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31 Aug 2012, 5:27 pm

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Sorry, Wolf, I think you have the right message for sure but are displaying the wrong attitude for that message.

Instead of giving advice (which you're normally balanced with) you showed us an insight into your self absorbed and narcissistic nature. This thread wasn't in the least bit helpful, all it did was imply you think you're a great person that can score with a lot of girls because you are ... so great (and will probably argue they do, too, as a retort).


At the end of the day, you can either view something with a positive attitude or a negative attitude and if you choose to view it with an negative attitude, you won't gain anything from it.

The point of the thread is that success comes from within, you can either be a victim of your circumstances or someone that is willing to put up a fight. There are people in far worse situations than just having Asperger's and we should be grateful that we have the opportunity to fit in, be physically healthy and live fulfilling lives instead of creating this us and them or victim mentality.


lol..I'm saying you twisted a positive message (the one you wanted to show) into some sort of self gratifying display for all to see in a board. I'm generally a very positive person. I'm also quite an open minded one (how many other people here try and reach middle grounds with their critics?). As someone that doesn't come from dire circumstances yet at times have let my person get the better of me, I can say you have really let your ego get the better of you. You don't see me blowing my own trumpet all the time in here.

Feel free to dismiss any criticism as having a negative attitude, but that will only deflect the truth for so long.

I agree that success does come from within, but getting responses from naive American women by attempting to be the dark, brooding, mysterious European when you already have good looks and practice at pickups is hardly a success story that will help people with real problems here get a realistic outlook on dating. There's a saying from where you and I come from - "Fit and you know it". Face it, this was a self serving thread.



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31 Aug 2012, 5:57 pm

Why are his pics always in b/w?



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31 Aug 2012, 6:07 pm

Replies on a dating site mean nothing - how many actual shags did you get out of this exercise?

(I'm assuming none as they're all in America!)

And what exactly happened with the 3 people you met up with in the UK - we need precise details

What does 'I will have met three in this week alone and one ended up going very successful' mean? Paid for her own drinks, second date, sex, didn't run away screaming?

Details! - after all you are the self-professed guru here!



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31 Aug 2012, 6:12 pm

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Why are his pics always in b/w?


He probably paid to have them done professionally for his portfolio



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31 Aug 2012, 6:42 pm

It's the beard. I swear it's the damn beard. As a Barman you'd be surprised how confidant and charming Guys with beards seem to be with the women.

Obviously there's no logic behind this and they're the exception not the Rule. But honestly It's the beard I swear.


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31 Aug 2012, 6:44 pm

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It's the beard. I swear it's the damn beard. As a Barman you'd be surprised how confidant and charming Guys with beards seem to be with the women.

Obviously there's no logic behind this and they're the exception not the Rule. But honestly It's the beard I swear.


No it's not - it's his slight resemblance to Richard Gere

It's looks over anything he's saying to them anyway



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31 Aug 2012, 6:51 pm

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It's the beard. I swear it's the damn beard. As a Barman you'd be surprised how confidant and charming Guys with beards seem to be with the women.

Obviously there's no logic behind this and they're the exception not the Rule. But honestly It's the beard I swear.


No it's not - it's his slight resemblance to Richard Gere

It's looks over anything he's saying to them anyway


Am not just talking about Wolf, I ment most the Scottish lads with beards I've seen while working, In wolfs case it's just Social Confidance and intitution that does most of the work.

Personaly I say look after your body and your confidance will sky rocket, and confidance is the main thing that gets the girls. Am a bit of a hypocrit though, as I can't keep a girl for the life of me.


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31 Aug 2012, 6:51 pm

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Why are his pics always in b/w?


He probably paid to have them done professionally for his portfolio


It just makes them hard to tell what his face actually looks like though.



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31 Aug 2012, 6:53 pm

IrishTusk wrote:
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It's the beard. I swear it's the damn beard. As a Barman you'd be surprised how confidant and charming Guys with beards seem to be with the women.

Obviously there's no logic behind this and they're the exception not the Rule. But honestly It's the beard I swear.


