Who made it to 40 and remained a Virgin?

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So you're voluntarily saving it, so you won't feel a sense of failing.

Being judgmental and bigoted is a disgusting lifestyle.

I didn't realize that's what he meant. Thanks for clarifying.

That was really uncalled for, AussieMatty.

Here's, apparently, the essence of this matter. If it's voluntary, it's not that much of a problem, especially if you're looking for people who agree with those intentions.
If it's involuntary, though, it's a stigma in society, possibly made worse by a lot of fiction dedicated to the issue, as well as the 'funny' value.



I can appreciate the irony in this.

Often, the most bigoted people are the ones that loudly accuse other people of bigotry at every turn.

Take the mote out of your eye, chum.

I don't accuse people of bigotry at every turn. But he's calling people disgusting for lifestyles they probably have little to no control over. 40-year-old virgins are probably the way they are because of their limited social skills, which most of us Aspies can relate to. I found what he said to be very insensitive. I don't honestly think he's disgusting, I'm just throwing his own words back at him to make a point.

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I know that's true because I've been made fun of before for not having it with my ex. I'm not sure why it's anyone's business, but a lot of neurotypical people I've met want to know if I have or haven't. Seems to me that even when I am saving it that It's still stigmatized. We are both are still virgins and value sex for the same reasons.

Technically yes, but I did fondle so I'm not a total virgin.

Has anyone here told others they were a virgin? There is definitely a stigma, at least for men.

Nope, didn't matter as whoever asked would know that answer... The aforementioned occured afterwards.

Yes. I'm asexual so I just don't have any interest.

Nope - well, apart from now.

At least I *think*:

Yes. They made fun of me and I'm a female. They made fun of my ex and I when we were together with others.

Actually, it is not confidence but competence. I am at a total lost in small talk and unless the conversation involves facts and stats, I don't know what to say. Imagine a confident person being thrown into the cockpit of an airplane, no matter how much they believe in themselves if they don't know how to fly an airplane they are very unlikely to push buttons right and left at random. That is me, I am at a loss socially, I can believe in myself to the ends of this Earth but if I don't know basic socialization, then I am still a deer in the headlights.

I'm 27 and nothin for me either Something I will never admit to anyone I know because the ones I know will look down on me for it. I cannot talk to women, and I very rarely get any chance to meet them because A-work a lot, B-too tired at the end of work to go anywhere, C-don't have anyone I can call a "friend" to go places with, only accuaintences. I don't like going places alone most of the time. I don't fit in anywhere so I mainly keep to myself, but when an oppurtunity comes along to possibly connect with someone, I do my best to try. I am not into casual sex, only with someone if I am in a commited relationship. I am dead against cheating also. Never had a relationship so here I am. Had an oppurtunity for sex once but didn't go for it because she was not into being faithful at all, so I passed. I fear that my no-knowledge of society and relationships has screwed me big time and that it may be too late to ever find happiness. I have always wanted the things that most want, wife / soulmate (lol) love, family, the works, but with being who I am I am kinda giving up hope at this point in my life. My mom used to say that she wants grandkids from me all the time for years. Now she hasn't said it in a few years. People know. I want way more than sex, I want the whole damn package. My bro just tells me to buy a hooker. That goes against everything I thought of.