How to talk to Asian girls?

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I totally dig red hair! I would difinitely sneak a peek at someone, male or female, with (natural) red hair. I can't speak for other Asian girls though.

For OP, learning their language and culture is probably the best way.

I know what you mean by talking to Asian girls. There is a variety though. Some are very outgoing, so if you are open and honest with them in an Aspie sort of way, that's precisely how to talk to those girls. (Hint hint!) But of course there is the other extreme, the Asian girl who is the bitchiest b***h that ever was a b***h. Obviously, extremes are rare, and for the most part, talk to Asian girls the same as you would anyone else. Can't go wrong with that. But when some girls say they are "very Asian" and that it's hard to explain, it basically means they are passive aggressive in a certain kind of way, and it is really hard to explain. I was once told that the Asian girls that act like American white girls are the worst.

for some reason I have luck with/attract Asian girls, either for being friends or more than that, most the former; whether it's the nerdy, the recent arrivals or the urban types (I perfer the third one.) It's probably because I pass for alot of nationalities.

In 9th grade, I had a 4 month relationship with a Japanese girl. Not the anime lover kind, the Americanized one (twinkie if you will). When she found out I'm Hispanic, she broke up because of "her parents". She thought I was Pinoy (Filipino) so she introduced me to her friends as such. Don'tknow if it's true or she's a racist b*****! Nor do I care. We still are distant friends.

Anyway it depends on what kind of Asian/ (any other race/ethnicity here). Whether your favorite flavor is the anime lover, fobby (sorry if I offended anyone) nerdy or the twinky -esque (my type for the most part). Just be cofident and all. I now have a fling for a Viet at school who is a little freaky. She has many Hispanic friends so if she likes me too, then ethnicity shouldn't be a reason to get shot down this time.

PS I am not an Asianphile. I like Hispanic girls just as much

Nerdy: Yes, please! I myself happen to be pretty big into anime (Although I don't watch as much of it as I used to and looking back, ecchi (fanservice) shows are deader than disco), vidya (Currently play Team Fortress 2 more than any other game), and a bunch of other s**t I'm too lazy to list right now.

New arrivals and exchange students: I've never had the most patience with foreigners due to language issues (Unless they already speak English well).

Either way, tattoos don't hurt, and as long as she's not a massive b***h, she's kosher.

Passing for other nationalities: I've been mistaken for Chinese, Hawaiian, Korean, Turkish, and Mexican. I'm not even remotely Asian/Hawaiian/Hispanic. If you must know, I'm white (English, Dutch, Scots-Irish, Welsh, French, German) with some distant black (I'll just say my ancestors were products of their time) and Native American (Too far back to claim any tribal membership and don't know what exact tribes) ancestry going all the way back to the founding period. The native genes just stacked up really well to the point of being mistaken for Asian/Latin.

Well I ve been thought of being from the following : Mexico (Bc I'm Hispanic, almost every non Hispanic thinks I'm Mexican..ignore the flag as my avatar), Georgia, the country ( I once had a Russian sub teacher), Pakistan , Iraq, Brazil (I don't even speak Portuguese), Spain (less than half right), China (as a joke), Philippines (while dating my aforementioned girlfriend. I've played along for a while though.), White ( I was pale back then ), Black (once again, joke) and a lot others.

I should get one of those DNA testing thingies to see why. It's really cool to pass for a lot of countries though

Im not so much of a nerd (I know when and when NOT to be one) so I usually go for those of "Westernized" demeanor so long as they don't overdo it and feels entitled to a Gucci bag every two weeks. Course not all of them are like that

Ive had a thing for foreign girls for a while so Ive developed my own way of finding them.

-First: find a place where they tend to gather with people from your country.(Local International languages institute has become a place where foreigners that want to learn the language go to try to speak with any locals willing to talk to them(places where conversation exchanges take place work for me, find out what works for you))

-Second: Become a regular at this place.(New arrivers usually have to wait a while before anyone approaches them...)

