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04 Nov 2012, 1:38 pm

I think the Aspie Wolf meme says it all:

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04 Nov 2012, 2:26 pm

I've got no idea how loyal I'd be or not, since I've never had a relationship. I dunno, finding one relationship would be hard enough, how am I gonna find another?



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04 Nov 2012, 11:02 pm

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I feel as if I am the loyal type that would not stray to far away. I simply don't want to ruin a good chance at what might be a sure thing. However, on the other hand, I reckon that I am the type that would get cheated on. Anyone else feel the same way in that sense?


I imagine any involvement/investment/risk bears the chance of turning out badly. It just might feel unequal when one party knows that they owe it to themselves not to break their commitment to the other party, and just can't be sure about the other party.



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04 Nov 2012, 11:10 pm

JRR wrote:
I think the Aspie Wolf meme says it all:

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24 Nov 2012, 6:34 am

I would never cheat! I hate cheating with a passion!



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24 Nov 2012, 6:49 am

Vintagegirl wrote:
I would never cheat! I hate cheating with a passion!


Agreed - which is why I find that Ashley Madison cheating/dating site for married people looking for affairs just sickens me. :evil:



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24 Nov 2012, 7:13 am

BlueMax wrote:
Vintagegirl wrote:
I would never cheat! I hate cheating with a passion!


Agreed - which is why I find that Ashley Madison cheating/dating site for married people looking for affairs just sickens me. :evil:


I try to be positive. I try really hard to believe in the basic decency of my fellow human beings. But sometimes people just disgust me. The first time I saw one of their ads was one of those times.



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24 Nov 2012, 10:59 am

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I know; this can be a touchy subject, but it deserves to be discussed in any way, whether it be what you'd do, your thoughts on it, et al.
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I will NEVER stray away from my woman, EVER. Even though I may get bored with her after a while, I have to realize that I am with her forever and ever. That's how I am; doing otherwise would be dishonorable.

Funny that you bring this subject up, just yesterday I found out about what happened to a friend... turns out he had cheated on his GF...

It wasn't cheating; they weren't married.


You don't have to be married to cheat on someone.



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25 Nov 2012, 1:22 am

Cheating never makes sense to me. I find that I am very loyal in the relationships I have (not necessarily just romantic ones) and I feel obligated to stick with it not matter how uncomfortable it gets. Even if a guy who appears to be a better catch appears and wants to pursue a romantic relationship with me and I am already in one, it is not allowable too pursue the relationship with the new guy.

Be faithful to the one you have. Intentionally love the person you are with (as in use love as an action and not as an emotion), pursue that person, serve that person, trust and respect that person, and give yourself to them. Hopefully they will do the same, but if they do not, that is no excuse to not be faithful.

I do not see cheating as only being physical, but the idea of pursuit, if a person considers themselves to be in a romantic relationship with person a, and then interacts with person b in a manner of pursuing a romantic relationship or redefining the previously existing relationship to one with a romantic context, it is cheating.

I also find divorce to understand outside of very certain very limited situations. This also seems to go against my idea of loyalty and sticking to one person.


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25 Nov 2012, 2:45 am

I have been cheated on by my bf and it hurt and still does. He swears he has changed but his mom jumps from relationship to relationship and I am quite sure starts new ones before ending the current one. He says he would never risk losing me again; that it was just being in a band going to his head but I worry. I never felt I wasn't good enough until he did that. Now I lack the confidence I once had. I was never jealous; now I am. I hate the feeling of always wondering if I am enough to keep him faithful.

If you don't feel complete and feel the slightest urge to cheat...evaluate your relationship and move on before you hurt the other person even more. Cheating is cowardice and it sucks!



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25 Nov 2012, 3:17 am

noxnocturne wrote:
Fnord wrote:
machf wrote:
equestriatola wrote:
I know; this can be a touchy subject, but it deserves to be discussed in any way, whether it be what you'd do, your thoughts on it, et al.
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I will NEVER stray away from my woman, EVER. Even though I may get bored with her after a while, I have to realize that I am with her forever and ever. That's how I am; doing otherwise would be dishonorable.

Funny that you bring this subject up, just yesterday I found out about what happened to a friend... turns out he had cheated on his GF...

It wasn't cheating; they weren't married.


You don't have to be married to cheat on someone.


For real. The promises I make to her, and to myself, count for a whole hell of a lot more to me than having some government-issued piece of paper with both our names on it saying we're together.

Fnord, why do you think that only officially sanctioned relationships count?



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25 Nov 2012, 3:42 am

BrenJB wrote:
I have been cheated on by my bf and it hurt and still does. He swears he has changed but his mom jumps from relationship to relationship and I am quite sure starts new ones before ending the current one. He says he would never risk losing me again; that it was just being in a band going to his head but I worry. I never felt I wasn't good enough until he did that. Now I lack the confidence I once had. I was never jealous; now I am. I hate the feeling of always wondering if I am enough to keep him faithful.

If you don't feel complete and feel the slightest urge to cheat...evaluate your relationship and move on before you hurt the other person even more. Cheating is cowardice and it sucks!


Wonderfully said! Thank you!



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25 Nov 2012, 4:49 am

BrenJB...huge hug ((((((((((((((((((((((( )))))))))))))))))))))))

You are a beautiful person. Don't change.



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25 Nov 2012, 5:25 am

I have been cheated on and have cheated in the past when I was younger, but I always admitted to it. Now that I'm not a teen, I could never cheat because I know the pain it can cause since I felt the pain of being deceived. In addtion, I also learned to accept and value what I have, I never want to regret not valuing what is in front of me.



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25 Nov 2012, 11:36 am

aspiesandra27 wrote:
BrenJB...huge hug ((((((((((((((((((((((( )))))))))))))))))))))))

You are a beautiful person. Don't change.


Thank you. (((((hugs)))))



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25 Nov 2012, 11:43 am

BlueMax wrote:
BrenJB wrote:
I have been cheated on by my bf and it hurt and still does. He swears he has changed but his mom jumps from relationship to relationship and I am quite sure starts new ones before ending the current one. He says he would never risk losing me again; that it was just being in a band going to his head but I worry. I never felt I wasn't good enough until he did that. Now I lack the confidence I once had. I was never jealous; now I am. I hate the feeling of always wondering if I am enough to keep him faithful.

If you don't feel complete and feel the slightest urge to cheat...evaluate your relationship and move on before you hurt the other person even more. Cheating is cowardice and it sucks!


Wonderfully said! Thank you!


Thank you. It's genuinely how I feel. It has changed me and not for the better. I naively thought that if a guy loved me, said he wanted to marry me and made it very clear he wanted me and a future that I should not worry or feel jealous because obviously he wants to be with me. Wrong. I guess some men just need to have more than one woman want them to make them feel like a man when really it just shows their immaturity. It doesn't matter what you look like or your personality or intelligence. If your partner cheats it is truly an issue within them.

I just hope I have made the right decision in giving him a second chance.