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04 Sep 2012, 5:06 am

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i know a few people who are having affairs.

One man does it because his sex drive is a lot more then his wife. He married for love and social obligation. She doesn't even allow him to self pleasure in her house so ultimately he goes elsewhere after the fact he would spend his lunch break daily giving himself a hand.

Another man is having an affair because he met someone he can talk to. It is purely an emotional affair and all they do is talk.

The third man i know is just a vile pig of a man. He gets off on sex and will do anything to get the high from cheating. I think he probably has a sex addiction. :?

I have been guilty in the past of cheating on partners to get what is missing from the relationship. It is nothing to do with love. Although my first other man took my virginity and is still in my life as my best mate. We joke that we will get married when we live in a retirement villiage. I do love him.


1. To me, love is companionship, intimacy, and responsibility to take care of and protect that person. If you don't have all three then you shouldn't be together. Going off to multiple people to get bits and pieces of those missing parts is ridiculous, drama starting, and dysfunctional.

2. If all they do is talk then it's not cheating, they are not involved on a sexual level so sleeping with someone else is like me being friends with a girl but having an actual GF as well.

3. Straight up wrong, thats usually the main reason people cheat, because they are just sh***y people.



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04 Sep 2012, 5:07 am

OliveOilMom wrote:
BigBossMSF wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
BigBossMSF wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
Sometimes people cheat for other reasons than they aren't in love. It's possible to be deeply in love with someone who for some reason cannot give you what you need emotionally or physically.

It's not always about them not being as high and mighty as you are.


There's no excuse. It's wrong...end of story.


Easy to sit in judgement when you haven't been in every situation.

I hope your all or nothing worldview keeps working for you.


I challenge you to present me with a reasonable excuse to cheat on someone.


Honestly, probably nothing would be reasonable to you, considering your judgemental and condescending tone. Good luck with that in the future.

Also, remember this; nobody is obligated to justify themselves to you. You live your life, others live theirs. All that dissapproving of them will get you is frown lines.


There's no tone, I just think it's wrong. Why are you afraid to debate it?



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04 Sep 2012, 5:09 am

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I know a woman whose husband was in an accident that resulted in some sort of brain damage and he's basically got the mind of a child. She takes care of him and everything but I always imagined if she were to seek relations outside of her marriage, it would be pretty hard to judge her for that.

Is that even cheating, though?


I don't think so, considering the husbands life as a sex partner is over and i doubt he cares about a sexual relationship with that type of brain damage at that point, if anything the woman is his caretaker and shes having her own relationships on top of it.

Cheating is like. Where the other person is believing that you share a mutual bond both ssexually and emotionally and one partner is going off to get that from someone else despite leading you on. How anyone can justify this as right and ok, I can't even understand.



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04 Sep 2012, 5:11 am

BigBossMSF wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
BigBossMSF wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
BigBossMSF wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
Sometimes people cheat for other reasons than they aren't in love. It's possible to be deeply in love with someone who for some reason cannot give you what you need emotionally or physically.

It's not always about them not being as high and mighty as you are.


There's no excuse. It's wrong...end of story.


Easy to sit in judgement when you haven't been in every situation.

I hope your all or nothing worldview keeps working for you.


I challenge you to present me with a reasonable excuse to cheat on someone.


Honestly, probably nothing would be reasonable to you, considering your judgemental and condescending tone. Good luck with that in the future.

Also, remember this; nobody is obligated to justify themselves to you. You live your life, others live theirs. All that dissapproving of them will get you is frown lines.


There's no tone, I just think it's wrong. Why are you afraid to debate it?


I'm not "afraid to debate it", I just don't see how debating other people's personal lives is anyone's business.


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04 Sep 2012, 5:17 am

OliveOilMom wrote:
BigBossMSF wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
BigBossMSF wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
BigBossMSF wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
Sometimes people cheat for other reasons than they aren't in love. It's possible to be deeply in love with someone who for some reason cannot give you what you need emotionally or physically.

It's not always about them not being as high and mighty as you are.


There's no excuse. It's wrong...end of story.


Easy to sit in judgement when you haven't been in every situation.

I hope your all or nothing worldview keeps working for you.


I challenge you to present me with a reasonable excuse to cheat on someone.


Honestly, probably nothing would be reasonable to you, considering your judgemental and condescending tone. Good luck with that in the future.

