Delphiki wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
The really bad bit about this is, it makes it difficult to find people who are actually right on your level, Culturally-socio-economically speaking. Since the people who are on your level are trying to get someone from the next level up, which then causes you to have to look at the next level down. Both things directly effect others in both of those groups.
And despite its phrasing, you don't have to look for a celebrity or royalty in order to 'marry up'.. If you grew up in a single parent, low income household with poor credit ratings, simply going after a person who lived in a two parent, two income household with high credit ratings and no fear of debt is "Marrying up". Even if you both attended the same schools, you didn't wear the same brands, weren't exposed to the same people, places or things, and likely will find that there are deep rooted problems lying beneath the surface even if your relationship beings auspiciously enough.
I think the really bad bit is that people care about what class you are on whether or not you are an "eligible candidate"
Well it is bad, but it doesn't change the fact it exists and is a factor either. I wouldn't have a problem with a girl from either a lower or higher socio-economic status than myself, but chances are she would have a problem with me. Key point, if her dad has always provided her with whatever she wants/needs, chances are she won't be happy unless I can do the same, in which case I won't be happy being with her.
On the other hand, if her dad was an absentee father and her mother was a waitress, she will likely have a higher work ethic and expect almost nothing from me since she doesn't expect a male to provide for her.
These things DO actually matter, and DO impact peoples personalities.
17 May 2012, 6:42 pm
