some lady got mad at me

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and I have had women ''holler'' at me before. I had a woman told me I had a nice ass.
there been a few times, when I walk by or riding my bike, or running and had women say some sexual stuff towards me.
are these women ''creepy''. when I went to my karate class I would roller blade there and there was these two young female that I went by them they would go ''yeah, you are hot''.

but I just ignore it and don't dwell on it. I just think ''just a bunch of dumb girls'' and go on.

I'm sure you would like this video and track.
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billiscool, just because you had a certain reaction when women said things to you doesn't mean that women have to have the same reaction when you say things to them. you cannot change their reactions, but you can change your own actions that led to the reactions. and you can understand these women better.

In my case when I'd try making eye contact with women, back when I was obese and didn't shave everyday, didn't wear nice clothes, had worse posture, women would similarly be "mad" when I looked at them. Now like 90+% of the time my interactions are a lot more pleasant just from making those external changes. Posture might be a bigger one. When you work out, do you do any deadlifting or front squats? Those tend to correct posture, that and stretching hip flexors, hamstrings, back, etc. The front squat position eliminates your shoulders rolling in, though.

I wish I could say "Yeah it's your personality" but in this scenario it's probably just looks/posture. At least that's how it worked for me. This sorta has nothing to do with successful relationships, but does make day to day life easier getting the slight bits of validation instead of eye rolls and whatnot.

I don't care if a man checks me out but if a guy said the stuff you did I'd be irritated too. It's almost a feeling of, "Who do you think you are saying that s**t to me and you don't even really know me?" And I'm sorry but depending on if she was model-gorgeous, she may have been irritated because you might not have been the first person to catcall her that day and because some women get more irritated if it's a man they perceive to not be as good looking as them - not "in their league". Not all women do and I don't condone it but it's the truth. To a point it almost feels to some like an entitlement thing - who are you to catcall to me when 1. You don't know me 2. I'm out of your league and 3. You have no idea if I have a boyfriend/husband/girlfriend/partner? They feel like you're acting entitled to them and objectifying their body.

I'd be mad too because it means he's only interested in my appearance, most likely in a sexual way which is disrespectful. Most of my friends get mad too because those guys that holler out loud in the streets only want sex and it's degrading to do that and worse in public.

Maybe you should try a different approach??? Perhaps something like, "I'm sorry, I can't help staring. You are really attractive." instead of making moaning noises and swearing. Myself, as a female, would respond in more of a positive manner to that, than *oooooh, damn, hot...* Just a suggestion.

Saying you were "staring" is creepy still. Just tell the girl something like, "Wow, you're pretty!" or something. Watch the tone of voice, too; you dont want to sound sarcastic.

There are many factors and possibilities in the scenario, one possibility is that she probably thought you were being sarcastic, another is that she is having a bad day and didn't want to hear utter shouting of compliments and taking it as sexist insults, third might be she's heard a lot of it and is tired of it. It might have creeped her out too since she doesn't know you as well. My advice is if you see a hotty get a good look walk away and don't say anything and go about your business and she goes about hers. Also just because a woman is hot doesn't necessarily mean she is going to be nice to you. Some women will scowl at you for just saying hi and waving. Complete and total indifference is the key.

Very few people enjoy being eyed like a piece of meat.

Your, "daaayyyumm guuurrlll" approach will only work in two very rare instances:
a) she's desperate for validation from others and needs every reason possible to think of themselves as attractive, AND
b) you're so smokin' hot, yourself, that women are fighting each other to get at you (and would therefore be taken as a compliment instead of an insult.)

You could always say hey how about coming to my place for pizza and sex what's the matter you don't like pizza? If she gets really mad after that get ready to run for your life with a trollface on!