Anyone other Aspies not happy about their virginity?

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Maybe you should ask after a few months of dating. I feel like the third date thing is overrated.
Also, I was speaking in general to anyone who might be reading the post, but I'm glad you do not pressure. I wrote that before I read your story. I posted again after I did read it and some other peoples posts.

If it really is all you can think about (I know the feeling) try masturbation. But I don't recommend porn, cause it can lead to a legit addiction. Plus it usually cost money right?

Or try getting a hobby.

something tells me there possibly could be more male virgins out there than female virgins

At 38, yes it does bother me. However, it's not really about the sex. I have been offered that before and said no. Why? Because the situation was purely sexual with no hope of a relationship with the other person. They just wanted to experience being someone's first time and didn't actually have feelings for me. I didn't want to be used. What I wanted then is what I want now: a relationship with mutual attraction and a personal connection. That is what I can't get and that is what I find the most depressing. Worse still, I can't even so much as get a date. No one wants to give me a chance and I find that the most depressing thing of all.

I'm twenty years old.

I am not bothered by my ''virginity''. I really want to be able to say to a woman that she was my first and will be my only til death do us part.

What bothers me is I'm so hooked on pornography that I don't feel like a virgin. I feel like a dirty pervert. And most of my fantasies hinge around what I watch.

I know I'll have to deal with those issues before I try to find a life-long relationship.

That's a good way of putting it for me. I'm not so concerned about being a virgin (need to have that emotional connection first... I'm beginning to sound like a woman ) but it does bother me that no woman has deemed me 'worthy' when all the scumbags I know are in relationships. I'm a nice caring guy but I have my wild side as hidden as it is and I'm intensely loyal and stable in every way. Whenever I hear a woman talk about how there are no honest men left, I will point out that I am one only to hear them say weeks later the exact same thing to someone else. It also doesn't help that I desire to be a family man either. I thought single women at 30 generally want kids?!

I mean, if it doesn't work out that's fine but I can't even get a chance to show who I am and the side I can't talk about in a family friendly forum. Every older married woman I know me tells me women must be insane to pass me up but here I am. I've been told it might be because there's no drama in my life but I thought marriage, kids, etc would bring more than enough for anymore, male or female! As well, I'm getting to the age where women are instantly turned away by my lack of experience as if I'm a freak as opposed to the fact I avoided relationships with them (I want quality not quantity). It's frustrating to say the least but on the plus side with all the free time I'm getting pretty ripped at the gym!

I'm dealing with it, especially since I'm come close to losing my v-card, as I've done some kinky stuff with an ex.

I haven't looked at porn in months. Watch the yourbrainonporn series. It really helped me overcome my addiction.

i wish i could stop looking at it

I do regret losing it to the wrong person. I thought she loved me back but she just wanted to use me exploit me and toss me aside for her own satisfaction.

i will admit, i did actually have a chance to lose my virginity when i was 20, it was my first sexual experience with a girl, as in i experienced oral sex, both receiving and giving