Online Dating

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I'm interested to hear that so many people think online dating sucks, when some have still gotten dates out of it. What is a better method for getting dates than the online method, for us socially awkward penguins? To those who hate it, do you have more luck, or meet less shallow/ugly/etc people somewhere else? If so, where?

Personally I find that the humans on online dating sites are the same humans that are out in the real world. But online, it's easier to make contact with them. Maybe a lot of the "good ones" don't use online dating sites, but I wouldn't know where to find them instead, other than waiting for a chance meeting.

I have tried some dating sites. It can be very frustrating.

I think many women see dating sites in a different way than men. I think women either use it to only find the ultimate best man they could ever get in touch with (like a Marlboro man 2.0), or they just like to read the messages they receive and feel flattered by them. The latter group may rarely reply, but only if they feel they have something to directly talk about, regarding your message or profile.

Then maybe there is a third group of women, that actually sign up and message someone they like. But they are not much interested to deal with other men. I have had several messages on these sites by girls that might belong to this group. I never really knew for certain if it wasn't some lunatic on the other side of the line though.

I have to admit I have actually been on a date once via a datingsite, it was alright, but nothing really came out of it. She seemed alright, but our lifestyles were too incompatible.

What works much better is to get involved in social groups on the internet, with a handful of people. This way you may get to know women too, and actually get much better contact with them. If this group is something you are interested in, you already have 1 thing in common

I had a few decent self-shots on PlentyOfSh-t and got the usual results. I posted this joke photo and sat back while my Inbox flooded, without having changed a single word of text



I answered the ones I liked 'in character' a bit and could be still volleying messages at this moment had I left it up. As soon as I started to let the real me show, back to crickets. As much as I felt they deserved it I couldn't bear messing with superficial women's heads forever. Shame on me for not realizing sooner that just because someone writes about wanting someone with integrity they don't have to mean it