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21 Aug 2012, 6:49 pm

I (agnostic) have been in a happy relationship with a Christian girl for years. Whatever her reasons, she puts no pressure on me to convert, for which I am grateful. Having grown up in a religious house and having attended religious schools, I can understand why she is drawn to her church and I don't give her a hard time for it.

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21 Aug 2012, 8:42 pm

In an ideal world: I wouldn't hold someone's opinions against them if they didn't judge me, including religion.

In reality: Most of the time, if I've seen a relationship work between people of separate belief systems, those beliefs are still pretty similar (e.g., Shia and Sunni Muslim; liberal protestant and liberal Jew) rather than between atheists and theists. I'm not saying there are none, but I don't know how many people are really easy-going enough to accept that difference.

Besides, I find that the people with whom I have something in common have a very high chance of being atheist anyway, so it's never been an issue.

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22 Aug 2012, 4:58 am

Considering that I actually care that my religion wouldn't allow me to marry someone of another religion, yeah, I would pretty much rule out dating them, too. Although, if someone I was dating changed religion, I'd still try to help them out as much as I could, and definitely wouldn't just immediately dump them. As a new convert myself, I can kinda sympathize.

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22 Aug 2012, 5:50 am

Cei wrote:

If someone converted to your religion in order to marry you, would he have to believe or would going through the motions be enough?

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22 Aug 2012, 6:07 am

I believe the Bible is the Word of God so I would never be spiritually connected with a non-believer. As for friends it doesn't matter that much as long as they aren't bad influences.

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22 Aug 2012, 9:00 am

so if you were dating someone and after 18 months, you discovered they were of a differant religion then you thought, how would you feel?

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22 Aug 2012, 9:16 am

Solvejg wrote:

so if you were dating someone and after 18 months, you discovered they were of a differant religion then you thought, how would you feel?

I'd feel lied to, because I would have already asked them flat out, ages ago.

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22 Aug 2012, 9:27 am

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I have a very strong preference to only date those who do not believe in supernatural things. I would struggle to date anyone religious.

Does this include aliens?

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22 Aug 2012, 9:33 am

Wolfheart wrote:

yellowtamarin wrote:

I have a very strong preference to only date those who do not believe in supernatural things. I would struggle to date anyone religious.

Does this include aliens?

Depends what you mean by "aliens". I don't believe that the existence of life on other planets would be a supernatural thing, but believing in little green Martians crosses the line...

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22 Aug 2012, 9:53 am

yellowtamarin wrote:

Wolfheart wrote:

yellowtamarin wrote:

I have a very strong preference to only date those who do not believe in supernatural things. I would struggle to date anyone religious.

Does this include aliens?

Depends what you mean by "aliens". I don't believe that the existence of life on other planets would be a supernatural thing, but believing in little green Martians crosses the line...

What if they made a very profitable from writing supernatural articles and books?

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22 Aug 2012, 10:04 am

Wolfheart wrote:

yellowtamarin wrote:

Wolfheart wrote:

yellowtamarin wrote:

I have a very strong preference to only date those who do not believe in supernatural things. I would struggle to date anyone religious.

Does this include aliens?

Depends what you mean by "aliens". I don't believe that the existence of life on other planets would be a supernatural thing, but believing in little green Martians crosses the line...

What if they made a very profitable from writing supernatural articles and books?

I would question their motives - are they deliberately misleading others for their own gain? I would not want to be in a relationship with that sort of person. (Plus income is not a factor I consider so none of what you said there is a lure for me.) Are we getting a bit off-topic? I don't want to derail the thread...

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22 Aug 2012, 11:50 am

I've quit trying because it always becomes a deal breaker for the other person, since I'm a non-believer. Of course I have no problem dating people of a variety of faiths, so long as they accept me for who I am and don't try to change me. Sadly that is seldom the case, especially with Christians, who like someone who'll reinforce their views without introducing any new ideas that will make their empty little heads hurt.

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22 Aug 2012, 3:09 pm

Brianruns10 wrote:

Sadly that is seldom the case, especially with Christians, who like someone who'll reinforce their views without introducing any new ideas that will make their empty little heads hurt.

Can we do this without hurling insults, please?

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24 Aug 2012, 4:24 am

Rocky wrote:

Cei wrote:

If someone converted to your religion in order to marry you, would he have to believe or would going through the motions be enough?

I'm not the Thought Police. I'd expect him to at least not admit to just going through the motions, but that's it.

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