Question @ the men over here...

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I rarely get approached by women.
Whenever it happens she is usually too young/old.
I assume this happens because since we are not in the same age range they think that theres a lower chance of trying to pursue a romantic relationship with them but I could be wrong.

This is one weird-ass thread.

I wish it happened more, as long as the girls were of legal age. Since I feel so much younger inside than I am outside, I think I'd connect far better with younger girls. Or with much older women, since there seems to be a kind of connection between the young and the older that doesn't exist among people in their 20s and 30s.

It is not often that I am approached socially by anyone within 3-5 years of me in either direction. I do get approached by folks who tend to be at least 5 years older or younger than I. The upshot is that conversations tend to be quite interesting compared to the few times I meet age peers.

Children around 10-14 are playing, just like they used to play with baby dolls. *It's not genuine sexual/romantic interest.* It's an expression of their socialization (the media and cultural messages they're exposed to). If you're fielding this play-time you probably read as non threatening in some way.
I know you said this is question for men but I remember being that age while female and it's a very weird time. You start to get a kind of attention you don't really understand and it's fun and exciting but you aren't ready for it at all.
We're taught that we're supposed to be desirable and that being sexy is grown-up so awkward preteens seek that kind of attention as affirmation.
I wouldn't be concerned that children are hitting on you because they aren't really hitting on you.

Is it just me or is there a very weird anti-femme tone in some of these posts
ex. "That's quite a hypocritical mindset they must be having there if this is true.

You make it sound like it's an ultimate nightmare for girls to have a guy hitting on them, like they even prefer to have life threatening cancer compared to that. "
"Seems like out of these 1000 men that hit on them, there wasn't a single guy in there that was suitable enough for them."

I do know most women aren't an MRA style harpy stereotype, that's why I thought it was a little odd.
Thanks for taking the time to clarify.
When a situation keeps repeating itself, it's time to look for the common denominator.

Yeah it happens and as long as you don't do anything about it and she never trys anything it is nothing to worry about.

I've volunteered at youth programs and everyonce in awhile some girl 12-16 will approach me or hit on me and I just laugh say "thank you" and go on. Usualy its not serious and their just joking around.

I never been approached offline but the 1st two girls who approached me online were kind of too young; 1st was 15 when I was 20 & the 2nd was 19 when I was 28; technically she wasn't too young sense she was 19 but lots probably thought she was sense it was a major age difference. There were some other times when I suspected that underage girls were interested in me online if it would of been OK. In my case I think it's because I have some immature interest, more emotionally immature & at a lower stage in my life compared to most NTs my age. But also it's not uncommon in my area for teenaged girls to go with older guys