Kindness automatically means I want sex?????

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This gal describes the modern mistrust/revulsion of all "nice guys" quite well.

Quite frankly, don't do anything for a pretty girl you wouldn't do for the other one beside her and the fat guy in the next cubicle (unless you're already in a relationship with her.)

I see what your saying MXH and I have encountered this issue before, but that's not what my issue is in this thread.

Your right to some degree though. Some people will try to use you, but once you stand up and let them know that you won't just roll over and take it, they tend to quit that behavior; as you have pretty much said.

Phenom....stay true to your nature.

I will stay true to mine.

My wish is always that one day, someone like you, will meet someone like me, and the two puzzle pieces will fit in.

I'm NT and have to agree with everyone here. I'm probably one of the people who would be put off by you actually! Deltafunction's right, unless I saw you being nice to everyone (in which case I'd just sign you off as a nice person, like I have for most of my guy friends) then I'd get the impression you were into me. I think it's just the age. Most young guys I've encountered are only nice to girls if they're looking to get laid and as a girl you learn to spot this pretty quickly and be wary of it. That's really all there is to it... unless I see you being as nice to everyone else, I'd be suspicious.

But they shouldn't be claiming you're gay because of it. That's just them being bitchy because their feelings got hurt, don't take it personally!

And I don't know if there's much you can do. Maybe talking about friends you have? One of the easiest ways of telling whether someone's into you or if they're just nice is if you drop mentions of your other friends and experiences, especially if they're female. So just something like "my friend Sarah and I did that..." or "my friend Amanda says the same thing...". It might sound a bit cheesy, and don't make it like you're bragging about your friend count or anything, but introducing the fact that you have female friends will make other girls see you as a friend figure more easily

I'm not sure, but doesn't this occur even more often to girls?

It has happened to me twice in the past two years that I really thought a girl was flirting with me. But in both cases, I later learned that she had a boyfriend, so it's unlikely that I she was actually flirting. Maybe they were just extraordinarily nice to me (not so many people are nice to me)..

Listen to MXH.

^^^ While it could've been handled a little more politely, I actually respect the idea that someone would purposely choose NOT to accept gifts from someone trying to gain their affection. She might've been vain to assume any friendly man is doing exactly that, but I find it rare that someone would actually have enough courtesy for others to not take a hopeful man's offerings!

[sigh] All too many would gladly take those offerings with a little flirt (with zero intention of following that up) encouraging the hopeful sap to continue bringing free goodies and services.
(note: not all - I shouldn't have to make this disclaimer every dang time!)