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03 Jul 2012, 3:16 pm

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03 Jul 2012, 4:24 pm

Quite simply, we can't expect people to treat us nice "just because". For the most part, people are only nice to those they like... it's less than ideal but it's the way it is.

We can help ourselves out by making ourselves as presentable as possible. Clean clothes, clean (odour-free) body, relatively-friendly demeanor. We might not ever be the popular kids, but we won't be nearly as badly ostracised as the scruffy stinky!

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03 Jul 2012, 5:32 pm

MXH wrote:

QFT. This was already discussed by the same poster in previous thread of theirs.

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03 Jul 2012, 6:12 pm

A little repetition never hurt anyone...right?

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03 Jul 2012, 6:26 pm

JanuaryMan wrote:

MXH wrote:

QFT. This was already discussed by the same poster in previous thread of theirs.

So? I'm not breaking any rules. I;m going to keep posting about myself whether anyone likes it or not.

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03 Jul 2012, 6:31 pm

MR20 wrote:

JanuaryMan wrote:

MXH wrote:

QFT. This was already discussed by the same poster in previous thread of theirs.

So? I'm not breaking any rules. I;m going to keep posting about myself whether anyone likes it or not.

if all you're going to do is whine and not take advice then go to the haven where you wont be bothering people trying to help and where you wont get negative comments over not bothering to use the help.

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03 Jul 2012, 6:44 pm

BlueMax wrote:

Quite simply, we can't expect people to treat us nice "just because".

Why not? I mean what's wrong with being nice to everyone. ( I mean sans murders, rapist, pedophiles, etc. Heck even some people are nice to them) The world be a better place if most people were like Tim Tebow. (who's nice to everyone because that's the kind of person he is)

For the most part, people are only nice to those they like... it's less than ideal but it's the way it is.

This is such BS. Just an excuse for egotistical, mean, and arrogant people to make fun and/or belittle people they think are below them. So what if they don't look, act, or talk a certain way, that doesn't give you the right to go out your way just to be mean to them because of it.

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03 Jul 2012, 6:58 pm

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MR20, think about the tone of language you are using towards BlueMax for a moment. It is very aggressive, confrontational and intense simply because he doesn't agree with you. While the anger isn't directed at him per se it is very easy to see it like that, not only that it is not good courtesy. For someone expecting everyone to be nice or behave nice to you, you sure don't set a good example. You can't expect everyone to be nice to you and feel you have the right to do the opposite.

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03 Jul 2012, 9:12 pm

I can appreciate a good rant, but JanuaryMan makes a good point... it's unreasonable to expect people to kiss your feet.

...and the worse you treat others, the worse they'll treat you. That's a guarantee. (Unless you're a celebrity or their boss.)

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03 Jul 2012, 9:14 pm

I did a search for "body odor problem even after shower". I don't know if any of these links will be of any use to you, but I hope they help.

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index ... 405AAXzsYI

http://www.wikihow.com/Eliminate-Body-Odor

http://www.myhomeremedies.com/topic.cgi?topicid=32

http://curezone.com/forums/am.asp?i=1573360

http://emedicine.medscape.com/article/1072342-treatment

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04 Jul 2012, 2:10 am

Excellent point by Max, the world isn't always going to be understanding and accepting, people aren't always going to be nice or empathetic. You can't expect people to be fair and you can't expect the world to be fair all of the time, if you set expectations on yourself and the world, you will only set yourself up for greater disappointment in the long run.

The advice and support you are getting here is better than most places, people are trying to give you advice that is relevant to your situation, most of us are in the same boat and have face certain difficulties that present someone being on the spectrum.

When I wake up each morning, I write down what I'm going to do for that day. For instance, in my journal I put face routine times two, this reminds me that I need to follow my skin regime. This can be an excellent way to keep track of what you need to do if you aren't very organized.

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04 Jul 2012, 8:09 am

Wolfheart wrote:

Excellent point by Max, the world isn't always going to be understanding and accepting, people aren't always going to be nice or empathetic. You can't expect people to be fair and you can't expect the world to be fair all of the time, if you set expectations on yourself and the world, you will only set yourself up for greater disappointment in the long run.

If that's the case then f**k the world and f**k society. I won't change most of myself just to impress the douches that have treated me like s**t most of my life. f**k them. People should always be fair.

The advice and support you are getting here is better than most places, people are trying to give you advice that is relevant to your situation, most of us are in the same boat and have face certain difficulties that present someone being on the spectrum.

Can people here create miracles? No? That's about the only thing that's "relevant" to my situation. No way I'd be able to make friends and date otherwise..

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04 Jul 2012, 8:46 am

I'm struggling to see the actual problem if you like the way you think and believe life is for you.
My guess is that you've been bullied very harshly in early teens up to even now or you replay it over, right?
Everyone has their own opinions of someone but not everyone will be the same.

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04 Jul 2012, 11:24 am

PastFixations wrote:

Well the guy has made it very clear he takes pleasure in hating other people for the ordeals he had as a young person.
It's also clear he is not here for advice but repeats his cycle of posting in order to extract pity, attention and the rest.
Therefore, I have come to the same conclusion as MXH and others, this is best intended to go in The Haven. After all it's barely even a love and dating thing any more.

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04 Jul 2012, 11:54 am

MR20 wrote:

JanuaryMan wrote:

MXH wrote:

QFT. This was already discussed by the same poster in previous thread of theirs.

So? I'm not breaking any rules. I;m going to keep posting about myself whether anyone likes it or not.

wrong.

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http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt12459.html

you have some great new advice. now you can make the decision to use that advice, or don't. but stop creating new threads about it.

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