Also, remember this; nobody is obligated to justify themselves to you. You live your life, others live theirs. All that dissapproving of them will get you is frown lines.


There's no tone, I just think it's wrong. Why are you afraid to debate it?


I'm not "afraid to debate it", I just don't see how debating other people's personal lives is anyone's business.


So do you think it's right to tell someone you love them and they are all you need and they make you happy while you are out f*****g some other person at the same time without them knowing?



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04 Sep 2012, 5:31 am

Also you would be surprised at the types of people who cheat. Ministers, doctors, teachers, You never know. Most people don't go advertising it.



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04 Sep 2012, 5:36 am

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Also you would be surprised at the types of people who cheat. Ministers, doctors, teachers, You never know. Most people don't go advertising it.


Cheating is far more common than what some of us would like to think.
Flaunting about what they did however is a completely different story and its not that common(may be somewhat common between a group of males when one of them is boasting about his exploits and between close female friends but aside from that its quite rare)

Both are despicable though



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04 Sep 2012, 6:03 am

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I know a woman whose husband was in an accident that resulted in some sort of brain damage and he's basically got the mind of a child. She takes care of him and everything but I always imagined if she were to seek relations outside of her marriage, it would be pretty hard to judge her for that.

Is that even cheating, though?
that is crazy..but if she had an affair I would not look down on her(and I am of the same mindset as the op)


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04 Sep 2012, 6:06 am

BigBossMSF wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
BigBossMSF wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
BigBossMSF wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
BigBossMSF wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
Sometimes people cheat for other reasons than they aren't in love. It's possible to be deeply in love with someone who for some reason cannot give you what you need emotionally or physically.

It's not always about them not being as high and mighty as you are.


There's no excuse. It's wrong...end of story.


Easy to sit in judgement when you haven't been in every situation.

I hope your all or nothing worldview keeps working for you.


I challenge you to present me with a reasonable excuse to cheat on someone.


Honestly, probably nothing would be reasonable to you, considering your judgemental and condescending tone. Good luck with that in the future.

Also, remember this; nobody is obligated to justify themselves to you. You live your life, others live theirs. All that dissapproving of them will get you is frown lines.


There's no tone, I just think it's wrong. Why are you afraid to debate it?


I'm not "afraid to debate it", I just don't see how debating other people's personal lives is anyone's business.


So do you think it's right to tell someone you love them and they are all you need and they make you happy while you are out f***ing some other person at the same time without them knowing?


Well lets see, maybe after a long marriage when one partner just will not meet the emotional or physical needs of the other, even after years and years of discussion over it and knowing how important it is to her, and he has cheated on her as well many times and gotten caught, yet she does still love him and she has no way of actually leaving him without just living in a cardboard box in the woods because there are no resources where she lives and women shelters won't help her because she's not abused, maybe, just maybe, somebody comes along who gives her that little emotional thing she needs (not love at all, just feeling desired and attractive) and the best sex she's ever had, rather than the 6 minute once a month sex that her husband gives her, then maybe, just maybe, it's how she manages to stay.


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04 Sep 2012, 6:10 am

OliveOilMom wrote:
BigBossMSF wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
BigBossMSF wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
BigBossMSF wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
BigBossMSF wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
Sometimes people cheat for other reasons than they aren't in love. It's possible to be deeply in love with someone who for some reason cannot give you what you need emotionally or physically.

It's not always about them not being as high and mighty as you are.


There's no excuse. It's wrong...end of story.


Easy to sit in judgement when you haven't been in every situation.

I hope your all or nothing worldview keeps working for you.


I challenge you to present me with a reasonable excuse to cheat on someone.


Honestly, probably nothing would be reasonable to you, considering your judgemental and condescending tone. Good luck with that in the future.

Also, remember this; nobody is obligated to justify themselves to you. You live your life, others live theirs. All that dissapproving of them will get you is frown lines.


There's no tone, I just think it's wrong. Why are you afraid to debate it?


I'm not "afraid to debate it", I just don't see how debating other people's personal lives is anyone's business.


So do you think it's right to tell someone you love them and they are all you need and they make you happy while you are out f***ing some other person at the same time without them knowing?


