here the reason aspie women can get dates

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Bill, you really overthought this one. you should put the keyboard down for a while

no, I think Im right. many aspie men don't date and many aspie women struggle to make female friends.
I say ''many'' not all. it can be deny by many here but I am right there are aspie men who can't get a date and aspie women with no or very little female friend. that not a lie.

but are men nicer than women when comes to aspie folks. I would say yes. I think men are just more flexible to different types of people.
But that not saying all men are nice, yes there are many men who are jerks.

So how do you explain all the aspie men who solely have female friends?

yes, every aspie person is different and each has their own problems when comes to relationship and friendship.
for me I get along with most men and older women (in my case 35 years and older), however I have a harder time with women under 35 years old.

you might find a male aspie who gets along with female better than males
or a female aspie who gets along with male better than females.

but I don't think I know of many aspie women that has alot of female friends. I don't think aspie females are popular with the ladies.

are you talking about gay aspie men? if not, sure there are aspie male with female friends.

That sounds right.

But do you know many aspie men who are popular among the guys or even have very many male friends who are not themselves aspie?

I'm not challenging you. I'm interested, too, by the way aspieness f***s with gender, and I'm just trying to help you refine your theory.

Maybe both genders of aspies tend to have friends of the opposite sex just because of the way aspie f***s with gender. Is this possible in your opinion?

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No. there is no nicer gender. The difference is what is "expected" out of a person from each gender. And as unfair/biased as some will make this seem you cant escape its the truth. Then theres the flipside of the situation where a lot of people just dont like what they can get, and seemingly would rather stay alone and keep whining than trying to either better themselves or become more realistic in their goals. And yes that goes for the men that complain that no women like them yet in reality mean the hot girls they want dont like them and the women who look for a Mr right that just does not exist.
That is all.

now lets throw the whole ''are men nicer to asperger people than women'' men and women are both cool to some degree.
but the truth is there are many aspie men who struggle to form any relationship with women and there are many aspie women who struggle to form any friendship with women.
now the aspie men and women who can't related to women at all. are they the problem are they just too f---ck up for women or are the women the problem. and for aspie women who can relate to men well and not to women, do they not understand social skills with only women. If they can talk to men,well what stopping them from forming close female friendship?

same with aspie men who can't get date but can get male friends. are they just f--ck up or the women the problem.
so what is it then..... are some aspie folks just not capable being with women in either relationship or friendship.

The reason why I got dates (they weren't real dates or maybe they were) was because I used my kink to get them and they were all looking for a female into it and there was me. So I got all these PMs from them. I was on a kinky dating site and all these men would message me and I would ignore the ones mostly that lived too far away because I didn't like long distance. But yet I couldn't get a man in real life to ask me out or make any moves with me or invite me over and stuff. The closest they ever got to was talking to me and one of them asking me to apply for a job where he works and handed me a application. Or they were just being friendly and had no intention of being interested in me. I have watched way too many movies. But I can't tell if they are hitting on me or being friendly. I am sure they mistook my shyness as rejection if they were hitting on me. Plus the lack of eye contact. So I said in my online profile on the site that I am shy so they wouldn't misread me if we ever meet up. Surprisingly I wasn't shy when we would meet up because I felt comfortable and we had already talked online so it made me feel more comfortable when we met and they were just the same people as I met online and it was like being online except this time, we were seeing each other in person instead of talking behind the screen and only seeing text. None of them seemed to care about my quirks but my ex boyfriend seemed to care and I mean that in a bad way because they were like a child to him and an embarrassment but he would excuse them due to my autism.

I'm not sure I believe that as quite a few of the guys I know on and off this site with AS actually have many more NT female friends than male NT friends. It's always been that way for them throughout most of their lives.

Many of them may have a problem when it comes to dating and relationships, but most of us struggle with that stuff since there is much less room for errors in that department.

I do have NT women who are friends, but what they have in common is that all of them are extremely direct, as are all of my male friends. It comes down to personality at the end of the day. Some cultures are more direct than others, which makes things easier. It is socially more acceptable for men to be direct also, women tend to be conditioned out of it if possible in many places. I'm not really seeing any of this being taken into account in you theory.

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riiiiight. Could you tell the rest of the world that I should find it easy to go on dates then, because I've only ever been out with one guy, and I'm not exactly swamped with offers.

are talking about straight aspie men or gay aspie men. because gay men tend to have more female friends than male friends.

I been with only one women, so we are tied.
so your one of them aspie women who can't get a date, bummer.
just find a place where guys hang out and maybe you get lucky? trust me, there is always some guy out there that would date you.
You will find another boyfriend, if just keep your head up. best of luck.

For NT's maybe. Aspie men are like gay men in this way. And maybe aspie women are like NT lesbians in terms of having more guy friends (I'm not sure). Aspie messes around with gender to cause things like this.

This is an excellent point.

You know, you have to start respecting yourself before a girl is going to respect you, a lot of guys on here don't put any effort into their appearance, fashion or body and they expect a girl that puts all her effort into looking good and being motherly to them.

Seriously, Bill, get with the real world and learn that's not everything there is to a woman, start focusing on your own individual goals and the women will come, trust me.

Not being able to sustain a 5-minute conversation is totally hot.
Asperger's is a disability, not just being quirky.