Now I know why us aspies can't get any girls!

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Thats so true dude, I've managed to have around 6 partners, every one of them ended up in a horrible battle..

Because when I overloaded they either preyed on my weakness, or didn't understand, or wondered how someone so strong could (in their eyes) suddenly be so weak..

I think communication from the beginning is the key, letting her know (in subtle ways if possible) that you're different, giving love in the way YOU give love, not in the way they expect it, for if its a relationship based on each other giving what you really can't give well, its something forced and will result in conflict..

Personally I continue to be drawn to girls with serious problems, and in trying to help them, the past 3 of them have preyed on me when I breakdown, have pushed me until I snapped over and over again.. So for a while at least I'm going to be alone, and stop searching for a partner, instead just be me and always be open to the possibility.

If no one loves the real me I'll do this alone, I think I have the strength now..

Wow, Scintillate, I can sympathasize. My ex-girlfriend was attracted to me, but after a couple of times where I melted down, she started picking up on the things that triggered it, and would inflict those on me!! In short, she was emotionally and verbally abusive. Physical, too, when she got good and drunk. I had friends tell me, 'you don't need this, you deserve better than this.' Took me a bit of abuse, but I got the message finally.

I don't know about aspie girls but NT girls SHOULD BE AVOIDED AT ALL COST why??
Because those hypocrites luv being do'ed by jocks and sex maniacs because they luv listening to gangsta rap and slu*ty b***h songs and make fun of people that they consider us ret*ds because we dress,eat,do tasks and like things they consider "different"...if you must get a girl get a aspie.

Sorry if this is inappropiate but its the truth.

Not where I live...

What?? inappropiate or the truth.

Looking for ASpie girls, with the exception of this site, is going to be VERY difficult.

I thought this was the case in England, who like beggin-it too much. I though that American like to listen to Romantic Country Music. +

Most Americans (except for a small minority of white people in pseudo-rural areas) despise country music. Most Americans that I know listen to either Rock, Metal, or Electronic stuff.

Most of the NT girls I know hate jocks. As for sex maniacs... I think the majority of males (including me and possibly you?) fal into that category? As for making fun of people, everyone does that, and as long as you're not making fun of your friends in a mean way (or making fun of people who want to be your friends to their faces) there's no problem with it. As for "gangsta rap and slu*ty b***h songs", most of the NT girls I've known like rock, techno pop, or bluegrass.
As for things they consider "different"... what "things" do you mean specifically? Most NT girls (the ones I know) appreciate my differences.

1.I find that veeeerrrryyyyy hard to believe.
2.If i ever get a relationship (which ain't going to EVER happen) sex would be the last thing on my mind...
3.I tried to be friends with NT's but they had to be @$$holes and torment me.
4.You're clearly...WRONG!! ! Ciara,50 cent dem franchise boys,the game,PCD,snoop dog must i continue???
5.What us aspies like (doubledecker buses,garlic,computers,etc) are apparently for ret*ds...

So there i'm right you're wrong and if i didn't know better,you're likely a NT in denial SPYING on US!! !

As I said before, most of the girls I know think the jocks are dicks or ignoramuses unworthy of their attention. Girls want Orlando Blooms, not Hulk Hogans.
And of all the rappers you've mentioned, I've only heard of two.
Also, just because I have AS doesn't mean I have to have some bitter, angry, stereotyped image of how the world works, and just because one person has AS doesn't mean they've had the same experiences as another person with AS. I find NT girls to be friendlier than NT guys, and they find me to be charming (although not necessarily date-worthy"), andthus I associate with them more.
With regards to interests and likes, I've gone through phases of being obsessive about anime, history, and fantasy novels at various points (sometimes those obsessive interests overlap), and I haven't had any trouble talking about any of those topics. And another thing, a lot depends on location and said location's social climate. There is no one universal set-in-stone group of social rules, not even within one particular country, state, county, or city (Which is what makes the majority of people, aspies especially, so confused about adjusting to any given society's social standards. )

Don't lump "nt girls" into a package, I've met wonderful ones, I've met a lot of horrible ones..

I think better advice instead of seeking some specific impossible, is knowing what triggers breakdowns, and if someone does it KNOWINGLY, get rid of them..

Keep it more specific in relation to the person, if you know what you need, and you're satisfied BEFORE starting a relationship, you're going to be able to clearly see when you're being manipulated.

Please, for the love of all that is true, do not lump every nt girl into one category, its ridiculous, surely your experience is limited in comparison to how many women that aren't aspie are in this world?

NT girl come in many different catergories. If they consider themself Intellectuals, thats a good start even if they are religious.

It proberbly just depends on what female friends you have.
Mine only care about soap opra's, msn, talking on the phone, going out.
Hence i haven't really had any significant conversations with them besides smalltalk.
I can only talk about my own hobbies and interests with my male friends and my girlfriend.
I agree with the part about girls liking a charming guy.
A good sence of humour and a smile can get you far.

The average person won't have it as easy as you.
But the situation your in is still possible.

I am thinking the same thing.

Tim

And even then, most of the aspie females on this site are either already in a relationship, or not looking.

Tim