Has anyone here recieved negative dating rejections?

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Negative? A rejection among friends is nothing to me if I know it won't affect anything. I just think if you get yourself too emotionally invested in someone or too obsessed, maybe then rejection becomes a negative.

The first girl I ever asked out, who had been flirting with me for a month that I knew of (someone told me she was), laughed in my face. After that...well... let's just say that I don't ask girls out too often. I figure that if someone who had been going so far as to grab my crotch several times wasn't showing genuine interest, how the heck am I going to know if ANYONE is?

Yeah, before i found out i had AS, I was told No by a guy who had AS and he turned around and said "You're just tooo aspie for me." I was like "WTF.... HOW CAN I BE TOO ASPIE....."
Still thats been my only real negative rejection. Its been my only rejection...
That really hurt also...

I got laughed at and ridiculed for asking people out when I was in my teens, so I stopped trying.

Everyone experiences rejection. It's part of life.

The worst rejections are the false promises though.

I got rejected once. But not meanly.

I just got the same last week at the age of 38. It still hurts...

Being too aspie can be a big turnoff for me at least.

I have experiencied very negative rejections, but there is something harder to me than rejection; the indiference.

i have had some negative rejections in the past, in fact one recently but I would take those over the one bad relationship I had.

I just got rejected today. It hurts...a lot.

I've had a girl who laughed thinking it was a joke - even though it was a non-direct question, merely an obversation by colleagues. Unfortunately, still in love. I'm now trying to adjust myself to fit.

What about guys like me who don't even have success with one?

Replace twenty with a thousand, or ten thousand, or ten million, it still applies. Point is, if it's something you want, keep trying. You've only failed when you give up.

Edit: what I mean to say is, I have what a lot of guys here seem to want. And the the thing that helped me most in getting it was learning how to not take rejection personally. Learning how to tend to my bruised ego, say to myself "her loss," and move on to the next one. And, from what I've read in this section, those guys who do have some success with women all seem to say pretty much the same thing.

Yes totally.
the worst was probably in highschool, I had this major crush on a guy for ages and then senior year he asked me out and I said yes and then he just ignored me, never brought it up again and started seeing another girl, I was mortified, had to see him every day neither of us ever brought it up again

and in college I met a guy at a party and we'd meet up at other parties and go out drinking and hang out and go on dates even until we almost slept together (after a lot of heavy petting on multiple occasions) that he had a girlfriend back home (out of state)...wtf!

Why does it seem like it's never just no, it's always got to be in the most humiliating way when you're at your most vulnerable. Who rejects someone while their hand is inside their bra? honestly!

dating sucks, I dread having to date again, I'm too awkward

you're saying theres such a thing as a rejection that isnt negative? Well, my best had to be a girl approaching me (the only time ever) and then rejecting me for no real reason. Im still waiting to understand that one.