How do you know if you love someone or not?

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Love in modern times is something other than love earlier in history was. I'm a lover of the old times and I'm being respected for that. I would not call it attraction, because it is so much more. It is a mutual bond involving frankness, loyalty and respect. I call this form of love panphilia from the greek words pan=all and philias=loyal friendship; a loyal friendship with all my friends. It is difference from the loveforms called eros and agape. It is a pure emotional bonding; a platonic love, not involving neither sexual contact or desire (as in eros) or an uncoditioned love (as in agape).

I usually get an erection if I love someone

Whether family, friendship or romantic - I would only use the word "LOVE" if you can't imagine life without them... that their loss would be devastating to you.

IMO, anything else is just sexual attraction, lust and/or infatuation.

Last edited by BlueMax on 18 Dec 2012, 6:38 am, edited 1 time in total.

This.

I use love in the same way. If a friend dies he becomes automatically an imaginary friends to account emotionally for the feelings of the loss; and it makes me think good of him/her every day for many years (10+).

I'm asexual, so that would never happen.

How about we ask a bunch of characters from Star Wars: Knights of the Old Republic. (I like HK-47s explanation best, best sociopath droid ever)

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KfipfmzPWbg[/youtube]

I'm sure different people different things, so here's one possible set of symptoms:

Take the 'heart' metaphor literally-warm fuzzy feeling, except local to the chest region, in the core of your body. Same exact place as you might (gosh forbid) feel heartbreak.

How strong is your attraction to this person? Put it on a scale of 1 ~ 10

Technically speaking:



My seratonin level is naturally low so all it really takes is a small shot of Oxytocin to set off the infatuation bomb......

One of the ways I know, is in how I react. I tend to begin acting like various animals in courtship rituals. I give them shiny rocks or feathers, do silly/stupid courtship demonstrations and fight with any other males that seem in competetion.

I thought I was in love a few times, but I'm not really sure if I was. I think in some cases it was more of an obsession. I just ignore it now. I don't really dig monogamy or romance anyway.

just google it.

I read in psychology that in the beginning, you become obsessed about the other person and this lasts maybe for some weeks and maybe months, but after the obsession passes, it becomes a comfortable love...you don't really feel excitement or tremendous passion, but you feel a love that is calm and comforting when you are with or think about the other person. Some people think that just because the obessive parts is gone that they don't love the other person and look for the sparks again, which is faulty since the sparks always dissappear and turn into comfortable love. I like comfy love though.

THANK YOU!! ! So many people (especially women) seem to be forever chasing that fiery passion and won't settle for "hot simmering coals". Well, whether for cooking or heating your home, hot coals are more useful than a roaring flame! Similarly, relationships benefit more from a stable, loving commitment to each other than just out-of-control passion. Too many people just want to be wild and out of control... even those phone-dating chatline ads on TV encourage girls to "Call today - feel that rush of meeting someone new!" *gag*barf*

The OKCupid dating site asks a very popular question, "Which is more important - passion or commitment?" Passion was chosen the vast majority of the time. [sigh] Perpetual infatuation. No real, lasting love.

Love is when your willing to take a bullet for for the person you care about most.