do aspies have trust issues?

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Well, my boyfriend had a lot of trust issues in the beginning. He is autistic. I think he has finally reached a good level of confidence and feels secure in our relationship, so it's definitely possible to overcome trust issues.

I, personally, am not on the spectrum but I have major trust issues far worse than my boyfriend's were. Still, I'm getting a grip on it and I am noticing a little improvement here and there as the days go on. Sometimes I feel like I take a big step back, but I start moving forward again eventually.

You don't have to be plagued with trust issues forever. I hope that you do overcome them someday. It is a very freeing experience.

I have difficulties trusting others right away due to past relationships esspecially one that was an abusive relationship.

thanks guys all of you were of big help.
I haven't just all of a sudden overcome all the issues but it feels much better!!

Hats off to UnBored though, I think they've influenced you the most.
Should you tell him your an aspie or not? Well... you should but probably when it's got to a 6 week relationship.

i have trust issues as well but they are more about not trusting any nerutypical because they are... well not as smart as me. or they make more mistakes than i do. they break promises or do things wrong. maybe its my ego.

I've learned a long time ago: don't trust ANYONE!! ! except your own family.

I have terrible trust issues. I've learned to have some faith in myself, but I take forever to trust others. I try to be friendly to people, but I can't fully trust people that I've known for years. I always have a fear of my friends suddenly cutting me off and ditching me for no reason. That's what the last guy that I dated did, and now I'm afraid that any other buy that I date of befriend will do the same thing. I'm sure that it's an irrational fear, but I can't seem to get over it because I'd feel to vulnerable if I trust people quickly.

well yeah it's really because of UnBored..it's because of him that i decided to take a chance!!
So from my side i am still asking him to be friends and to get to know each other better..and from his side the relationship's already 3 yrs old!!
So i'll be able to tell him that i am an aspie after some time of our 'friendship'.
I'm afraid though that he might be only able to love me and not understand me..and the love part might wear off someday!!

I trust other people like a wild animal trusts humans.

''I trust other people like a wild animal trusts
humans.''
umm..its not the same with me..like when i get friendly with people it can be fun..but then it's like i have an alter ego that's the same as you and tries to hide the 'real' feelings from everybody!

Aspies can't always tell if someone is deceptive or not, so it is much easier for NT's to betray our trust. So in order to protect ourselves we just simply cannot trust NTs at all.

Especially the ones we're supposed to trust and depend on, like pill-pushing quack psychiatrists who force you to take drugs that give you all kinds of awful side effects, you only see them once every three months, and all they ask is are you still taking the pills. You answer yes, and then you're back out in the hallway. You can't tell them anything anyway because then their answer is for you to check back into the hospital, which they know you hate worse than death. They may as well suggest I get lobotomized.

At least that was my own personal experiences, anyway, and that's why I don't trust psychiatrists. They should be in jail for making me go through life misdiagnosed with schizophrenia form disorder, making me take awful drugs, and forcing me to live at a home for severely mentally disabled people. But they aren't. At least one of them got what he deserved: he's DEAD.

I have trust issues with friends & trust issues with my ex-boyfriend from the past. And I don't trust my sister.

I had a best friend whom I trusted ... lost her to heart disease.
I feel she still watches over me and hope to see her again in Heaven.

I've also trusted my father and my grandparents,
was always very close to them.
They also have died.

I met a famous blogger this summer,
had the privilege of driving him around.
One of the most decent men I've ever met in my life.

There are good people out there.
They are definitely rare.

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I had problems trusting my 1st two girlfriends due to my OCD causing me to think things were going on that weren't which caused me to get very clingy, needy & controlling(I was diagnosed with codependency amongst lots of other things due to my bad behaviors caused my my worrying thoughts). I didn't have that problem in my current relationship cuz I got my OCD treated shortly before I got in this relationship.

People do lie, so some caution is actually a good thing. It's harder for some people to tell when they're being lied to than others.

I don't agree that we shouldn't trust anyone, but we should be careful about taking chances on claims that seem unlikely or too good to be true until we know more. As should anyone.

I used to think that's what trust meant, but not really anymore, at least when the phrasing of trust issue comes up.
To trust someone means you are comfortable divulging and sharing your innermost self. I have trust issues.

I think it would be very hard to not have trust issues given most spectrumites social problems.