Is it a myth that better looking people are more arrogant?

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It's a myth that all of them are, but true that some are and some are not.

I think the thing to remember is, there are people like this and there are also many that aren't.

I had to do some work for foreigners, iirc they were from Sweden and I considered the women to be gorgeous. They were friendly towards me. But then again it could because I can't read social language that well.

I knew an ugly woman, only one, but she was evil as hell.

No I'm not arrogant .

I've noticed this, too. Once I actually got talking to said women, they're pretty nice. I think to a point, I'm like this more now, too, after my weight loss and getting into better shape. Instead of just being "shy" or "freaky" I now come off more as arrogant.

and are you? What else did you change together with weight and shape?

At my gym, people are very nice to each other--so no, attractive people are not always arrogant.

It's good to see that people understand that anyone can be shy, and that shyness can be mistaken for arrogance. Social awkwardness can be mistaken for arrogance I bet. A really dry sense of humor can be mistaken for arrogance. However, me thinking I'm always right is arrogance.

I am probably the only person here who would answer: No!!

Good-looking people are way more likely to be arrogant simply because they can afford it: People are more likely to tolerate their arrogance, especially people of the opposite sex.

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Better looking people seem more likely to have a bit of arrogance in their personality. But it's definitely not universal among them, nor is it limited to them.

A guy that did an installation for me, said he was on the phone with a client that happens to be a millionaire. He claimed they were so down to earth when you speak to them. Oh really, so they just happen to live in a super upper class area then? And his wife being super hot has got nothing to do with the freebies you do for them too?

People can be arrogant for different reasons. I'm arrogant about my own intelligence, not looks though. The trouble with people who have looks is that they tend to think their looks give them some magic power that makes them automatically fascinating - interestingness and wit is based on intelligence though, not looks.

Are they nice to fatties like me who have no muscle/endurance and just starting out? I'm so embarassed and afraid of being ridiculed by the jocks...

Yeah, as long as you're not a dick to them. Generally, the people that are like, super aesthetic or strong or whatever, are really nice. For example, one of the nicest guys at my gym is a bodybuilder who's pretty strong and very well built, leg presses like 700 for reps. He was extremely nice and helpful to me. The jackasses generally huddle in groups, but usually anyone working out alone is pretty cool. My experience anyway. Of course nobody bothers me ever as they may think I'm crazy, but hey. Most of the people at the gym are quite happy to help you out if you ask, in fact most like helping people like that.

As far as me being more arrogant, well, probably not. I've gotten actually shyer though for unrelated reasons. One thing working out did though was strengthen the postural muscles, so thus when I walk now my head is held higher and my back is straighter, I used to have way crappier posture.

I think that it can go both ways - attractive people can sometimes act as though they are better than others. But on the other hand, less attractive (and I use that in a very vague sense here) people can assume that attractive people are arrogant and be rude or arrogant to them, even if it may not be true.

In my experience good looking people can be nice but often bland. I think a certain amount of hardship gives a person a more rounded character though it can also warp them and make them unpleasant. I have to admit to having a bias against the overtly good looking as I feel they have such an unfair advantage in life - they annoy me. I get fed up of there being the 'right way' of seeing the world whereby you're meant to be all nice and forgiving and tolerating of everyone - it just doesn't work well for me. I don't go out of my way to be nasty to the better looking but they do nark me and if hardship befalls them I'm less bothered about it and part of me thinks to myself 'Good! have a bit of hardship for a change in your hallowed life! That's me being honest.
I think it's better to have a healthy ego and resent disadvantage rather than embracing it and worshipping the good looking as something society expects you to aspire to as many seem to do. I refuse - the good looking can compete with me on my terms, not society's!
Everyone has different experiences in life and it's not right to say there's a 'one size fits all' way of looking at the world that everyone should conform to.

I am good looking but it never gave me an advantage. Having aspergers and MCTD has trumped my good looks every time. I have never had better luck dating or received any special treatment. My life on the whole has been extremely difficult. So it's not always an "advantage" for everyone. I think it has to occur together with other factors to create a circumstance of advantage.

G.