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20 Aug 2012, 8:58 pm

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Step 3 sounds pretty ridiculous to me. Why on earth would you want to try and emulate someone else. It goes against the idea of free thinking and being your own person. Don't pretend to be something that you're not, doesn't normally work out too well in the long run.

Because it makes you an Alpha. If that's what you want to be, you have to be prepared to be like all the others.



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20 Aug 2012, 9:03 pm

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That all seems like pretty good advice to become an Alpha Male (it seems to be for males in particular and doesn't seem to be for Aspies in particular, so I changed the name).

I would just change this part

Wolfheart wrote:
Women will try get a hold if your balls if you let them

to either:

"Some women will try to get a hold of your balls if you let them", i.e. the Alpha Women or whatever they are called; or
"Believe that women will try to get a hold of your balls if you let them", because it's really your attitude towards women (not necessarily the truth) that makes you a better Alpha Male.


If you're the type of man who'll let them, then that's the type of woman you'll attract.

Also, step 4. A thousand times, step 4. For most guys having little luck with women, this is the most important advice they can get.


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20 Aug 2012, 9:08 pm

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Because it makes you an Alpha. If that's what you want to be, you have to be prepared to be like all the others.


Not at all. You can apply self belief and assertive qualities to yourself without emulating some one else. Attempting to be someone else suggests you have no identity of your own.



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20 Aug 2012, 9:09 pm

I agree with most of this, but not all. Also, you don't need to be muscular or very good looking, people can be alpha for other reasons, such as mental/emotional states, and occupation.


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20 Aug 2012, 9:28 pm

Colinn wrote:
yellowtamarin wrote:
Because it makes you an Alpha. If that's what you want to be, you have to be prepared to be like all the others.


Not at all. You can apply self belief and assertive qualities to yourself without emulating some one else. Attempting to be someone else suggests you have no identity of your own.

Okay, I may have the wrong idea of what "Alpha" means then. To me it's the kind of guy I try to steer clear of, but maybe it is something else, does it just mean dominant? Successful? Someone please clarify :)



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20 Aug 2012, 9:36 pm

You got it right pretty much.



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21 Aug 2012, 11:04 am

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Wouldn't part of being an Alpha have to do with being muscular? I know it doesn't necessarilly have to, but I always assume talks of alphas are talking about jocks.


Not necessarily. There are situational alphas (whoever is tasked to be in charge of something) and alphas by social status who are hardly muscular.



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21 Aug 2012, 12:02 pm

Colinn wrote:
yellowtamarin wrote:
Because it makes you an Alpha. If that's what you want to be, you have to be prepared to be like all the others.


Not at all. You can apply self belief and assertive qualities to yourself without emulating some one else. Attempting to be someone else suggests you have no identity of your own.


I'd say, because there are other people with positive qualities you like, and then it is useful to emulate those qualities if you want them for yourself, and a good way to do that is seeing them in action. Nothing wrong about having a role model. It must not necessarily be a Vegas highroller, just someone you think has the things you want for yourself. Also, it's not about acting just like them, just picking the things you like.


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