Well lets see, maybe after a long marriage when one partner just will not meet the emotional or physical needs of the other, even after years and years of discussion over it and knowing how important it is to her, and he has cheated on her as well many times and gotten caught, yet she does still love him and she has no way of actually leaving him without just living in a cardboard box in the woods because there are no resources where she lives and women shelters won't help her because she's not abused, maybe, just maybe, somebody comes along who gives her that little emotional thing she needs (not love at all, just feeling desired and attractive) and the best sex she's ever had, rather than the 6 minute once a month sex that her husband gives her, then maybe, just maybe, it's how she manages to stay.
you should not stay in this situation(sounds like you're in it for the cash). If you can have the best sex ever with a guy you don't love and the sex with a man you claim to love is 6 minutes and only once a month then perhaps you don't love him. Love is more than emotional..it is a combination of emotions and physical attraction.
I can eevn simplify it by using my dog as an example. I love my dog not only bc he is a great dog, but he looks so cute and Ilove his fur and his size. I would not be attracted to owning a small or ugly dog. Physical connection is as important as emotional..or close.
(no bestiality)


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04 Sep 2012, 6:12 am

OliveOilMom wrote:
BigBossMSF wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
BigBossMSF wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
BigBossMSF wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
BigBossMSF wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
Sometimes people cheat for other reasons than they aren't in love. It's possible to be deeply in love with someone who for some reason cannot give you what you need emotionally or physically.

It's not always about them not being as high and mighty as you are.


There's no excuse. It's wrong...end of story.


Easy to sit in judgement when you haven't been in every situation.

I hope your all or nothing worldview keeps working for you.


I challenge you to present me with a reasonable excuse to cheat on someone.


Honestly, probably nothing would be reasonable to you, considering your judgemental and condescending tone. Good luck with that in the future.

Also, remember this; nobody is obligated to justify themselves to you. You live your life, others live theirs. All that dissapproving of them will get you is frown lines.


There's no tone, I just think it's wrong. Why are you afraid to debate it?


I'm not "afraid to debate it", I just don't see how debating other people's personal lives is anyone's business.


So do you think it's right to tell someone you love them and they are all you need and they make you happy while you are out f***ing some other person at the same time without them knowing?


Well lets see, maybe after a long marriage when one partner just will not meet the emotional or physical needs of the other, even after years and years of discussion over it and knowing how important it is to her, and he has cheated on her as well many times and gotten caught, yet she does still love him and she has no way of actually leaving him without just living in a cardboard box in the woods because there are no resources where she lives and women shelters won't help her because she's not abused, maybe, just maybe, somebody comes along who gives her that little emotional thing she needs (not love at all, just feeling desired and attractive) and the best sex she's ever had, rather than the 6 minute once a month sex that her husband gives her, then maybe, just maybe, it's how she manages to stay.


Why are they still together if there's no romance? I think it's pretty unfair to use a guy for a free ride. They wouldn't have to go to a womans shelter they could...I dont know, get a job, apply for welfare. Anything thats more respectable than being a whore.



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04 Sep 2012, 6:13 am

wtfid2 wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
BigBossMSF wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
BigBossMSF wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
BigBossMSF wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
BigBossMSF wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
Sometimes people cheat for other reasons than they aren't in love. It's possible to be deeply in love with someone who for some reason cannot give you what you need emotionally or physically.

It's not always about them not being as high and mighty as you are.


There's no excuse. It's wrong...end of story.


Easy to sit in judgement when you haven't been in every situation.

I hope your all or nothing worldview keeps working for you.


I challenge you to present me with a reasonable excuse to cheat on someone.


Honestly, probably nothing would be reasonable to you, considering your judgemental and condescending tone. Good luck with that in the future.

Also, remember this; nobody is obligated to justify themselves to you. You live your life, others live theirs. All that dissapproving of them will get you is frown lines.


There's no tone, I just think it's wrong. Why are you afraid to debate it?


I'm not "afraid to debate it", I just don't see how debating other people's personal lives is anyone's business.


So do you think it's right to tell someone you love them and they are all you need and they make you happy while you are out f***ing some other person at the same time without them knowing?


