...and then he was gone....

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i have yet to meet another person that would've been worth all that mess. one should never invest one's total heart in another imperfect fallible human being. i wish i could wave a magic wand over the OP and cure him of his heartbreak, but one's heart is a precious possession, never to be exposed to the carelessness of another typical human being.

Honestly, the only excuse for this is some kind of mental breakdown. From what I understand, he is still active on Facebook. It seems he has made it clear he does not want you in his life at the moment.

This is a really terrible thing to do to someone. I would try dating sites, go out meet people. Move on. You can't give this person any more of yourself than you have, and you can't always hope "what if."

I hate to say it, but you have to move forward. Keep the good memories there, because they're a part of you. But don't waste the rest of your life like this, please.

Have you tried being angry?

What you want is closure. You will just have to make up your own story.

Is the relationship status still visible through another account?

Could be you are looking at old cookies each time you look at his account.

If he hasn't responded to any attempts at communicating you must assume he doesn't want to communicate. You have to pick up the pieces and start fresh

Okay, I have a few updates, and I don't feel like starting another thread. so here goes.

No, I have not heard from him, even though it's been almost a month since my last contact to him (I called his number on September 26th, but just to see if his voice mail was still there - it was).

He has a birthday in December, so my current plan is to wait until then (at the longest) and send him a "happy birthday" text or Facebook message. I'm hoping under those circumstances I'll have a better chance at getting a response because a) it will have been three months since I heard from him, b) it's his birthday, so he'll probably be in a good mood, and c) he might be flattered that I remembered his birthday. Still, I'm concerned that once his birthday comes around, I'll get depressed, because I won't be around to celebrate it with him, like he celebrated my own birthday with me.

Also, an old flame of mine is sending signals that he might be interested in me again (or at least interested in having sex with me, but I don't know if it's out of pity because of my current circumstances). I'm starting to think that going out with someone else might actually be beneficial, because it could get my mind off of John (the guy I've dedicated this thread to).

Anyway, that's about all I have to say right now.

You're going to have to let it go... it's very likely you were just used for sex - happens all the time, sadly.

Go out with your old flame. Don't rush into sex. Just have fun