What are L.A. women like?

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no, you're thinking new jersey

Where in LA exactly? I have live in a suburb of LA my whole life I remember and don't know the difference to the rest of the world.

Anywhere, really.

I have met a few; they seem meek and nice towards me.

It seems to me that it is harder to make broad generalizations about people in large cities than in smaller ones since the nature of a large city is to have greater diversity. You will find anything from the grossly superficial to the highly compassionate and complex. But here are my broad generalizations...

I guess you could try to find one of the neighborhoods within LA that have more people that are like you. I grew up about 30 miles from LA but moved into the city nearly 20 years ago. I have always lived in the same general area. First was Echo Park, then downtown and now Eagle Rock. Because these are not wealthy neighborhoods (at least the parts I lived in) there tend to be a diverse range of people from working class poor to struggling artist types and a large amount of unpretentious middle class types. That's the kind of people I feel most comfortable around.

There tends to be a lot of struggling actor types all over the place, but you'll find more of them in Hollywood, North Hollywood (The Valley), Santa Monica etc. I've met plenty of level headed actors, but I've also met plenty of really dim-witted ones.

The beach communities seem to have a larger proportion of blondes driving convertibles. But there are some fairly arty types in Venice. In my biased opinion, the Century City-Beverly Hills area seems filled with wealthy, morally bankrupt people.

The communities south of the 10 freeway between downtown and Culver City tend to be boring. Just a lot of people getting by and not really doing much of anything. But you might find a lot of decent, regular people there.

East LA has some pretty neat Hispanic cultural stuff going on if you are into that sort of thing.

The older part of downtown is gentrifying a bit. It is starting to get a tiny bit of the live-work community that I was looking for when I moved there in the late 90s.

The Fairfax district has too many people for my tastes and the rents are too high, but there is a pretty diverse crowd that lives around there (as well as a number of camera stores)

When I first told friends I was moving to Echo Park, they asked "aren't you worried about the gangs?" There's definitely crime in the area, but not too many murders per day. This is a fairly arty community. Silverlake is arty as well, but with more money. Then there is a young, hipster community in the Sunset Junction area.

Anyway, my point is that you can't really make a sweeping statement that describes all LA women. You will find a wider range of women in LA than you are likely to find in smaller cities. There are some who are superficial and perfectly match the stereotype, but there are many more who are fully complex people who are worth getting to know. There tend to be a lot of creative people in the city because of the film industry. I've met many people working in TV production. Some were arrogant and superficial. Some were thoughtful and compassionate. Most were decent, regular people.

The nice thing about LA is that there are a lot of different types of people to choose from. There are millions of them around here and some of them can be pretty friendly.

You just wait until one of them has sex with you / moves in with you / marries you -- then you'll find out what it's like to be a fashion accessory...

Then try to break up with one, and you'll learn the real meaning of the word "Bunnyboiler".

Yep! Of course it depends on the area of L.A. some are nice but a lot of them are either just after sex and want to fool around or are superficial.

The Doors?

Haha me too.

Funny how some people thought of that when I posted this thread.

well i live in Orange County, which is right next to L.A., most are taken

Well, I better avoid the OC then.

While it can't be said that the women in L.A. aren't nice, the dating culture is incredibly shallow and L.A. is far from the best city for single individuals. There are a few reasons for this.

1. Many young people in L.A. move there to make it big in the entertainment industry. As such, they are both above average looking and more fixated on their looks than average. Because they know they are better looking than average, they tend to be very selective in mates, and because they moved to the city to further their career, they are very career oriented and not apt to put a relationships first.

2. Ethnic centers.
Los Angeles is home to many ethnic groups that mix with the general population but usually marry within their own ethnic group. For example, orthodox, and some non-orthodox jews will only marry jews. Persians will usually only date and marry Persians, and Persian jews will usually only date and marry Persian jews.

3. A large gay population.
There are areas of the region where you will be the wrong sex for everyone. For example, West Hollywood.

But I will stop short of saying your prospects for finding a partner in Los Angeles are completely bleak. For there is a population of people such as yourself who migrated there, only to find the superficial life was not for them, and who really are just hoping to find another real person.

This is true. One must also keep in mind all the people who were simply born here, rather than coming here for superficial reasons. And, even outside of dating, the sheer number of people here has helped (me, at least) socially. If I screw up in front of one person or group, there's always new people to try with.

I'll also point out that West Hollywood isn't a terrible place to meet women. Yes, there are fewer straight women hanging out there (very few of the people you meet there actually live there), but there are proportionally fewer straight men for them to choose from. And the atmosphere there is more conducive to meeting people than the rest of the city.

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Oh. I best better try the Bay Area, I guess.....

Unless you're a socialite, a multi-millionaire, a rock star, or a hollywood actor, then your chances with women down there are pretty slim my friend. There is an enormous surplus of single men in LA. And by that I mean that single men outnumber single women on the order of almost 90,000. So if you move there to lookin' for love you're facing some serious competition. In general though, LA women are obsessed with appearance and orient their life on climbing the social ladder and making a lot of money. If you think you're lonely now, LA will only make *that* much worse.

The best city to be a single guy in New York. There are all kinds of people there and while there are plenty of body-conscious fashionable socialites there, weirdos and weirdettes abound. You also have 200,000 more single women than men.

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What about Chicago?