How do aspie aspie males show interest in a girl?

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He may not make the connection - i.e. he may compliment you on your baking but not go further.

I realize that; however, I know myself pretty well that I can work some other things in ... and get around to saying how much I enjoying talking w/ him, yada, ydad, yada ...

No. How about just saying that you really enjoy talking to him and perhaps give him some baking along with the e-mail address? I'd get that.

I am quite open to suggestions and plans. And that is why I am posting ... to understand and to acquaint myself with such that I have no experience with. Thank you.

I don't know; I don't know the man well enough. You sound like you're going the right way about it though by trying to boil the frog.

I would tell him you have one day to live and want sex NOW!

Another reason he may not compliment the cookies is logic.

Hi. I'm an NT gal who is currently crushing on an aspie guy.

I do not work with him but I see him every morning on our commute to work since Sept. We walk the same route but in opposite directions. From the first time I saw him on my morning route, he satred at me with a lovelorn face and did so for months. I tried to say hi, but he looke dpretied both times. It took me 5 months to get him to say hi to me. I know he has aspergers ... he sometimes walks with a swing in his arm, has a soft voice which leads me to ask him to repeat what he just said, has almost walked into traffic, doesn;t know I exist if he is talking to a co-worker (mind you, his co-worker is just listening not talking himself), mirrors my waves exactly, had a panic attack (laughed nervously when I introdiced myself to him, thrust his arm to the side in a arm flap and ran away from me), is very socially awkward but extrenely sweet and gentle when I speak with him. He smiles at me and blushes now.

I read that aspie males can sometimes run away from the object of their affection if they do not know what to say or fear what they will say will offend us. I gave him a Valentine Day's gift. I had baked for work and set some aside for him with a note that said: It is in my nature to be both kind an dgenerous to others, esp those I like. With that said, enjoy." A few days later when I saw him he tried to avoid me, but I approached nonetheless as I also read that aspie males apprecaiate when their crushes approach them, especially because they get nervous, and that this usually helps them relax and bit and engage in conversation. And he did engage me, even telling me "business" to which I asked for a clarificationa dn he told me I should open my own business with my baked goods. He even smiled and looked back while we were parting. It was obvious that he was nervous; I had a feeling when I saw him that morning that he didn;t know what to say. While speaking to him I was cognizant of asking him to clarify, asking yes or no questions, even made a joke which he got and laughed, wished me a happy valentine's day 9 days after the fact.

A friend of mine who has a n aspie friend tells me that bc my crush tried to avoid me that he isn;t interested as he should be obsessed with me after the cookies. As I tried to explain to her, the cookies were a way of letting him know more about me and who I am as a person. I didn;t want to write -- I am attracted to you -- and send the por guy I've spoken with a few times into a panic attack. I try to approach evry 2 weks hoping to build up a rapport and to get him used to me to open up. My co-worker(who has family members with aspergers) tells me he is warming up to me bc he is comfortable enough to be uncomfortable around me and that if he didn;t like me he wouldn't have engage me at all, let alone give me high praise.

My friend has told me that because he hasn't approached me to tell me how great my cookies were and is not acting obsessed with me that I should just leave him alone ... and I tend to think that is v. bad advice as I was very sick in early feb and out of work. When I returned my crush was v. apprehensive around me s if I rejected him ... and i was like -- I WAS SICK WITH A FEVER!

So, how does an aspie male show interest?

JUST BE DIRECT and tell him that you just want to hang out with him.

Very direct but not aggressive but friendly is the way to get through to him. Or directly through a very close friend - perhaps his friend will be cruder about it than you would like, but same difference.

Fortes fortuna adiuvat.

Or directly through a very close friend - perhaps his friend will be cruder about it than you would like, but same difference.

Fortes fortuna adiuvat.