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14 Dec 2012, 2:02 pm

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Another important thing to consider.

Women have the same urges men do, only it's not ok for them to express them. If a man starts talking about pounding some p****Y it's cool, if a girl starts talking about riding some dick, she's a slut.

Online dating can provide a girl a way to do something about those desires without being labeled a slut by her friends.
yah but when talking with a girl if a man talks about f***ing her he is rejected usually. I had a girl online tell me she wanted tom f**k me and i got turned off ill admit.


this is because she isnt directly attracted to the guy asking ti f**k her. If she was directly very attracted the reply would be when and where, not rejection.

Switch the genders and then you have the answer to yours
what do you mean switch the genders? I already said that in situation one when a guy tells a girl he wants to f**k her she doesnt reply because that's disrespectful. In situation 2 when a girl told me she wanted to f**k me i didnt reply either because it seemed desperate.


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14 Dec 2012, 2:04 pm

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I joined OkCupid two days ago and I'm not sure about it. So far I have received one request for immediate sex. (This was flattering, but a bit premature.) And one request for "sexy pictures" of myself which I redirected to talk about relationships. (Not that I'm opposed to sexy pictures, but again premature.)
Has anyone had success with this site? A guy who has AS invited me for lunch! I'm hoping we hit it off. Meeting someone I don't know makes me nervous, but it is just so hard to meet someone in real life.
i have had more success with pof than with okcupid. Keep in mind that by success I mean that I met 3 girls face to face for first dates and 0/3 of them wanted to meet me again. That is success in my lonely life where I have never otherwise had any girl go on any dates with me first or otherwise.


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14 Dec 2012, 2:15 pm

wtfid2 wrote:
MXH wrote:
wtfid2 wrote:
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Another important thing to consider.

Women have the same urges men do, only it's not ok for them to express them. If a man starts talking about pounding some p****Y it's cool, if a girl starts talking about riding some dick, she's a slut.

Online dating can provide a girl a way to do something about those desires without being labeled a slut by her friends.
yah but when talking with a girl if a man talks about f***ing her he is rejected usually. I had a girl online tell me she wanted tom f**k me and i got turned off ill admit.


this is because she isnt directly attracted to the guy asking ti f**k her. If she was directly very attracted the reply would be when and where, not rejection.

Switch the genders and then you have the answer to yours
what do you mean switch the genders? I already said that in situation one when a guy tells a girl he wants to f**k her she doesnt reply because that's disrespectful. In situation 2 when a girl told me she wanted to f**k me i didnt reply either because it seemed desperate.


you said no because you werent attracted to her, not because she "seemed desperate". Since no matter how desperate if she was someone you're very attracted to you would oblige



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14 Dec 2012, 2:34 pm

MXH wrote:
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Another important thing to consider.

Women have the same urges men do, only it's not ok for them to express them. If a man starts talking about pounding some p****Y it's cool, if a girl starts talking about riding some dick, she's a slut.

Online dating can provide a girl a way to do something about those desires without being labeled a slut by her friends.
yah but when talking with a girl if a man talks about f***ing her he is rejected usually. I had a girl online tell me she wanted tom f**k me and i got turned off ill admit.


this is because she isnt directly attracted to the guy asking ti f**k her. If she was directly very attracted the reply would be when and where, not rejection.

Switch the genders and then you have the answer to yours
what do you mean switch the genders? I already said that in situation one when a guy tells a girl he wants to f**k her she doesnt reply because that's disrespectful. In situation 2 when a girl told me she wanted to f**k me i didnt reply either because it seemed desperate.


you said no because you werent attracted to her, not because she "seemed desperate". Since no matter how desperate if she was someone you're very attracted to you would oblige
she was ok i wouldnt have talked to her to begin with if i werent attracted to her. I get very creeped out and paranoid of a girl who is so needy for sex that she must go onto a free dating site and beg guys for it. Why not go to a club for it?


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14 Dec 2012, 2:51 pm

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I joined OkCupid two days ago and I'm not sure about it. So far I have received one request for immediate sex. (This was flattering, but a bit premature.)


That's it! That's it right there! Some muscular dud(e) drags his knuckles across the keyboard and manages to type "I wanna f**k you."

...and you're flattered by it!

I'm not saying that's wrong... it's gotta' be some kind of base animal instinct... or a positive reaction to just being... desired? Wanted?

I'd love to hear your thought process when a message like that comes in! Was it 90% his picture? The fact he wanted you right away?
...for science! :D


I'll admit, it swelled my pride a little bit when some married woman propositioned me for just a night of sex. I'm not interested... but she desired me!
It's a good feeling... I imagine for some people, that initial "feels good" moment is all it takes to get their target to agree to a one-night-stand.



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14 Dec 2012, 3:40 pm

I'd rather just send an individual message to the women.

It's not like I'm desperate enough where I would contact the first 50 women I see. I have standards.

It's quality - not quantity.

But even a good boilerplate message would STILL be better than 80% of the messages women get.

But a good message doesn't have to be long. Three compelling sentences can be good enough.



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15 Dec 2012, 10:20 am

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Aka, make sure to meet in a highly public place, let people know where you're going and when you'll be back, and don't reveal any personally identifiable information initially like last name, address, workplace, etc.

Good advice, thanks. I will make sure to meet in a safe place. I've already made the mistake of friending one of the guys on FB. Now every time I log on he chats with me. This would be okay, but the chats quickly go to "What are you wearing?" I will have to politely defriend him.

wtfid2 wrote:
have had more success with pof than with okcupid.

I chatted with the guy who has AS and we are going to meet for lunch. I think I will delete my account though . . . too many weird replies.

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Ann2011 wrote:
I joined OkCupid two days ago and I'm not sure about it. So far I have received one request for immediate sex. (This was flattering, but a bit premature.)


That's it! That's it right there! Some muscular dud(e) drags his knuckles across the keyboard and manages to type "I wanna f**k you."

...and you're flattered by it!

I'm not saying that's wrong... it's gotta' be some kind of base animal instinct... or a positive reaction to just being... desired? Wanted?

I'd love to hear your thought process when a message like that comes in! Was it 90% his picture? The fact he wanted you right away?
...for science! :D


I'll admit, it swelled my pride a little bit when some married woman propositioned me for just a night of sex. I'm not interested... but she desired me!
It's a good feeling... I imagine for some people, that initial "feels good" moment is all it takes to get their target to agree to a one-night-stand.

Flattered that he found me desirable. But nothing's going to happen there. He is way over the top.
Nothing to do with looks - he's not particularly attractive to me.
And no one night stands - that would leave me feeling very empty.

I am much more interested in the guy who asked me to lunch. We have a lot in common.


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