Im so screwed up and cursed!

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What the hell? That video is terribly pointless....

How is an Aspie supposed to know when a girl is flirting with him for fun, or not?

I disagree. If they are going to be put off by asperger's they are going to be more put off by it later when you spring it on them... Most NTs view hiding something like that as a lie.



I am trying to be tactful here... but no. She is not... She may be talking about you, but it is not to network... if one of the friends takes a shine to you... it is luck... or fate... but the fact that you use the term "Action" when attempting to console someone who is crestfallen tells me that you are at a drastically different place in your emotional needs than the original poster.

Original Poster: I know it seems hopeless... but let it go. When you are on the hunt, searching for someone, your intent is clear to others. We are primates... the NTs see someone who is searching as you are as desperate and as such "alone for a reason." They won't even realize that this is what they are seeing, but from a genetic standpoint, alone for a reason means that there is something wrong with you. Their psychology rarely allows them to over come that as they are hard wired to avoid the weird, as it's probably not a survival trait.

Now... there is hope for you... but you have to be HAPPY WITH YOURSELF first. Most NTs are ignorant... blissfully so... being aware of your aloneness is not something that most of them deal with. Get rid of the alone for a reason and just be alone. I have often stated, and believe it to be true - "If you cannot be happy with yourself, you cannot and will not be happy with someone else."

For what it's worth...I AM trying to help

Ask.

Doesn't necessarily work that way. They usually dodge the question.

And yeah, the whole "woman introducing you to other women" thing doesn't happen unless said woman doesn't think there's anything wrong with you.

If they dodge the question, they are playing the flirting game.

If they answer directly, then you know they are interested. I guarantee.

There are so many reasons why a woman may think that you are not suitable to be her partner but you could make someone else very happy(extreme religious discrepancies/huge age gap/having a different mindset at the moment...) yet I see so many of my friends just stop talking to a girl if she is not relationship material.

Just this tuesday I went with two close male friends to an event.
At this event there was this girl one of them and I knew. Since she was significantly older my friend didnt pay much attention to her and I merely exchanged a few words out of courtesy(she was complaining about us leaving without saying goodbye to her the past week so I started saying goodbye to her jokingly and asking if she´d ever forgive us...).

My friends asked wtf was that about and I politely told them that she has been very nice to me and she is great to talk with so I dont see why I should just ignore her because she is significantly older. In the middle of our discussion about wether I did the right thing or I needed to stop talking to her she reappeared asking if I could join her for 5 minutes.

Turns out that she had met some lovely girls my age and talked them a lot about me so after saying hi and exchanging a few words I saw that they were interested on getting to know me and we stayed there talking for 2 hours.

Eventually the pub was about to close so we all left.

At the door I reunited with my friends and they told me that those were some long 5 minutes. I explained them what had happened and after seeing the two girls she had introduced me to the discussion about wether I should be her friend or not stopped.

Just so we are clear Id have stayed two hours just talking to the older friend if thats what she had asked me to do. In fact thats why she was telling them so many great things about me, the first time she came to the meetings she stayed two hours talking with em about whatever was on her mind and she loved seeing her grammatical mistakes corrected(conversation exchange group...)