No it's not - it's his slight resemblance to Richard Gere

It's looks over anything he's saying to them anyway


Am not just talking about Wolf, I ment most the Scottish lads with beards I've seen while working, In wolfs case it's just Social Confidance and intitution that does most of the work.

Personaly I say look after your body and your confidance will sky rocket, and confidance is the main thing that gets the girls. Am a bit of a hypocrit though, as I can't keep a girl for the life of me.


No it's his looks that do the work hence he doesn't even have to be saying anything even remotely interesting to these women



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31 Aug 2012, 6:55 pm

Venger wrote:
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Why are his pics always in b/w?


He probably paid to have them done professionally for his portfolio


It just makes them hard to tell what his face actually looks like though.


I think it's fair to say he's generically attractive



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31 Aug 2012, 6:57 pm

nessa238 wrote:
Venger wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
Venger wrote:
Why are his pics always in b/w?


He probably paid to have them done professionally for his portfolio


It just makes them hard to tell what his face actually looks like though.


I think it's fair to say he's generically attractive


generically attractive whiteboy lol



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31 Aug 2012, 7:50 pm

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Replies on a dating site mean nothing - how many actual shags did you get out of this exercise?

(I'm assuming none as they're all in America!)

And what exactly happened with the 3 people you met up with in the UK - we need precise details

What does 'I will have met three in this week alone and one ended up going very successful' mean? Paid for her own drinks, second date, sex, didn't run away screaming?

Details! - after all you are the self-professed guru here!


This is what I was trying to tell him earlier. I've also gotten plenty of responses on OKCupid, but they were all for nothing as I only ended up flirting back and forth with them and never amounted to anything. I certainly wouldn't make a topic bragging about it.



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31 Aug 2012, 9:21 pm

BigBossMSF wrote:
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Replies on a dating site mean nothing - how many actual shags did you get out of this exercise?

(I'm assuming none as they're all in America!)

And what exactly happened with the 3 people you met up with in the UK - we need precise details

What does 'I will have met three in this week alone and one ended up going very successful' mean? Paid for her own drinks, second date, sex, didn't run away screaming?

Details! - after all you are the self-professed guru here!


This is what I was trying to tell him earlier. I've also gotten plenty of responses on OKCupid, but they were all for nothing as I only ended up firsting back and forth with them and never amounted to anything. I certainly wouldn't make a topic bragging about it.


Yes, especially when there's zero chance in meeting them unless you go to America. You gonna get a flight here, and try your luck, like, not on OKCupid?



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31 Aug 2012, 11:05 pm

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This is what I was trying to tell him earlier. I've also gotten plenty of responses on OKCupid, but they were all for nothing as I only ended up firsting back and forth with them and never amounted to anything. I certainly wouldn't make a topic bragging about it.


Your main problem is in closing, if you are getting responses and creating interest, you aren't maintaining that interest. As I said, I get women message me first and that even opens that door up because it already creates a point of interest. If you create an interesting enough profile with good enough photos, you will receive messages first.

The key is to take my advice in the other thread and to project the most positive traits you can through your words. The point of this is to show that it doesn't where you are, California, New York, Dubai, London, there is a universal standard of attraction and it's not very subjective. So you need to project the best possible image of yourself that you can.



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31 Aug 2012, 11:17 pm

Venger wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
Venger wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
Venger wrote:
Why are his pics always in b/w?


He probably paid to have them done professionally for his portfolio


It just makes them hard to tell what his face actually looks like though.


I think it's fair to say he's generically attractive


generically attractive whiteboy lol


Stereotypical racist? Do you have a problem with white people? what has race got to do with this thread?



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31 Aug 2012, 11:23 pm

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This is what I was trying to tell him earlier. I've also gotten plenty of responses on OKCupid, but they were all for nothing as I only ended up firsting back and forth with them and never amounted to anything. I certainly wouldn't make a topic bragging about it.


Getting messages first or responses is half the battle, the rest from that is just about maintaining interest, creating is interest is half the battle in itself. Once you got interest, it makes it far easier to close, that's what some of you need to realize and I'm not sure what you are doing wrong here.

Could you post some examples?