in love...I really don't mind if they are NT or Aspie.

I've only ever dated NT women. Mostly because I have yet to meet any Aspie girls. I did see one that was 18 on this dating site just saying hey and talking about aspie stuff. She didn't reply to my first message, and I sent her another one after she mentioned some guy just wanting to use her for sex on her profile. She responded and told me she appriciated what I had told her and then promptly deleted her account. I just ran into her on there again a few days ago and her new profile is completely different. No mention of AS and a lot of generic NT hubbabaloo. I have yet to message her again, mostly because I think that our likes/dislikes would probably clash.. she's a little too preppy for my tastes anyway.

Now if I ever met an aspie like Sweetleaf IRL things may be different. XD