I Don't Want A Ring When/If I Get Married

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^^^ Okay, okay... to each their own.

I read a funny Mother-in-Law joke once about this very subject. Actually it wasn't a joke. It was a real-life anecdote published in the Reader's Digest, in the section all about hilarious things people innocently say.

A lady had just got married and her new husband was a deep sea diver. She told her mother that her new husband didn't want to wear his wedding ring to work. The mother-in-law said crossly: "Why not? Is he being unfaithful already?"

The wife replied: "no, mother, don't be silly. He cannot be unfaithful. There are only fish and sharks down there. There are no women."

The mother-in-law said: "well, why doesn't he wear the ring, then?"

The wife replied: "because the glint of the metal might attract a shark, and he is afraid he might have his hand bitten off."

The mother-in-law said: "well, why doesn't he wear it on a chain around his neck instead?"



(hijack over)

I don't like rings, bracelets, watches, etc.

But I suppose I would try with a wedding ring. I would like a very tiny one, like a wire. I see the thick golden ring of my cousin and I think it's gross. And I don't like gold, I think argent is more beautiful.

I guess to the question of bringing it up... if they know you well then they probably know that you don't like jewellery really in the first place.

Certainly mine knew - he also knew I have massive ethical issues against jewellery also, which was why he made sure the one he had was certified in different ways to avoid those issues (and typical me did not get excited at the ring - that just got him a blank face - I jumped on him and started going crazy after he said it was ethical and also certified ).

If they know you well, this is not going to come as a surprise at all. You can bring up the conversation prematurely if you like, but I would not see a need for it.

Perhaps when it comes close to your anniversary or birthday, you could go looking at the jewellery stores with him, just for fun.... maybe you can figure out an altrenative that way which you can both agree to? (Seems an acceptable middle way to do it?)

Get a Turtle. .. One of the ones that live longer than you. What better proof of the strength of your marriage than a Creature that'll outlive you both.


Seriously though. . . Wear the ring, It'll show your dedication. You're willing to wear the symbol of your love even though it's uncomfortable.

I got swept away by my mother and fiance into a "real" ring.
I'd have been satisfied with something unique we found at a flea market.

So...if he like it he betta not putta ring onnit?

Good evening!

I am referring to the comments in the OP where they wouldn't want a ring on their finger.
(reference is Beyonce - Single Ladies)

The quantity of jobs that would be made dangerous by jewlery is a long list so it isn't uncommon to not wear one at all. The only reason not wearing a ring should be an issiue is if someone wears it all the time normaly but out of the blue decides to not wear it to an event or night out. I would suggest ownership of a ring though. Use it in the ceremony and then keep it as a sentimental object in the house. I agree with the comments on gold and diamonds. I would go for a hand forged damascus ring. You can get one made for around $100. No blood money and no flash.