SpiritBlooms wrote:
MXH wrote:
SpiritBlooms wrote:
Women cry for lots of reasons. Tears are a natural expression of emotion, many different emotions, sometimes hurt feelings, sometimes anger, sometimes grief, sometimes simply relief.
not women, everybody does
Yes, sorry I didn't mean to imply that men don't. I think it's only more common in women because men have been forced to suppress them by social pressure, which I think is wrong. Tears are cleansing, of the eyes AND emotional backlogs.
I heard tears described as a healing process by a co-counselling facilitator, along with laughter, shivering and (possibly) yawning.
While it's probably true that what you see when somebody cries is only healing in action, I think in practice it's more complicated than that. If you're the cause of the tears, it can be very distressing to hear the sound and see first-hand the results of the pain you've chosen to inflict on them. It could be very different if somebody has been hurt by somebody else and lets out their grief to you by crying "on your shoulder." If a person trust that you're empathic, just taking hold of somebody's hand can make them cry, if they were anywhere near to tears at the time.
06 Jul 2012, 10:11 am
