I feel like a Virgin Loser

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*bites lip* and thinks, "I'm not gonna say anything. I'm not gonna say anything."

edit: ok I don't even know what the hell you are talking about. you got some serious issues. If you want to be my friend so badly give me your email and we can be best friends! yay!! !! ! feel better?

wtfid2, cut the crap.
Allowing you five posts to spit acid is more than you deserve so don't push your luck any further, Ok?

Sorry for the negativity. I feel depressed.

I wasn't sure if I should post this under the Love and Dating or the Haven because I'm depressed.

I thought if I'm gonna tell anyone my issues, it will be on here where maybe people like myself can understand.

Ok. Where do I start? I'm 25 year old female and dating and relationships are hard.

I've always been a little developmentally behind in certain ways but ahead of the game in others.

I look like and sometimes even act like more like a 15 year old (but not in an immature and stupid sort of way).

Last year, I started getting more interested in the love and dating game.

For goodness sakes, I've never even had a real kiss....innocent hugs and kisses on the cheek and that's it.

I've been on dates and I surprisingly went to high school prom with a friend through school who was a part time boyfriend lol but I was too distant and didn't care for relationships at the time (remember, being developmentally behind?).

But I've basically never had a real proper boyfriend. I had an opportunity in the summer to be in a relationship but I f**** it up.

I do believe I know what love is though. I have had a crush/been in love with someone a couple times in my life time and to me, love and having a crush is the same thing....it's when you really really like someone and get really nervous around them. But I'm indifferent in that way too; I mean, all my friends are constantly "head over heals" for somebody and I just never feel like that way a lot.

I've worked on some of my social problems and have come a long way. But I'm still weird and quirky.

I've been doing this online dating thing called plenty of fish for a couple months...not so sure about it.

I know OK Cupid has been mentioned on here so I might give that a try.

Also, I've been lying about my age and such recenetly. I've been telling people I'm 19 ( even thought about lying and saying I'm 15 but that's probably stretching it because I do have a job and can drive) because it seems more appropriate.

Oh yeah, one last thing, because of my pdd-nos my driving is limited.

I'm sorry this is long. If you read all this, thanks for your patience.

I'm not really sure what I'm asking.

It is difficult since a club like a hiking club or kayaking club may not meet often enough to really get social traction going. I have a theory that only about 1 out of 9 clubs or organizations really meet often. And what I take from this is that I want to respectfully visit and light-touch a variety of clubs.

I like what you say about being nervous and viewing this in a positive way. Another thing for me is if I find myself wondering and looking forward to how a person would react to something.

I think that lying about your age is a really bad idea...it's never a good idea to start off a friendship with a lie. And it sounds from your post like you are overly critical of yourself and your situation. There are plenty of people here, myself included, who are in relatively similar circumstances, but your outlook can make a huge difference in your outcome. If you think of yourself as a "virgin loser", then that perception can unconsciously rub off on other people...improving your opinion of yourself can have a huge impact on your overall well-being, including how others view you.

Stop viewing yourself this way. That's the first thing you really need to do. Self perceptions can and do perpetuate conditions. If something is that limiting of a belief, that it makes you think you have no worth, then that belief has zero value and just causes mental clutter that makes it harder to get through the day. There's an economy to the psyche, and basic beliefs can be a serious draw on mental resources. If you really want physical and emotional intimacy in your life, don't be afraid of being passionate either. Be passion incarnate, in everything you do, whether it relates to the opposite sex or washing dishes, waiting tables, or banging on a drum. Do it all from your heart, and the universe will repay you. I promise.

omg. I think we've gotten off topic.

Thanks for the input. I can be very critical of myself. And I do know from my research and this site especially that there are plenty of people like this. I do actually like myself...it's just that the past week I've been feeling down about myself and I think it's because of some guy I was talking to.

Sorry for the negativity. I feel depressed. I wasn't sure if I should post this under the Love and Dating or the Haven because I'm depressed. I thought if I'm gonna tell anyone my issues, it will be on here where maybe people like myself can understand.

Ok. Where do I start? I'm 25 year old female and dating and relationships are hard. I've always been a little developmentally behind in certain ways but ahead of the game in others. I look like and sometimes even act like more like a 15 year old (but not in an immature and stupid sort of way). Last year, I started getting more interested in the love and dating game.

For goodness sakes, I've never even had a real kiss....innocent hugs and kisses on the cheek and that's it. I've been on dates and I surprisingly went to high school prom with a friend through school who was a part time boyfriend lol but I was too distant and didn't care for relationships at the time (remember, being developmentally behind?). But I've basically never had a real proper boyfriend. I had an opportunity in the summer to be in a relationship but I f**** it up.

I do believe I know what love is though. I have had a crush/been in love with someone a couple times in my life time and to me, love and having a crush is the same thing....it's when you really really like someone and get really nervous around them. But I'm indifferent in that way too; I mean, all my friends are constantly "head over heels" for somebody and I just never feel like that way a lot.

I've worked on some of my social problems and have come a long way. But I'm still weird and quirky. I've been doing this online dating thing called plenty of fish for a couple months...not so sure about it. I know OK Cupid has been mentioned on here so I might give that a try.

Also, I've been lying about my age and such recenetly. I've been telling people I'm 19 ( even thought about lying and saying I'm 15 but that's probably stretching it because I do have a job and can drive) because it seems more appropriate. I know it's wrong but I'm sick of people being shocked when I tell them my real age. I seem to click better with younger people anyways and when I used to tell them my real age, they weren't interested anymore. I don't know why people judge you based on your age.

Oh yeah, one last thing, because of my pdd-nos my driving is limited.
I'm sorry this is long. If you read all this, thanks for your patience. I'm not really sure what I'm asking. I'm not asking anything actually, just people who maybe can relate? Or have been in my situation.