-Third: try your best to keep the conversation enjoyable/fun with whoever approaches you and say that you hope to see them around some time(Nobody exchanges numbers on a first meeting, asking someone if they´d like to hang out after a first meeting is probably frowned upon by most people).

-Fourth: keep going to the place at a similar hour/day and hope that you meet again. If thats the case say hi to the other person and try to talk to them for a while. If the other person still seems interested on talking to you tell them that it was really nice meeting them again and maybe you could arrange something off-group.

-Fifth: watch for their reply and if they dont seem interested let them go. Otherwise suggest a possible meeting and ask for their phone number.

I dont think that theres a suitable topic for all asian girls considering that asia itself is the biggest continent and its hard to find something that they all have in common

How to talk to asian girls?

...in Chinese, clearly...

...or whatever their native language is. haha

Mandarin or Cantonese is the native language, Cantonese being more of a local dialect.

Other ways to impress a Chinese girl

Study up on Qi gong and learn Chinese martial arts.
Talk about taking her to a local Chinese takeaway.
Invite her around your house to watch Films like Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon.
Keep bringing up quotes from Bruce Lee in the conversation.

Agreed.

I'm hungry

Be honest respectful and polite also show interest in her culture.

You do that...and don't do it jokingly. Like assuming that she knows kung fu when doesn't even know what kung fu is.

I actually did think you were Mexican because of your avatar.

My first reaction was, "good grief, talking to Asian women isn't any different than talking to women, in general." And, to an extent that is true ... but since you seem to be talking about recent immigrant populations I will have to admit that you have some cultural differences to take into account. As is true in talking to any women, you have to have some sense of how she expects to be appraoched, and what her interests are.

One thing NOT to do, is make assumptions about a women just because she is Asian. You'll have to pick up more clues to have some idea on if she is from an immigrant family, fully Americanized, conservative, outgoing, etc.

So. If you are interested in recent immigrants, the route to go is going to be the parents, work or church. Many of these families, based on what my friends in them have told me, are wary of assimilating too fast, and daughters are may have been told not to date American men; which is NOT about xenophobia, but more about holding onto a culture and history that means a lot to the family; you need to understand and show respect for that. It is not always true, but I've known of it to be true often enough to tell you that you should be ready to prove yourself as a respectful, stand up guy with strong family values and the ability to provide economic support, and who loves and respects the culture the woman comes from, before ever asking for the first date. From what I've heard from my friends, in most cases you cannot walk up to the daughter of a recent immigrant family and just ask her out or even just start flirting; they tell me that just isn't done in those cultures, or at least that is the standard immigrant families tend to bring with them.

All that said, I'll share my second impression: your first post is offensive.

But I'll explain that in a more practical and useful way, that could actually help you reach your stated goal. What can I say, I am a sucker for people finding what they want in relationships.

It isn't a good sign if you haven't figured out for yourself all the things I've said about cultural barriers. It seems like you are attracted visually to Asian women, without having spent much time actually figuring out what the cultural differences and barriers are. As with any women, it takes a lot more to be compatible than physical attraction. How can you even begin to know what a particular women is about if the only thing you've noticed is her ethnicity? You need to do a whole lot more that has substance.

I also found the wording in your first post bothersome, and hope you will go back and rethink/edit it. You paint several ethnic groups with super broad brushes without actually acknowledging that those groups are comprised of unique individuals. If you want to have any small chance with a women of different ethnicity, you will have to know how to talk without sounding like you judge based mostly on outwards factors. Women you date, regardless of culture, want to be loved for who they are as individuals, and not for the vision they represent to you. No women will want to be your "Asian" trophy.

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I really hope everyone can see your sarcasm.

I'm sure, in any case I love Asian film and if a girl did Chinese martial arts, it would only make her more attractive to me. Bruce Lee also made some very good philosophical points and definitely made a strong impact.

I'm just stating that Chinese people are usually stereotyped as being good at Wushu, Sanshou or Wing Chun when sometimes that isn't the case. I know many people in China still practice Qi Gong though and start the day with Tai Chi.