Saving that first kiss

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Well, maybe he will find somebody. Finding somebody to love isn't something that can be achieved through hard work. Yes, it takes going out there and meeting people and such, but it's mainly luck and skill more than effort. In fact, the harder you work at it, the more invested you are in finding someone right now, and that can make you give off a desperate vibe that is a turnoff.

So what if he thinks God will drop some perfect girl into his lap? How does that hurt you? Either he will or he won't find somebody and that really has no bearing on whether you do or not. Are you really just upset that he's not as unhappy as you are about the whole situation? He has as much as right to be laid back and confident that he will find someone when the time is right as you do to be cynical, bitter and in a frenzy to find someone right now.

His may very well work out great because he's not going into it with so much unpleasantness just underneath the surface. Again, how is his decision and his confidence and optimism hurting you?

Hate to even imagine how awkward their honeymoon must of been

The dude needs a reality check. There's a difference between being an optimist and being a Pollyanna. How can he realistically expect to find someone who'll marry him without so much as kissing? He needs to put himself out there, and not expect the girl to just fall in his lap out of a tree. He's gonna wind up alone and regretting he didn't do more when he was young and prime.

Yes I'm alone, but dammit, I'm trying to do something about it.

Don't try too hard, or you will never succeed.
And let the dude be happy. Keep your sexually frustrated misery to yourself!

EDIT: I noticed you were poking at the Christian faith and ethics earlier. You telling him he's going to regret the rest of his life if he doesn't do X and X it just as bad as an evangelical telling you you will regret it and will go to hell if you do X and X.

Last edited by JanuaryMan on 11 May 2012, 12:14 pm, edited 1 time in total.

How is his decision hurting you?

Also, some people do find someone that way. Look at the Duggars. Look at all the people in that Quiverfull movement, and also the' Amish. They manage to find people. He's probably looking for somebody with the same outlook on life as him, and there are women out there with the same outlook.

Again, how is his decision hurting you, especially hurting you to the point where you would verbally attack him for his choices?

Kind of funny how everyone assumes "balletangel" would be a "he".

I figured the OP was a girl scuba, just thought they were talking about someone else later down the track lol

LOL, Somebody else said "he" and I thought they noticed something I didn't.. Apologies to the OP if it's wrong.