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08 May 2012, 8:13 am

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Personally, i would get freaked and leave you alone to enjoy a lonely Saturday.

A very scary first impression that would make any sane man runs in the opposite direction...and fast.


same here, There are better more polite ways to say that entire message. It made her come off a bit full of herself.


A bit?!


yea it does make her sound very full of herself. I wrote "a bit" to try and not sound insulting, because im trying hard to word this without coming that way. If I had recieved something like that my response would be

"Well Im glad we got that out of the way, hope you find someone that can fulfil your egos needs"

You can simply come out and say that entire post in a way that is still well written and exciting, gets the point across but that sounds modest. I dont know you enough to say that you are full of yourself or have a needy ego or whatnot, but likely neither does that guy and now he likely thinks you are that way.



She could simply said something funny and straight to the point about what her ideal first date sounds like.

A first date shouldn't be much of such big deal, the "if you do this or that, you die" tone made it sound like a critical life-matter event.

And she sounded too full of her self, too picky and too demanding, when I first read this piece of torture I was like "if she's that demanding for a first date, then what next?".

I would probably reply the same (but in a more Boo-fashion ie "ok, thank you for your honesty but I am not your Mr. right. Farewell, I am running away before your ego blows up."

*blocking any contact with her*



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08 May 2012, 8:16 am

MXH wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
MXH wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Personally, i would get freaked and leave you alone to enjoy a lonely Saturday.

A very scary first impression that would make any sane man runs in the opposite direction...and fast.


same here, There are better more polite ways to say that entire message. It made her come off a bit full of herself.


A bit?!


yea it does make her sound very full of herself. I wrote "a bit" to try and not sound insulting, because im trying hard to word this without coming that way. If I had recieved something like that my response would be

"Well Im glad we got that out of the way, hope you find someone that can fulfil your egos needs"

You can simply come out and say that entire post in a way that is still well written and exciting, gets the point across but that sounds modest. I dont know you enough to say that you are full of yourself or have a needy ego or whatnot, but likely neither does that guy and now he likely thinks you are that way.

There are too many people trying to play it safe and come across as a normal person online imo.
When you´ve read 5 profiles on your area you are quite likely to come across plenty similarities on the next profiles because almost everyone is trying to say the same thing because its whats supposed to be right(Boo mentioned that most females on his area cite coelho as their favourite author...).

Which is why a message like that one is better than the standard reply of: "Oh I dont know somewhere nice" or something equally meaningless, it makes you stand out and the other way you are likely to go unnoticed(theyve had multiple conversations like this one in the past: things are just going to go nowhere, maybe i should just close my account... You know the drill ).



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08 May 2012, 8:28 am

spongy wrote:
MXH wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
MXH wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Personally, i would get freaked and leave you alone to enjoy a lonely Saturday.

A very scary first impression that would make any sane man runs in the opposite direction...and fast.


same here, There are better more polite ways to say that entire message. It made her come off a bit full of herself.


A bit?!


yea it does make her sound very full of herself. I wrote "a bit" to try and not sound insulting, because im trying hard to word this without coming that way. If I had recieved something like that my response would be

"Well Im glad we got that out of the way, hope you find someone that can fulfil your egos needs"

You can simply come out and say that entire post in a way that is still well written and exciting, gets the point across but that sounds modest. I dont know you enough to say that you are full of yourself or have a needy ego or whatnot, but likely neither does that guy and now he likely thinks you are that way.

There are too many people trying to play it safe and come across as a normal person online imo.
When you´ve read 5 profiles on your area you are quite likely to come across plenty similarities on the next profiles because almost everyone is trying to say the same thing because its whats supposed to be right(Boo mentioned that most females on his area cite coelho as their favourite author...).

Which is why a message like that one is better than the standard reply of: "Oh I dont know somewhere nice" or something equally meaningless, it makes you stand out and the other way you are likely to go unnoticed(theyve had multiple conversations like this one in the past: things are just going to go nowhere, maybe i should just close my account... You know the drill ).


Did you even read what I said? Here, I bolded it for you.


Take two



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08 May 2012, 8:36 am

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modesty overrated. lol, and then people wonder where the "girls like bad boys" thing comes from


Oh its not overrated by society at large, which values modesty poorly. But if you're marginilized you can come to overvalue it in a way that isn't productive.

I'm not a woman but I do have to deal with unwanted social contacts on occasion. Rather than rejecting people it can be useful to simply erect insurmountable barriers. I don't owe anyone my company. I'm free to associate on whatever terms I choose.



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08 May 2012, 8:41 am

MXH wrote:
spongy wrote:
MXH wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
MXH wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Personally, i would get freaked and leave you alone to enjoy a lonely Saturday.

A very scary first impression that would make any sane man runs in the opposite direction...and fast.


same here, There are better more polite ways to say that entire message. It made her come off a bit full of herself.


A bit?!


yea it does make her sound very full of herself. I wrote "a bit" to try and not sound insulting, because im trying hard to word this without coming that way. If I had recieved something like that my response would be

"Well Im glad we got that out of the way, hope you find someone that can fulfil your egos needs"

You can simply come out and say that entire post in a way that is still well written and exciting, gets the point across but that sounds modest. I dont know you enough to say that you are full of yourself or have a needy ego or whatnot, but likely neither does that guy and now he likely thinks you are that way.

