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19 Nov 2012, 5:37 pm

I really don't want kids. I am very afraid of accidental pregnancy. *shudders*


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19 Nov 2012, 6:20 pm

I don't want them.

Multiple people have told me I will change my mind when I am older.... my response is always "F*ck Off!". :lol:

I'm not cut out for that, there are practical reasons not to, I even believe it would be ethically wrong for me to do so.


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19 Nov 2012, 6:21 pm

Kjas wrote:
I don't want them.

Multiple people have told me I will change my mind when I am older.... my response is always "F*ck Off!". :lol:

I'm not cut out for that, there are practical reasons not to, I even believe it would be ethically wrong for me to do so.


my exact thoughts



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19 Nov 2012, 6:49 pm

MXH Im flabbergasted... you are only 21????



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19 Nov 2012, 8:36 pm

ColdEyesWarmHeart wrote:
DialAForAwesome wrote:
Don't want 'em. Why? Because I don't want them to go through the same sh** I had to go through.


I've always felt the same. I've known since I was tiny that something is wrong with me and I'm not like other people, and I've never been happy or comfortable or at peace with myself for a single day. Why would I put a child through that? Plus I have diabetes which makes pregnancy incredibly risky. I'd have to have a really strong urge to pass on my genes to want to run the risk of being disabled by pregnancy, and I'm the opposite, I think I'm the last person who should breed. And the fact I've been single all my life means natural selection has ruled me out of reproducing anyway.


Yeah, I do NOT want my child to go through all the crap I went through in 24 years. Just don't. From having Marfan syndrome to clinical depression to hypoglycemia, the teasing, the bullying, the disfigurement, I want my child to have none of that. But since a lot of the problems I have are genetic, my child would probably inherit them. So either I'll adopt or just go without having kids of my own. Which me having kids of my own would be unlikely anyway, for a couple big reasons, so I'm good.


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19 Nov 2012, 9:44 pm

I would like to have at least one kid some day, and no more than two. I believe I can be a good father figure and I am the rare type that acts more mature than his actual age. And what better person to mentor a young aspie than an older wiser aspie anyway in the case that the kid is an aspie. Cleaning up after myself though is a concern (cleaning house regularly), but I do take care of myself otherwise.



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19 Nov 2012, 10:09 pm

aspiesandra27 wrote:
MXH Im flabbergasted... you are only 21????


how so?



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19 Nov 2012, 10:13 pm

MXH wrote:
how so?


Ed Norton is way older than that!



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19 Nov 2012, 11:32 pm

I have very minor scoliosis in my lower back. Due to this I am unsure whether it would be safe to have kids sense it can cause damage to me and or the kid. I also feel, personally, that I am not mature enough to take care of a kid. I also don't want them to be in the spectrum of the autism, at least not because of me gentetically anyways. I am not interested in sex in the first place so that seems to get put aside instantly..

However, if I get a good paying job I will have no objections to adopting. I would love to adopt a lil girl to call my own. :)


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20 Nov 2012, 5:02 am

I want kids with my SO, years after being in a stable position.
I kinda get the feeling that my life would be "over" should I have kids too early.

I once met a girl in her 27's who wanted to have kids with me on our first sexual interaction on our first meeting... She was living in another country.
Nope nope nope nope nope nope nope nope nope nope nope nope nope nope nope nope nope nope nope nope nope nope nope nope nope.



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20 Nov 2012, 5:23 am

I enjoy my free time. I enjoy my free time so much I don't want to worry about a kid.
Now I need to find a hot woman who thinks the same way I do. :)



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20 Nov 2012, 5:33 am

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I never wanted children and wouldn't have a relationship or affair with a woman who had kids or is into family stuff. For me this was the perfect decision, never regretted it even for a second.


That's me too. It's hard to find anyone over 40 without kids, but I intend to keep trying. I even put it on my shirt. But fortunately all the free dating sites have a "no kids" search option.

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20 Nov 2012, 6:08 am

Nope.


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20 Nov 2012, 6:10 am

Kids make me extremely awkward..
i don't know how to interact with them, or what to say with them and i fear that the awkwardness might make people think im a nonce...
Aside from that i have no desire to bring a child into this world that will inevitably suffer the same existential questions i have..



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20 Nov 2012, 7:43 am

it is extremely frustrating to have to drive at 40kph in school zones between 2:30 pm and 4:00 pm. i become "pickled" with impatience because i can not see why i should have to drive at 40 kph in the areas that are governed by that speed limit!!.

the local elementary school is to blame for the super slow speed limit, and i am not against keeping them safe, but i think they should herd the kids out the back of the school and into waiting buses, and leave the main road clear of kids, and relieve us drivers of having to travel at 40 kph.

i become very uncharitable with a minute or 2 of being caught in a social landslide.

the value of the "social acceptance" of me is not of much fundamental importance to me.
who knows.

the more kids there are, the more obstacles there are to steer around.



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20 Nov 2012, 1:13 pm

I can't say I really like children that much anyway. I don't hate them, far from it. I don't even really dislike them. I just find them noisy, disruptive, chaotic and silly, and there's nothing wrong with them being like that, they're children! But children seem to like me and I've met some really cool ones, it's just that being in sole charge of one all day every day would send me insane.

I don't get babies at all. I'm awkward holding one and scared I'll hurt or drop it. I have zero maternal instinct. Yes they are cute when they give you a smile or giggle, but most of the time they are either peeing, pooing, puking or screaming, aren't they?

It's funny when people say "you should have children because you were a child once" yes, and I didn't like the company of other children back then, I always went to chat to the adults! I found games and toys boring then and haven't changed my mind since. And "you'll love them once you have them" suppose I don't, not all parents do love their children. Or they love them dearly but can't cope with raising them.

Nope, it's just not for me. There are plenty of willing parents of wanted children out there, I'll leave them to it.