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04 Jan 2013, 1:36 pm

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and dont forget to heavily editthose photos so they resemble nothing like your real self


That photo was taken on a webcam and apart from being brightened, that's all.

I have met people from here and gone on cam with people, some people have said I look better in person than in photos, ask Lilya.


i didnt mean yours specifically and simply the general okcupid way of taking photos, but if you want to take it that way ill play ball. Ive already talked about your specific pictures. Hire a better cameraman than michael j fox

funny, cause last I talked with her she was angry at you using her as a tool in making your points against me.



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04 Jan 2013, 2:03 pm

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Ive already talked about your specific pictures. Hire a better cameraman than michael j fox


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04 Jan 2013, 2:08 pm

MXH wrote:
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and dont forget to heavily editthose photos so they resemble nothing like your real self


That photo was taken on a webcam and apart from being brightened, that's all.

I have met people from here and gone on cam with people, some people have said I look better in person than in photos, ask Lilya.


i didnt mean yours specifically and simply the general okcupid way of taking photos, but if you want to take it that way ill play ball. Ive already talked about your specific pictures. Hire a better cameraman than michael j fox

funny, cause last I talked with her she was angry at you using her as a tool in making your points against me.


Wolf, you seem to have good features, but do bear in mind that I have never seen you live.

And MXH has a point, I'd much rather be kept out of these debates.


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04 Jan 2013, 2:46 pm

lol now who's lying here?



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04 Jan 2013, 6:09 pm

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I just read an article about this on the Huffington Post. I can't find it or else I'd include the link. I was interested in it because I've been thinking about how photos misrepresent reality. So this was about how you're supposed to accurately portray yourself or else you'll be more likely to bomb on your in-person date. Like that other poster said about the "curvy" girls and the angle pictures.

This one bit me where a gal I'd been messaging for some time turned out to be not "curvy" but absolutely enormous. :( Hiding it may get more initial responses but become a 1st-date deal-breaker! :( (To be fair, I gave it 3-4 tries...) Besides, there's always someone who's into your body shape, whatever it may be.



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04 Jan 2013, 6:20 pm

taking too long to answer on live chats, results in suspecting you of lying.

get a mirror of yourself or webcam view of yourself before you engage in live video/audio, so that you know what your actual facial expression appears like. The person on the other side commentated, you look serious and you are disappointed in what you see. I got my facial expression to be more relaxed as I watched my own facial expression during live chat.



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04 Jan 2013, 6:37 pm

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Here's a photo I took, notice I am dressed particularly well, I am well groomed and I have an intense look.


You should remember that not everybody is the same, so your "method" for taking photos to impress people will sometimes have the opposite of your desired effect.

To me, that photo screams "poser."

Your PVC jacket looks cheap, the way you tie your tie makes you look like a schoolboy, you're wearing earbuds that you couldn't be bothered to remove for two seconds to take a photo, your forced "intense" expression makes you look sulky, and why would you be wearing a jacket indoors, anyway? The whole thing just looks ridiculous and forced.

That is just my opinion. I am not trying to insult you; just trying to point out that, for some people, your elaborately staged photo screams "trying too hard" and is an example of how NOT to take a photo for a dating site.

I am sure some women would be attracted to your poses and will fall for your little scheme, and if that's all you want, so be it. Personally I would rather see natural, smiling, genuine photos of people who look like they are behaving like normal, relaxed human beings.



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04 Jan 2013, 7:16 pm

^ Yeah, his expression doesn't look intense to me. A splash of colour in your pics wouldn't hurt either, Wolf.



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04 Jan 2013, 10:47 pm

Girls, I think you're missing the point of this thread.

This thread is NOT about the OP. It's an advice thread for other guys. ;)



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04 Jan 2013, 10:48 pm

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04 Jan 2013, 11:42 pm

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Girls, I think you're missing the point of this thread.

This thread is NOT about the OP. It's an advice thread for other guys. ;)


yes, but whats the point of taking dieting advice from someone that weighs 500 lbs? Same concept applies to other types of advice



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04 Jan 2013, 11:54 pm

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M957dACQyfU[/youtube]

Gonna make sure I do that.



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04 Jan 2013, 11:58 pm

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I understand those people; plenty of girls there describe themselves as 'curvy' and take close up pics to make you think they're slender or normally curvy only to find out later they're totally round like Obelix.

Hey... thank you for making me LOL before going to sleep.

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This one bit me where a gal I'd been messaging for some time turned out to be not "curvy" but absolutely enormous. :( Hiding it may get more initial responses but become a 1st-date deal-breaker! :( (To be fair, I gave it 3-4 tries...) Besides, there's always someone who's into your body shape, whatever it may be.

Was it anything as bad as what I like to describe as "Jabba the Hutt's uglier sister"?



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05 Jan 2013, 12:01 am

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Ive already talked about your specific pictures. Hire a better cameraman than michael j fox


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Hey, I don't think it's too polite to make fun of Parkinson's disease. I had an aunt who had been suffering from it and passed away a month ago.



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05 Jan 2013, 12:43 am

machf wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I understand those people; plenty of girls there describe themselves as 'curvy' and take close up pics to make you think they're slender or normally curvy only to find out later they're totally round like Obelix.

Hey... thank you for making me LOL before going to sleep.

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This one bit me where a gal I'd been messaging for some time turned out to be not "curvy" but absolutely enormous. :( Hiding it may get more initial responses but become a 1st-date deal-breaker! :( (To be fair, I gave it 3-4 tries...) Besides, there's always someone who's into your body shape, whatever it may be.

Was it anything as bad as what I like to describe as "Jabba the Hutt's uglier sister"?


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Hey, I don't think it's too polite to make fun of Parkinson's disease. I had an aunt who had been suffering from it and passed away a month ago.


I guess you don't have an aunt who's morbidly obese huh?



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05 Jan 2013, 1:03 am

MXH wrote:
MCalavera wrote:
Girls, I think you're missing the point of this thread.

This thread is NOT about the OP. It's an advice thread for other guys. ;)


yes, but whats the point of taking dieting advice from someone that weighs 500 lbs? Same concept applies to other types of advice


Well at the end you don't even have a picture uploaded, you haven't met any girls from OkCupid. I have met girls from OkCupid, had sex, oral sex with them and met some great people. My photos have hundreds of likes on Facebook and thousands on Instagram so my photography skills must be a bit better than yours.

You speak as if you are going to join a dating site and be Russell Brand but the only reason you're not going to be him is because of money? Really? why don't you show us all how successful you are before being a critic?