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20 Aug 2012, 7:44 pm

Quite a few people only apply their religion when its convenient to them.

Ive heard heavy christians say some crazy things at bible readings and pointed them out which parts of the bible they were ignoring at the time, truth is I havent even read a bible and most of the times I went by something I heard and one of the other assistants gave the reference.

For quite a few of these people the bible can be ignored when what they want is against the bible but thats okay because god will forgive you for your mistakes as long as you feel truly sorry about what you did later on in life(the thats okay part is actuallly a quote from a priest)



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20 Aug 2012, 11:29 pm

I wonder if she is trying to find your limits and how much your willing to bend to appease her own interests.



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21 Aug 2012, 12:51 am

i had a similar experience, many times over. i had married a semi-practising christian, and i was an atheist. he seemed pretty open-minded but there were sticking points (details are too intimate, but they mostly revolved around sex).

we had some moments of really shocking each other, yet also some awesome debates. he truly believed i was going to go to hell unless he married me (if one person in the household is baptised, apparently everyone is saved). it was his responsibility in his mind. i was opposed to marriage at the time, but it was important to him and i wanted some stability for our child.

even though we had massive sticking points, it still worked because ultimately we were able to compromise on things. i went to church on special occasions if it was important to him, and we got married in a secular ceremony (for my sake).

we chipped away at each other over the years. i became an agnostic and he became a non-practising theist. but we did end up separating and will be divorcing, so you can take all this with a grain of salt!

(i actually understand the pork thing in another sort of way. i stopped eating chicken about 25 years ago because i read about their treatment on farms and i was very upset about it. now, free range chicken from organic farms is freely available yet i can't bear to eat it. it still feels _wrong_ even though technically it should be fine)


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21 Aug 2012, 1:59 am

hyperlexian wrote:
i had a similar experience, many times over. i had married a semi-practising christian, and i was an atheist. he seemed pretty open-minded but there were sticking points (details are too intimate, but they mostly revolved around sex).

we had some moments of really shocking each other, yet also some awesome debates. he truly believed i was going to go to hell unless he married me (if one person in the household is baptised, apparently everyone is saved). it was his responsibility in his mind. i was opposed to marriage at the time, but it was important to him and i wanted some stability for our child.

even though we had massive sticking points, it still worked because ultimately we were able to compromise on things. i went to church on special occasions if it was important to him, and we got married in a secular ceremony (for my sake).

we chipped away at each other over the years. i became an agnostic and he became a non-practising theist. but we did end up separating and will be divorcing, so you can take all this with a grain of salt!

(i actually understand the pork thing in another sort of way. i stopped eating chicken about 25 years ago because i read about their treatment on farms and i was very upset about it. now, free range chicken from organic farms is freely available yet i can't bear to eat it. it still feels _wrong_ even though technically it should be fine)


But you did have sex before marriage, no?

'Adultery' for my partner is out of the question.



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21 Aug 2012, 2:06 am

he considered us married in the eyes of god from the first time we had sex, actually. :/


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21 Aug 2012, 8:37 am

sounds like one of the inane arguments I have with my husband. He told me last night I must renounce Jesus as my lord and savior unless I believed in holy spirit annointed healings and throw out my son's hyperactivity medication. He also told me unless people have healings they aren't really saved and are going to hell.

I've decided he's gone off the deep end. I am an active practicing Christian but that is just extremism and he's lost his mind. He justifies being incredibly cheap and mean with the Bible and has no understanding of the phrase "love one another" nor the basic tenants of Christian faith.

I think you OP will need to discuss how much of your faith you are willing to practice and where you draw the line. Marrying a very religious person who verges on fundamentalism generally isn't a good idea if your faith varies. I am not Muslim and know very little about it but I've felt very alone and have had to make decisions alone for the good of myself and my children. You may end up in the same situation with this girl if you aren't careful.



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21 Aug 2012, 10:55 am

I didn't know that Christians and non-Christians drinks alcohol at lunch time? Is this normal?



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21 Aug 2012, 11:08 am

Stalk wrote:
I didn't know that Christians and non-Christians drinks alcohol at lunch time?


This used to be an awful lot more common in mainly-secular Britain up to the 1990s or so. People used to regularly go out for a pint or two and some lunch at dinner time. This is an awful lot less common in this country now.

I suspect that, if anything, people are less likely to go out to drink at lunchtime than they used to, not more.



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21 Aug 2012, 11:16 am

Stalk wrote:
I didn't know that Christians and non-Christians drinks alcohol at lunch time? Is this normal?


They might order beer or wine here.



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21 Aug 2012, 11:19 am

Pale piss only in the beer stakes I take it The_Face_of_Boo? Lebanese beer doesn't look especially worthy of investigation. Much like the beers of many places outside Europe, U.S./Canada and Australia/New Zealand.



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21 Aug 2012, 11:21 am

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Pale piss only in the beer stakes I take it The_Face_of_Boo? Lebanese beer doesn't look especially worthy of investigation. Much like the beers of many places outside Europe, U.S./Canada and Australia/New Zealand.


No, it's my piss, highest quality, wanna some? A true Middle-eastern's beer!



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21 Aug 2012, 11:57 am

I don't think it is common here to drink alcohol at lunch at all. Sorry for sidetracking the thread.



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21 Aug 2012, 1:32 pm

I know several people who are dating of various religious convictions. It's not illogical at all.



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21 Aug 2012, 1:41 pm

spongy wrote:
Quite a few people only apply their religion when its convenient to them.


And this is a good example of that happening. You'll probably find there are a couple of things your partner doesn't do or think that matches their religious code. I think it's a matter of compromise and adaptation like most relationships. You could always drink at other times :)



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21 Aug 2012, 2:53 pm

kate123A wrote:
I think you OP will need to discuss how much of your faith you are willing to practice and where you draw the line.


I am agnostic to atheist.



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21 Aug 2012, 2:59 pm

Everyone here is ranking on Boo for having a religious girlfriend, however, a lot of times the only alternative is someone who party rocks in the house every night and smokes weed everyday. So...yeah... Pick your poison, Boo.