Well lets see, maybe after a long marriage when one partner just will not meet the emotional or physical needs of the other, even after years and years of discussion over it and knowing how important it is to her, and he has cheated on her as well many times and gotten caught, yet she does still love him and she has no way of actually leaving him without just living in a cardboard box in the woods because there are no resources where she lives and women shelters won't help her because she's not abused, maybe, just maybe, somebody comes along who gives her that little emotional thing she needs (not love at all, just feeling desired and attractive) and the best sex she's ever had, rather than the 6 minute once a month sex that her husband gives her, then maybe, just maybe, it's how she manages to stay.
you should not stay in this situation(sounds like you're in it for the cash). If you can have the best sex ever with a guy you don't love and the sex with a man you claim to love is 6 minutes and only once a month then perhaps you don't love him. Love is more than emotional..it is a combination of emotions and physical attraction.
I can eevn simplify it by using my dog as an example. I love my dog not only bc he is a great dog, but he looks so cute and Ilove his fur and his size. I would not be attracted to owning a small or ugly dog. Physical connection is as important as emotional..or close.
(no bestiality)


What cash? ROFLMAO! Considering that I have been married longer than you have been alive, I think I know my level of love for my husband. Love is a lot more than sex, my friend.


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04 Sep 2012, 6:16 am

BigBossMSF wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
BigBossMSF wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
BigBossMSF wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
BigBossMSF wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
BigBossMSF wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
Sometimes people cheat for other reasons than they aren't in love. It's possible to be deeply in love with someone who for some reason cannot give you what you need emotionally or physically.

It's not always about them not being as high and mighty as you are.


There's no excuse. It's wrong...end of story.


Easy to sit in judgement when you haven't been in every situation.

I hope your all or nothing worldview keeps working for you.


I challenge you to present me with a reasonable excuse to cheat on someone.


Honestly, probably nothing would be reasonable to you, considering your judgemental and condescending tone. Good luck with that in the future.

Also, remember this; nobody is obligated to justify themselves to you. You live your life, others live theirs. All that dissapproving of them will get you is frown lines.


There's no tone, I just think it's wrong. Why are you afraid to debate it?


I'm not "afraid to debate it", I just don't see how debating other people's personal lives is anyone's business.


So do you think it's right to tell someone you love them and they are all you need and they make you happy while you are out f***ing some other person at the same time without them knowing?


Well lets see, maybe after a long marriage when one partner just will not meet the emotional or physical needs of the other, even after years and years of discussion over it and knowing how important it is to her, and he has cheated on her as well many times and gotten caught, yet she does still love him and she has no way of actually leaving him without just living in a cardboard box in the woods because there are no resources where she lives and women shelters won't help her because she's not abused, maybe, just maybe, somebody comes along who gives her that little emotional thing she needs (not love at all, just feeling desired and attractive) and the best sex she's ever had, rather than the 6 minute once a month sex that her husband gives her, then maybe, just maybe, it's how she manages to stay.


Why are they still together if there's no romance? I think it's pretty unfair to use a guy for a free ride. They wouldn't have to go to a womans shelter they could...I dont know, get a job, apply for welfare. Anything thats more respectable than being a whore.


Romance is not the be all and end all of love. Not at all. Love goes much deeper than that. Nobody in that relationship I described is using anyone for a free ride. As for a job, not possible in that location, welfare, not enough to even live on, and plus the couple doesn't want to get a divorce.

As for being a whore, that's not the case at all. Then again if you want to go to name calling, I really could go there but I don't want to make you cry.


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04 Sep 2012, 6:17 am

OliveOilMom wrote:
wtfid2 wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
BigBossMSF wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
BigBossMSF wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
BigBossMSF wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
BigBossMSF wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
Sometimes people cheat for other reasons than they aren't in love. It's possible to be deeply in love with someone who for some reason cannot give you what you need emotionally or physically.

It's not always about them not being as high and mighty as you are.


There's no excuse. It's wrong...end of story.


Easy to sit in judgement when you haven't been in every situation.

I hope your all or nothing worldview keeps working for you.


I challenge you to present me with a reasonable excuse to cheat on someone.


Honestly, probably nothing would be reasonable to you, considering your judgemental and condescending tone. Good luck with that in the future.

Also, remember this; nobody is obligated to justify themselves to you. You live your life, others live theirs. All that dissapproving of them will get you is frown lines.


There's no tone, I just think it's wrong. Why are you afraid to debate it?


I'm not "afraid to debate it", I just don't see how debating other people's personal lives is anyone's business.


So do you think it's right to tell someone you love them and they are all you need and they make you happy while you are out f***ing some other person at the same time without them knowing?


