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02 Feb 2013, 6:13 pm

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So you should show us the picture before anything else.


I've begrudgingly put up one picture, but I'm not going to share it on the internet again. I'm not amazingly attractive - no one's going to look at my picture and go "WOW, HE'S AMAZINGLY HOT!", but it's a decent enough picture. It may also be kind of cheating, but it's a picture of me with my dog when he was a puppy, which I figured might get at least a few views and therefore a read of my profile!

hyperlexian - thanks for that, it's interesting.


THEN YOU ARE NOT READY YET FOR DATING WEBSITES!! !!

Go seek dates elsewhere.


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02 Feb 2013, 7:28 pm

Ok, so how do you message people with skimpy profiles who have nice photos? It's rare I find someone with whom I have something in common even on complete profiles. I'm sure I probably do. It's just not on their photos. The only thing I really have to go on is "am I attracted or not?" I'm not terribly picky and actually avoid classic "hot girls." But, without something in common, it still doesn't work well.

A lot of women on POF don't put much up on their profiles and say something like "If you want to know something about me, ask." Lol, f**k. What's that supposed to mean?



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02 Feb 2013, 7:47 pm

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A lot of women on POF don't put much up on their profiles and say something like "If you want to know something about me, ask." Lol, f**k. What's that supposed to mean?


There are good and bad things about short profile. People with extremely long profiles tend to be too picky. Those with very short are unlikely to be taking the online dating very seriously. These people probably made the profile on a whim when they were bored or in need of a confidence boost.

If I were you just focus on the ones in the middle ground although my 'guide' above will help with all sorts of profiles. If you like the look of someone or their profile message them anyway.



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03 Feb 2013, 12:22 pm

Tyri0n wrote:
Ok, so how do you message people with skimpy profiles who have nice photos? It's rare I find someone with whom I have something in common even on complete profiles. I'm sure I probably do. It's just not on their photos. The only thing I really have to go on is "am I attracted or not?" I'm not terribly picky and actually avoid classic "hot girls." But, without something in common, it still doesn't work well.

A lot of women on POF don't put much up on their profiles and say something like "If you want to know something about me, ask." Lol, f**k. What's that supposed to mean?




They will get tons of messages either way; so why they would put anything in their profiles?



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03 Feb 2013, 4:52 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Tyri0n wrote:
Ok, so how do you message people with skimpy profiles who have nice photos? It's rare I find someone with whom I have something in common even on complete profiles. I'm sure I probably do. It's just not on their photos. The only thing I really have to go on is "am I attracted or not?" I'm not terribly picky and actually avoid classic "hot girls." But, without something in common, it still doesn't work well.

A lot of women on POF don't put much up on their profiles and say something like "If you want to know something about me, ask." Lol, f**k. What's that supposed to mean?




They will get tons of messages either way; so why they would put anything in their profiles?


pretty much this. Actually I got a ton more attention when i had a blank profile. Like not even askme, simply blank.



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05 Feb 2013, 3:30 am

I've actually had some interest, despite not looking like George Clooney and actually revealing some details about myself on my profile. I'm talking to a nice girl and have messaged a couple of others who I had a lot in common with.



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05 Feb 2013, 3:34 am

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"If you want to know something about me, ask." Lol, f**k. What's that supposed to mean?

Guys say that a lot too. I just ignore such people. It's a rather lazy, egotistical, annoying thing to say.



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05 Feb 2013, 3:36 am

yellowtamarin wrote:
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"If you want to know something about me, ask." Lol, f**k. What's that supposed to mean?

Guys say that a lot too. I just ignore such people. It's a rather lazy, egotistical, annoying thing to say.

it is lazy, i see it used mostly by peoplewho arent actually interested in the site or by people who understand that nobody was going to read that anyways.



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06 Feb 2013, 9:33 am

Or use trolling


Image

The context in her profile was:
"I am awfully greedy, I want everything from life. I want to be a woman and to be a man, to have many friends and to have loneliness, to work much and write good music, to travel and enjoy myself, to be selfish and to be unselfish ... You see, it is difficult to get all what which I want. And then when I don't succeed I get mad with anger."

Sometimes it works.....but I only use it on people I am not intending to date.