Isit still possible for an Aspie(M) to find a GF in Seattle?

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I'm a little surprised by the yelling about stereotypes. I never said that all aspies like programming (heavens, I programmed once for ten minutes and knew that programming would be the job from hell for me), nor did I say that all programmers are aspies. But statistically, a higher percentage of programmers are aspie than, say, police. My aspie son graduated with a degree in computer science and was a programmer until an illness made him too slow to continue. Now he's quality control at Arenanet for GuildWars. He fits a lot of the other stereotypes, too. I used to need to tell him to shower and wash his hair and brush his teeth before we would take him out to dinner when we visited. Now that he has a girlfriend I have not ever noticed the need again.
He was the easiest child to raise, never giving us a bit of trouble and always giving us a lot of joy. I'm glad I homeschooled him to college when he was fifteen. Nobody has ever asked for his non-existent high school degree. He's the child I understood the best (I suppose because we were both aspies).
Stereotypes exist for a reason, having to do with statistics. And it is those behaviours and inclinations that doom so many of us looking for a companion. I am convinced that if I had not met my husband when I did (who also has a few traits) that I would be single today. He is grateful that I never nagged him to spend more time with me or complained about all the boards he joined. On and on.
All I know is that you need to join as many affinity groups you can, try to smell good, try to get a job that will eventually pay a living wage, learn to have conversations that are not monologues, and you might meet somebody that will care about you. But life has no guarantees.

If you move back to Portland, I hope I'll see you at Roger Meyer's support group.

If you think Seattle is bad, try Vancouver or Victoria.

Do tell me lilia, is it really true that people there have a bad attitude towards folks from further out of state(not including the couv since it's just across the Columbia and part of greater PDX) who wish to move to Portland? I really sense it and particularly towards me *because* I live in Seattle.


I'm sorry. I have no idea.

I lived in Seattle when I got married 40 years ago for six years. I loved Seattle, but now it is so crowded and hard to get around in. Then I lived in Fuku-shima for four years, a year and a half in Portland OR, five years in San Antonio, four years near Fairbanks AK, 11 yrs in Battle Ground, WA, and 8 yrs here in Vancouver, WA across the river from Portland. The only place I was aware of friendly rivalry was between Fairbanks and Anchorage. The newspapers liked to take funny photographs of each other's cities and print special editions that were quickly bought out by the other city.