The double standard & feminism on Love & Dating

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19 Aug 2012, 3:39 pm

MacDragard wrote:

This is just one of many double standards out there. You just have to accept it for what it is because it's biology mixed in with societal beliefs.

Guy who has a lot of sex = real man
Girl who has a lot of sex = slut/whore

Guy who cheats = scumbag
Girl who cheats = she's just pursuing her options

Guy who lies = scumbag
Girl who lies = You're SOL if you couldn't read the subtle cues

lol, Kristen Stewart would like a word

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19 Aug 2012, 5:38 pm

MacDragard wrote:

This is just one of many double standards out there. You just have to accept it for what it is because it's biology mixed in with societal beliefs.

Guy who has a lot of sex = single
Girl who has a lot of sex = single

Guy who cheats = single
Girl who cheats = single

Guy who lies = single
Girl who lies = single

Corrected.

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19 Aug 2012, 5:46 pm

Solvejg wrote:

MacDragard wrote:

Corrected.

Wrong.

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19 Aug 2012, 6:17 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Solvejg wrote:

MacDragard wrote:

Corrected.

Wrong.

I didn't get that one

Does it mean than when someone lies or cheats in a relationship, then their parter would break up and make them single? "having lots of sex" wouldn't be appropiate there though.

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20 Aug 2012, 1:38 am

Shatbat wrote:

Does it mean than when someone lies or cheats in a relationship, then their parter would break up and make them single?

If only all people had that much self-respect.

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20 Aug 2012, 1:43 am

Shatbat wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Solvejg wrote:

MacDragard wrote:

Corrected.

Wrong.

I didn't get that one

Does it mean than when someone lies or cheats in a relationship, then their parter would break up and make them single? "having lots of sex" wouldn't be appropiate there though.

you have obviously not been married. :lol:

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20 Aug 2012, 8:11 am

Wolfheart wrote:

It's important to discuss this point. When a guy posts a photo of his body and some like it, some women judge those women as being shallow yet when a girl posts a photo of her body, she has fifty white knights and these same females are willing to praise this girl for being confident in her body? Don't you think that's a double standard?

If someone doesn't fit in their boxes of rigid stereotypical thinking of how people on the spectrum or people off the spectrum should be or what is politically correct, they question their motives and judge them?

last year i moved a post of a female wearing a thong from Love & Dating to the Adult section (as they were intended to be sexy). and once i removed a post that contained your shirtless pictures and put them in the Health section (as they were intended to inspire other men to work out).

i don't remember seeing any other photos of men's bodies except in actual picture threads intended for that purpose. for example, there was a thread in Adult last year which contained lots of people's sexy pictures, and there were examples from both men and women. many members participated and nobody was made to feel bad for contributing regardless of gender.

as spongy pointed out, context is necessary. if we are talking about trains and someone posts a sexy pic of themselves next to a train, they will get called out by other members for showing off. but if it is a thread where people are invited to post photos of themselves, then it would be in context.

i think actual links may be helpful for an example of what you are talking about. i am also confused about what this has to do with feminism.

(Solvejg, on average, married people have more sex than single people. on an individual level it is not necessarily true though)

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