Well lets see, maybe after a long marriage when one partner just will not meet the emotional or physical needs of the other, even after years and years of discussion over it and knowing how important it is to her, and he has cheated on her as well many times and gotten caught, yet she does still love him and she has no way of actually leaving him without just living in a cardboard box in the woods because there are no resources where she lives and women shelters won't help her because she's not abused, maybe, just maybe, somebody comes along who gives her that little emotional thing she needs (not love at all, just feeling desired and attractive) and the best sex she's ever had, rather than the 6 minute once a month sex that her husband gives her, then maybe, just maybe, it's how she manages to stay.
you should not stay in this situation(sounds like you're in it for the cash). If you can have the best sex ever with a guy you don't love and the sex with a man you claim to love is 6 minutes and only once a month then perhaps you don't love him. Love is more than emotional..it is a combination of emotions and physical attraction.
I can eevn simplify it by using my dog as an example. I love my dog not only bc he is a great dog, but he looks so cute and Ilove his fur and his size. I would not be attracted to owning a small or ugly dog. Physical connection is as important as emotional..or close.
(no bestiality)


What cash? ROFLMAO! Considering that I have been married longer than you have been alive, I think I know my level of love for my husband. Love is a lot more than sex, my friend.


Haha oh wow I thought you were speaking hypothetical. Thats just....wow. Why don't you get some respect and learn to take care of yourself rather than riding off this guy's money while you are f*****g other dudes. See that's the problem with women, they think they are entitled to be taken care of while at the same time expect all the rights like they are independent people. You can't have it both ways and not look like a complete hypocrite.



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04 Sep 2012, 6:20 am

OliveOilMom wrote:
BigBossMSF wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
BigBossMSF wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
BigBossMSF wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
BigBossMSF wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
BigBossMSF wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
Sometimes people cheat for other reasons than they aren't in love. It's possible to be deeply in love with someone who for some reason cannot give you what you need emotionally or physically.

It's not always about them not being as high and mighty as you are.


There's no excuse. It's wrong...end of story.


Easy to sit in judgement when you haven't been in every situation.

I hope your all or nothing worldview keeps working for you.


I challenge you to present me with a reasonable excuse to cheat on someone.


Honestly, probably nothing would be reasonable to you, considering your judgemental and condescending tone. Good luck with that in the future.

Also, remember this; nobody is obligated to justify themselves to you. You live your life, others live theirs. All that dissapproving of them will get you is frown lines.


There's no tone, I just think it's wrong. Why are you afraid to debate it?


I'm not "afraid to debate it", I just don't see how debating other people's personal lives is anyone's business.


So do you think it's right to tell someone you love them and they are all you need and they make you happy while you are out f***ing some other person at the same time without them knowing?


Well lets see, maybe after a long marriage when one partner just will not meet the emotional or physical needs of the other, even after years and years of discussion over it and knowing how important it is to her, and he has cheated on her as well many times and gotten caught, yet she does still love him and she has no way of actually leaving him without just living in a cardboard box in the woods because there are no resources where she lives and women shelters won't help her because she's not abused, maybe, just maybe, somebody comes along who gives her that little emotional thing she needs (not love at all, just feeling desired and attractive) and the best sex she's ever had, rather than the 6 minute once a month sex that her husband gives her, then maybe, just maybe, it's how she manages to stay.


Why are they still together if there's no romance? I think it's pretty unfair to use a guy for a free ride. They wouldn't have to go to a womans shelter they could...I dont know, get a job, apply for welfare. Anything thats more respectable than being a whore.


Romance is not the be all and end all of love. Not at all. Love goes much deeper than that. Nobody in that relationship I described is using anyone for a free ride. As for a job, not possible in that location, welfare, not enough to even live on, and plus the couple doesn't want to get a divorce.

As for being a whore, that's not the case at all. Then again if you want to go to name calling, I really could go there but I don't want to make you cry.


Hun, believe me, there's nothing you could say or do to me to make me cry. I've heard and been through it all. And what do you mean by love is more than just romance? Were talking specifically about romance and how having a romantic connection with someone and thinking they are faithful to you while they are lying and f*****g someone else is wrong.

If you wanna use some dude for his money and screw other guys and he's ok with that. Thats all fine and dandy, a dysfunctional relationship but not the same thing as what im talking about.

Unless you ARE lying to your husband about the fact that you sleep around. That is wrong IMO.