There are too many people trying to play it safe and come across as a normal person online imo.
When you´ve read 5 profiles on your area you are quite likely to come across plenty similarities on the next profiles because almost everyone is trying to say the same thing because its whats supposed to be right(Boo mentioned that most females on his area cite coelho as their favourite author...).

Which is why a message like that one is better than the standard reply of: "Oh I dont know somewhere nice" or something equally meaningless, it makes you stand out and the other way you are likely to go unnoticed(theyve had multiple conversations like this one in the past: things are just going to go nowhere, maybe i should just close my account... You know the drill ).


Did you even read what I said? Here, I bolded it for you.


Take two


I read it.

I know that it wasnt a masterpiece and I was merely stating that from my experience/what Ive seen other people saying about dating sites it wasnt that bad.

Im aware that it could have been better and that she could have kept it shorter/less pretentious but I still stand by what I said about it being better than a standard reply imo.



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08 May 2012, 9:21 am

wait, was the point to get a date with the person, or not? i think i missed the point. can someone translate the original message please?


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08 May 2012, 9:48 am

If that was just a message I wonder how long the profile is? 8O



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08 May 2012, 9:56 am

MXH wrote:
same here, There are better more polite ways to say that entire message. It made her come off a bit full of herself.


I have to agree - if I was sent this I'd think the sender was a headcase and would bin any idea of getting to know her better.



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08 May 2012, 10:13 am

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wait, was the point to get a date with the person, or not? i think i missed the point. can someone translate the original message please?

the point was Ask a Stupid Question Get a Stupid Answer!

or Ask an Aspie a stupid/anoying question get the most sarcastically straight dead down the line on perpose rofl response ever... =)

mainly ask a stupid question get a stupid answer!!



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08 May 2012, 10:21 am

Teredia wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
wait, was the point to get a date with the person, or not? i think i missed the point. can someone translate the original message please?

the point was Ask a Stupid Question Get a Stupid Answer!

or Ask an Aspie a stupid/anoying question get the most sarcastically straight dead down the line on perpose rofl response ever... =)

mainly ask a stupid question get a stupid answer!!


Theres no such thing as a stupid question, but there are plenty of wrong questions and stupid answers



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08 May 2012, 10:48 am

Wow... this post when somewhere dark and cold. I'm going to have to remember this... I appreciate everyone's response - no matter how judgemental. It's good insight into who I've been chatting with on this site, and some of the PMs I've gotten. It's unfortunate that the same people seem to just want to continue to pull others apart... But, hey, maybe I deserve some of the comments here, eh? I am, after all, a horrible person that's constantly attacking people and demonstrating my sizable ego. I deserve the be shot down and judged.

For those of you that actually got the humour, *hugs* :D The chap that I wrote and I have had a great time writing each other back and forth. This post actually followed up one of his funnier "this is how we met" posts. Actually, his initiating message had me in tears. He may not be a writer, but his sense of humour is astoundingly sharp. Depending on how the next couple of messages go, I just might take his offer up.

In any event, I posted this because I enjoy writing - it's how I express myself. So thank you to the people that just appreciated it as a funny bit a writing. :)



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08 May 2012, 10:50 am

My point was that if you're both on the same page anyway, that's all fine and dandy. If I received something like what you wrote in your first post though (without the context), I'd be ignoring you.



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08 May 2012, 10:53 am

Bloom wrote:
Wow... this post when somewhere dark and cold. I'm going to have to remember this... I appreciate everyone's response - no matter how judgemental. It's good insight into who I've been chatting with on this site, and some of the PMs I've gotten. It's unfortunate that the same people seem to just want to continue to pull others apart... But, hey, maybe I deserve some of the comments here, eh? I am, after all, a horrible person that's constantly attacking people and demonstrating my sizable ego. I deserve the be shot down and judged.

For those of you that actually got the humour, *hugs* :D The chap that I wrote and I have had a great time writing each other back and forth. This post actually followed up one of his funnier "this is how we met" posts. Actually, his initiating message had me in tears. He may not be a writer, but his sense of humour is astoundingly sharp. Depending on how the next couple of messages go, I just might take his offer up.

In any event, I posted this because I enjoy writing - it's how I express myself. So thank you to the people that just appreciated it as a funny bit a writing. :)


Did you notice the part where i said I dont know you and dont think you have a big ego but thats simply how the message came through to me? But whatever you need to justify that attack. So much for trying to help



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08 May 2012, 11:04 am

Well Done.
Though probably you dislike me... even... talking... to... you... whatsoever.
Bye. *whoosh*


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08 May 2012, 2:07 pm

ok so the message is facetious? or serious? i can't sort through the layers of meaning. i feel bit like there was a joke i didn't get, or maybe i missed the point of the thread? Bloom did you want feedback or did you want people offering their own responses? i think i misunderstood. oh, and if you feel attacked you may want to contact another mod as i am participating in this thread as a member.


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08 May 2012, 2:20 pm

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ok so the message is facetious? or serious? i can't sort through the layers of meaning. i feel bit like there was a joke i didn't get, or maybe i missed the point of the thread? Bloom did you want feedback or did you want people offering their own responses? i think i misunderstood. oh, and if you feel attacked you may want to contact another mod as i am participating in this thread as a member.


she just wanted to throw it out there and make it seen by more than one pair of eyes. I decided to add my opinion on it. Its not any more of an attack as what she has insinuated about multiple members in her reply.