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In how many percents of your committed relations did you cheat
0% 91%  91%  [ 39 ]
10% 2%  2%  [ 1 ]
20% 0%  0%  [ 0 ]
30% 2%  2%  [ 1 ]
40% 0%  0%  [ 0 ]
50% 2%  2%  [ 1 ]
60% 0%  0%  [ 0 ]
70% 2%  2%  [ 1 ]
80% 0%  0%  [ 0 ]
90% 0%  0%  [ 0 ]
100% 0%  0%  [ 0 ]
Total votes : 43

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26 Mar 2012, 3:40 am

I have never cheated either nor have I ever been cheated on.

Thought my ex did try to get me to cut my online friends off who were guys except for the ones who were aspies. To me that is way too controlling and I don't are what their excuse/reason is. I don't make my husband not talk to any women anymore online from his game.

So did I cheat? That depends on the person.



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26 Mar 2012, 4:30 am

I've never cheated. Never will, either. If they aren't worth being loyal to they aren't worth being with.


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26 Mar 2012, 5:50 am

Roman wrote:
Boxman108 wrote:
Then again I guess it depends on how you'd define cheating. Could be strictly physical or sexual, but others have described it as also being on an emotional level.


I would include the ''emotional level'' as part of the definition of cheating. I guess simply ''liking" somoene without doing anything about it won't be cheating, but if you actually go on a date with them then that would be cheating (that is true as long as the date is romantic, regardless of whether or not you actually have sex). A gray area would be when you start talking to them more BECAUSE you like them, but you don't actually go on a date. In this case the rule of thumb is: are you willing to be open to your partner about it? If the answer is yes, then its not cheating, if the answer is no, then it is.

I voted 10% because during my first marriage there was a girl at work who was leaving, and I went for a meal with her to mark the occasion, just the two of us. We didn't even kiss, buty it was just the two of us there, and I didn't tell my wife until a day or two later. After that I was completely honest about my "new friend."

I was "unfaithful" to my estranged wife more recently, but I don't think that counts because she'd moved out and I'd told her categorically that I'd decided to get a divorce. I wouldn't tell her about it because I wouldn't want to hurt her without any need.

The question seems like a very blunt instrument......I'd have scored myself the same, at 10%, if I'd had a clandestine affair, and if my indiscretion had been last week rather than over 30 years ago.

I did a questionnaire once to see if I was the unfaithful type, and I was surprised that the result suggested I wasn't a particularly safe bet..........apparently because I like a bit of risk and excitement in my life. I thought they would assess it mostly on my strong moral fibre :roll: Anyway my results speak for themselves - never once slept with anybody else on the sly, and the small instances of cheating have been few and far between, and never while the main relationship has been reasonably smooth. I don't think it's in me to cheat as a way of life like some people do.



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26 Mar 2012, 10:13 am

I've never cheated in a proper committed relationship and I never would either.

I have been cheated on a few times and those girls got dumped swiftly afterwards.